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] Date Posted: 10/01/07 14:42 In reply to: sweetsong 's message, "friendship" on 4/01/07 12:26 You don't sound like a loser. I have never thought anyone else can complete us. Not friends, family or even a spouse.We are complete in ourselves and these other people are welcome happy additions to our lives but not competions of our person. Just my opinion though. I know lot's of people who feel a spouse is the completion of a person but I just don't agree with that. Pilgrim [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Lilly from the Valley [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 11/01/07 8:22 Hello sweetsong - poor you. No wonder you are feeling down. Loving someone who doesnt love you is very painful. He obviously doesnt have the feelings for you that you do for him and you need to let go, particularly as he is looking forward to his marriage. Sometimes we cling on to things in desperation and fear of being alone but you never know what might be round the corner. I went through a very bad divorce a few years back and at my age with a child I really thought that I would be on my own for the rest of my life. I did a lot of work on building my esteem and confidence back up and actually got on with life, resigning myself to the fact that it was just me now. Then one day, a friendship turned to romance and we are now happily living together as a family. Dont waste your love or energy on this man anymore. Become strong on your own - as Pilgrim very wisely says, we dont need anyone else to make us feel complete. YOU are a wonderful person in your own right and have the power to do anything you want. Get a social life that doesnt involve being around this man - take up a hobby or sport, you'll meet loads of new people and feel better for it. As for friends, I am honoured to say that I have lots. However, I cant say I have any one 'special' friend as such - I value them all and they are all special to me. Take care hun & although its scary as one of the quotes on this website says "Why not go out on a limb? Thats where the fruit is". Be brave & you will move on to great things. Blessings Lil [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |