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] Date Posted: 30/08/07 18:56 ok, here's a kind of weired thing.... 3 years ago, my Nan and Grandad gave me the money to buy myself a 'new' car... as i was looking for one because my then mini had almost given up the ghost! I went and bought a 10 year old mini sprite which i have treasured ever since.... but now the time has come when i am spending money on mini to keep her maintained, and although a lot of the stuff is small stuff, it still adds up. I went to have a look at another mini yesterday with the scope of maybe part exchanging my mini in, which the man said he would do, the newer mini is beautiful and i would honestly say is in better condition, younger, less mileage etc etc.... but i have this emotional heart string thing happening, that somehow i'm not doing the right thing. as most of you know, my grandparents passed over last year and although i can imagine grandad saying 'you really need to update your car' (as he has said in the recent past!).. i have never even considered letting it go. i have looked at all options, and someone suggested i keep my mini and buy the other one with scope of 'doing the older one up' but financially i only have the money to do one or the other. and i know in my heart of hearts that buying the newer one is the more sensible option. however , a couple of things have happened in the last 24 hours to make me very emotional and confused. last night i dreamt of the days that my nan and grandad passed away, i have only seen them as healthy and happy in my dreams before now, and today, when i arranged to have a test drive of the newer car, the man said to me that if i want it he can have it ready to pick up next wednesday , which is the 1 year anniversary of grandad's passing over. maybe i'm being silly because of the time of year, but i'm all over the place emitionally and almost on the verge of tears even just typing this, and i know i'll cry when i let my little car go. I really don't know what to do. i keep trying to tell myself they would be happy for me and proud that i have spent a bit of their inheritance on this , but something deep down , like a gut feeling , tells me 'no' i feel guilty. what shall i do? love sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Awen [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 30/08/07 20:32 Oh Sam...perhaps it would be best to keep hold of your car for a little while longer...until you feel a bit stronger emotionally?? Don't jump into it...you'll find another car you like...maybe this certain car isn't for you..... Awen x [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 31/08/07 8:27 I know how much an object can mean when it was a gift from someone we love. I'm sure your grandparents would want you to be in a safe reliable vehicle though. Maybe it being ready on that particular day was their way of saying that they have had a hand in arranging for this new car for you. Don't feel guilty whichever way you decide. I know they wouldn't want that. Be happy and joyful in whatever you decide. Blessings. Pilgrim [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: jade [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 31/08/07 8:55 I think that we can get attached to objects probably a little too much, the sentiment you feel I dont think will be lessened even if you didnt have the car, take a pic of it maybe, at the end of the day your heart will tell you what you need to do. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 31/08/07 11:20 i had a good old cry last night,slept very well,and woke up with more of a 'go for it' type feeling inside of me this morning. so, i'm going for a test drive this afternoon. wish me luck peeps. by tonight i will know. love sam oh...and ps thanke so much for the advice ... it helped a lot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Wolfsdream [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 31/08/07 19:03 Whatever happens Sam I hope it is for the best and all works out well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 1/09/07 2:06 Well how did it go? [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel (yay) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 2/09/07 22:41 it went very well thank you!! the drive was beautiful, and i came to an immediate decision.... i must have this car!!! mini is going in part exchange to be 'done up' and re sold to someone who will love her just as much as i have over the last 3 years!! and on wednesday i swap cars over and come home in a 2000 mini cooper. with an airbag and an immobiliser!! which grandad would have been relieved about!!! so i leave you all for the time being, settled in my ways.... now..... where did i put my log book!!? lol love sam xxxxxxxxxxxx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 3/09/07 17:22 That's wonderful! Glad you are getting a new car. I'm sure this is a dumb question but ....What's an immobiliser? [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 3/09/07 18:21 You've done the right thing sis - and it's a lovely mini :D x [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 4/09/07 21:00 pil. an immobiliser is just a posh alarm, but i think if the car is attempted to be hotwired, it immobilises itself so it's going nowhere!! having a bad day today so i'll go for now love to all sam xxx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Earth-Fire [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 5/09/07 10:35 Hugs and kisses Sam, bad days are yucky :( [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 5/09/07 14:00 Thanks for replying about the immobiliser. Sounds really cool. Sorry your haveing a tough day. Your in my thoughts. ((((hugs)))) [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel (wahoo) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 5/09/07 22:32 well, i am now the proud owner of a cherry red mini cooper 1300i !!! have already set the alarm off by accident!! as you do ! i think nan and grandad would have been proud of me! it's one year since grandad passed over today so i haven't had the best emotionally!! but.... i think he would have loved the car and i lit a candle and wrote a message to him on www.gratefulness.org a grand website. love and hugs to you all night night sam xx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 5/09/07 22:44 Congrats on the car. ((((Hugs)))) I'm sure your Grandfather is pleased. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |