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Subject: Autism subject


Author:
Heather Berryhill
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Date Posted: 17:45:56 10/09/07 Tue
Dear Kellie,

Got one and their is nothing wrong with him. What is really interesting is that when my husband and I were babies both of our mom's said we did the very same thing (hand and feet flapping) Harrison is my 8 year old (He has allergies alot) and Hayden is my 14 month old. He does the hand and feet thing and is totally normal. He does not walk yet either. He scoots on his bottom with one foot out to the side, like a crab. It's hilarious. So don't worry, just enjoy her. They are only this age once. Besides the Bible says we are not to worry. I know you know that. Cast your cares on Him and enjoy every minute you have. She's fine!

Much love from Tyler, Texas (Heather)

PS. Love all that you do for Kidds Kids. We are major Disney fanatics we are leaving in 2 weeks for our trip. Someday we'll go in Nov. and see you there.
Subject: My Daughter didn


Author:
Shannon
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Date Posted: 17:26:58 10/09/07 Tue
Subject: <3 kellies worries


Author:
jamie (sad)
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Date Posted: 17:06:17 10/09/07 Tue
hey kellie,
i just wanted to tell u that i was listening this morning when u were talking about your worries about emma kelly being autistic, and i started bawling. i actually had to go in the bathroom at work cuz i was crying so bad, but ill get to that in a minute. first of all, dont worry so much, my son did the hand flapping when he was that age. he also didnt crawl, he did kinda the army crawl for the longest time. and finally when he was 14 months old he just started walking. and even if she is autistic theres really nothing u can do about it right now, just take what god hands u and go with it. my son turned out perfectly fine by the way. its a good sign that shes babbling so much tho.
as for the reason i was bawling, i just found out last night that my friends son, who is the same age as my son (8) has a brain tumor on his brain stem, and the drs. say theres nothing that they can do. theyre going to do radiation but that will only shrink it and maybe give him more time. there was no sign of this until sunday afternoon. he was outside playing and came in and said he felt sick to his stomach, she cuddled with him on the couch for the rest of the day just thinking he was coming down with a stomach virus and sent him to bed as normal. around 2am he came in her room barely able to walk or talk so she rushed him to the hospital. she said it was like he was drunk or something. at the hospital they airlifted him to uw-madison hospital. monday morning they told her the news. all i could think as i was being told about this was but for the grace of god, that could be my son. i just had to share that with u cuz that was my reaction to your story this morning. i will be praying for u, and i hope that emma kelly is just fine and that u r just over-worrying as mothers do. im sure shes fine, just a little behind what the books say is normal. much love and keep up being a good mama!!!!
Subject: autism


Author:
anonymous
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Date Posted: 16:09:29 10/09/07 Tue
We are very lucky to have people like Jenny McCarthy that speak up and make people aware of such illnesses as autism. I hope her statements make the CDC aware that one size doesn't fit all with immunizations. There are probably many mothers and children that she has helped my appearing on "every freaking talkshow". As far as your daughter goes, Kelly, speak to your pediatrician about her developemental issues. All children are different. How are her other motor skills developing?
Subject: :-) Passion for Cooking on Sundays!


Author:
Erika
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Date Posted: 16:06:23 10/09/07 Tue
Kelly,

I was reading your note regarding cooking...since you have Sundays free you should google some power cooking ideas! You basically spend a couple of hours on 1 day cooking for all week and then freeze it until your ready to heat and serve!
Subject: kellies diary


Author:
pam
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Date Posted: 15:13:58 10/09/07 Tue
i heard the kellies diary this morning at work and i wanted to say that i felt similar reations to yours when i was pregnant the first time and now im feeling that again now but i hope for the best for you and your baby girl! either way shes still a blessing from god and ur doing a great job!
Subject: Autism


Author:
Lauren
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Date Posted: 14:26:12 10/09/07 Tue
When I read your blog today (like I do everyday) I was so struck by how similar we felt about that show. My son is 8 months old almost 9 months and I find myself now watching him closely. My pedi didn't tell me the possible side effects from the MMR shot... so now I wonder was that the right decision, or when he plays with his toys why does he only pay attention to one thing. I think as first time mommies we worry about everything from the food we give them to the new and latest toys, its just natural. I think that you sound like a awesome mommy and Emma Kelly just loves to take her time. Just don't worry!
Lauren Lawson
Subject: Kelly's Diary


Author:
Christina
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Date Posted: 13:59:35 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie, I have an autistic nephew, my sister and I are very close and I have been to lots of Autism conferences with her. I have also researched it for my research papers I have to write for my master's in counseling. All this to say, please ask me any questions concerning autism you may have, hopefully I can put your mind at ease! With my nephew, we knew something was wrong almost from the start, about a few weeks old, we just didn't know what. So please email me if you want!
Subject: Kellie's Diary


Author:
BJ (Smile :))
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Date Posted: 13:52:38 10/09/07 Tue
All babies flap their arms...dont stress about it. It seems silly to you because you are an adult to worry so much about this without reason...but you are still a new mother. Don't read too much into the things she does or doesnt do...no matter the end result she is your daughter and you will love her with all your heart. But I believe that you will one day be looking back on this...and think about what a hysterical mother you were being :)
Subject: Kellie's diary


Author:
Beth Moore
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Date Posted: 13:46:46 10/09/07 Tue
Ok Kelly, we need to STOP watching these information shows! I have a 15 YEAR OLD son who is gregarious, adorable, and smart and I started wondering if he had autism because he is a slow reader and is a terrible test taker! You can go absolutely crazy thinking your children have everything that's out there! TOO MUCH INFORMATION these days!!!! I have three children. Two of them walked at 14 months. My son has mild learning challenges in school and my daughter is an excellent student - there is just no way to tell what the future holds, just enjoy that baby, it really does go sooo fast!!! REMEMBER, many more BOYS get autism then girls, I sure EK is FINE! I love your brutal honesty - you say so many things I think we all feel! Keep praying!!
Subject: Your Blog


Author:
Christina (Wow)
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Date Posted: 13:23:35 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie,

When I heard your diary this morning, I wanted to cry. I totally understand how you feel. If it makes you feel any better, I didn't crawl until I was almost a year old, and I didn't walk until I was 18 months old. My mom would have people tell her the same things you hear. And, people would tell her, "well, at least Christina is trying to talk even if she can't walk." Everyone is different. Emma Kellie will be fine. She's a beautiful little girl, and you are one lucky mom.
Subject: Pictures


Author:
Crystal Johnson
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Date Posted: 13:10:53 10/09/07 Tue
Hi I think that all your pictures are great and you have a beautiful daughter.I wanted to know what kind of camera you use to take your pictures?
Subject: Big Hug to You


Author:
Butterfly
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Date Posted: 12:19:21 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie,

I have a worrying nature and a daughter, so I can relate to your anxiety. My daughter is now three years old, and I have come to realize that I will always worry about her, because that is parenthood. My daughter walked around 11 months, but my niece did not walk until she was about 14 or 15 months old. My nephew did not walk until he was almost 18 months old. All of the children are fine, but they just developed at different rates. So Emma Kellie is just developing on her own terms. Give your worries to God, and let Him take control of this for you. I will keep you & your beautiful baby in my prayers. May God bless you!
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Subject: Emma Kelly


Author:
Amanda
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Date Posted: 12:10:59 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie,
I have an almost 23 month old daughter. I'm a first time mom so I worried (and worry) about everything! She started banging her head against the cabinets, wall, etc when she was probably 6 months old or so. I worried about autism, of course, but she eventually grew out of that stage.
A few months ago, she started "hitting at" any other babies she saw (in person or on tv). I never really thought of it as hand flapping, but I guess that's what she's doing. At first she did it constantly. Now she's starting to slack off. I think it's just an emotional response to seeing other babies. She interacts with us, shows emotion, laughs, cuddles, talks (a lot!)- all that good stuff, so I'm not too concerned.
I'm sure Emma Kelly is just a happy, healthy baby who can't express her emotions like we do, so she uses her hands to show her happiness.
As far as the not walking thing, I was a late walker. I think somewhere around 15 months. And I turned out ok.
I know new moms worry about everything. I do. I worry every time a mosquito bites her that she'll have encephalitis (and I live in Louisiana so there's no avoiding them!). I worry about lead paint now. I use those lead check tests all the time on her toys. I'm an obsessive mom!
I'm not turning this into a post about me. I guess what I'm trying to say is I know what you're going through. And Kidd was right this morning saying that you'll worry about her forever. I know I will about mine! It's normal. :-)
You say she's a people pleaser, so she obviously interacts and loves being around people. I wouldn't really worry too much about it.
Subject: :-) Emma Kellie


Author:
Heidi
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Date Posted: 12:05:23 10/09/07 Tue
I just want to give you a hug. It will be allright, no matter what the outcome, you still have a beautiful baby. My daughter who is now 26 did not walk or do anything until her first bday. The dr said in due time, and sure enough she was just being lazy, SHE STILL IS. I know that it is easy to say it will be okay but you are an amazing mom and this is just a little bump in the long road of being a parent. I thought the kindness that all your fellow radio people showed you was amazing. They are truly compassionate and you are blessed to have them. Just keep your chin up and take it easy on yourself.
Subject: What does Freddie think?


Author:
ange
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Date Posted: 11:48:30 10/09/07 Tue
He has other kids so he has been thru this baby stage right? Does he have the same concerns?
Subject: :-) Emma Kelly


Author:
Meagan
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Date Posted: 11:45:01 10/09/07 Tue
Wow, I wonder how much easier life as a mother would have been back in the 20's before they knew what any of this stuff was and before they knew to worry about it. Now the world has mothers running around with their heads cutt off afraid to do anything because they are afraid to look back and be belittled or yelled at for doing the wrong thing. Dont give your kids shell fish before 2, dont feed them solids before 6 months dont dont dont. There are too many to keep up with, there are too many things to worry about. So here for you is a happy thought. My son, who is now 6 did the same thing till he was almost two. He also at 6, still sucks his thumb. He has to sleep on the same pillow suck his thumb, and be holding on to some material, be it a blanket, a shirt, or my hair lol, in order to fall asleep comfortably. Although the thumb sucking drives me insane and I try at great lengths to stop it, There isnt a thing wrong with him except the fact that he is stubborn and he wants to do his things HIS way. When he was a baby, I was so scared. I didnt think he would live. He spent the first 6 months of his life in hospitals, loosing weight, getting sicker, and no one knew what was wrong. I listened to the doctors, I did what they said to do, feed him what they said to feed him. He didnt get better. I found out later they thought I had Munchousen syndrom, ya know the one where you hurt your kids just so you can get attention. But we went to the docs one day and were told he had atrophy of the brain. Atrophy is where ur muscles rot and deteriorate. So you can imagine as a first time new mother I was terrified. You know what I did? I said forget yall, I started doing what I wanted with him, feeding him what I wanted, and taking him where I wanted. I took him too church had the preacher put holy oil on him and pray and the next day we went back and there was no trace of anything wrong with him. He started gaining weight and is now a completly happy healthy little boy. You know what I think. God put me through that to strengthen me. This kid is either gonna be somethin great or something terror like :-) lol, and whatever is in store I need strength conviction, and that special love I think a parent only gets when they are truely in fear of there childs life or well fare. Maybe Emma Kelly is bound for greatness and God is just strengthening you!!!! Smile through it, Love her harder, hold her tighter, and be happy for your miracle, and quit worrying so much. Save all that worry for important things like what in the heck is clogging the kitchen sink now?????? All My Love, I think you ALL ROCK, Meagan. P.S. please tell Big Al Im a sexy mama, single and I think he is friggen awesome HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHa see smile its good for U!!!!!
Subject: Autism


Author:
carollyn
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Date Posted: 11:31:42 10/09/07 Tue
Hi Kellie...
Don't let hand flapping bother you so bad. My daughter has always done that, especially when she gets out of the bath tub. She is almost 7 and still does it a little. She's a perfectly normal and happy little girl. She has been a little slow developementally wise and didn't start talking till she was almost 4. She is a little behind other children, but it's no cause for concern. Every child is different in his or her own way. Give your little one time and she'll achieve the developemental milestones soon enough. Enjoy her and quit worrying!
Subject: <3 Try and relax


Author:
Tammy (Sympathetic)
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Date Posted: 10:45:42 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie,
When my daughter was a baby, lots of people worried that she didn't walk before she turned a year old. She pretty much did the GI Joe crawl when she needed to get somewhere she couldn't get to on her own. She would walk holding someone's hand after she turned about a year old, but she didn't walk by herself until 15 months old. When she did start walking, she seemed to fall a lot.

My pediatrician (bless his heart) kept telling me it was nothing to worry about. From about six months old to when she started to walk, she was in the top 25% of her weight group (but not height). Then, from the time she was walking, she was always in the top 25% of her height group (but not weight).

My doctor said he had three girls that were all tall, and they kind of had the same "disadvantage" when learning to walk. Sometimes as they get taller, it just takes a while for them to learn to balance everything.

As a parent, you hate to see them fall, so it's easy to keep wanting to scoop them up. Plus, it's hard not to want to hold them all the time when they're all hugs, kisses and smiles.

When my daughter did start walking on her own, it's like she had been doing it forever. Just took off out of her little chair to go to her grandmother. She did that just like she's done every other milestone since then - on her own schedule.

My daughter is now 19 years old, 5',11" and about 125 lbs. She is (thank God) perfectly healthy. She's also extremely bright, independent (aka hard-headed) and strong-willed. Those were the signs I should have seen that were there all along INSTEAD OF the potential "what if's".

I know it's extremely hard, but try to be patient, and just let Emma Kellie come into her own on her own time. Enjoy the little moments that are all too fleeting. If (God forbid) there is something medically "wrong", your faith, family and friends will sustain you. Before you know it, you'll blink and she'll be all grown-up.

All my best!
Tammy
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Subject: Autism


Author:
Barbi (Worried too...)
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Date Posted: 10:57:10 10/09/07 Tue
Hi,
My son does the same thing and has been since he was able to move. He is now five. His first doctor said he had Asbergers which is still an uncertain and unfamiliar condition. He was in Early Childhood Intervention (ECI) until he was three. He has social and motor skill problems. He was seeing a psyciatrist for a while and was put on Stratera but I took him off since I did not see a difference after about 7 months. He plays his games standing because he is always moving and twisting and sometimes causes him to lose his game but it is ok. I have caught him several times starring blank going through this twisting and even his face gets all twisted. I timed him for one minute and finally clap to get him out of the trance. It worries me too but the doctors never listen to me. I feel sad for him because in my heart I feel I am missing something and not doing anything about it. He is sometimes treated mean by other kids because they do not understand. I worry that this may cause major problems in the future and it will be my fault that I did not catch it. Please tell your doctor and make him/her listen to you. It may not be anything but there have been several people tell me that they think my son needs to be examined completely. Caregivers, teachers, and other parents. However, he is very smart. He knew his ABC's before he turned two and knew the planets before he was three of course with a little help from Baby Insteins. I can deffinately relate to your position and feelings as a mother. Go with your heart and don't be afraid. God gives special children to special mothers. My mother always tells me that. God Bless!
Barbi
Subject: Emma Kelly


Author:
DeeDee
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Date Posted: 10:33:30 10/09/07 Tue
First to start off, Kelly you have such a beautiful daughter, and I enjoy your proud pictures that you post. I read your last entry about your worries on autism. I wouldn't worry, every child developes differently and does different things. I have a 7 year old, who is beautiful and smart, and when she was a baby I use to worry like you also. My daughter began to crawl one week before her first birthday. Crawl not walk. I was so worried, but then it just took off from there. She's an only child, and sometimes I think that effected it also. I wouldn't worry too much, just let her develope at her own speed, enjoy her while she's little, because they grow up fast.
Subject: autism


Author:
Laura
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Date Posted: 10:21:51 10/09/07 Tue
Hi,
I would so not be worried. My 2nd son has been doing the wrist twist and flap since he was in the womb. He is now 16 months old and still does it, but a little less. It was his expression for everything. He looked like he was revving his motorcycle. I really would not worry about. However, that is easier said than done - especially since I am so not a worrier. Emma Kelly is just enjoying life and taking it all in.
Laura
Subject: Emma Kelly


Author:
Julie
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Date Posted: 10:14:04 10/09/07 Tue
Dear Kellie-
I would check with your pediatrician and then not worry about it. Just sit back and enjoy all the joy and amazement a person that size can bring. She will never be that age again wondering about her fingers and toes. Both of my kids never did things at the right time or where behind when they were supposed to walk or crawl. It means nothing!!!! I walked when I was 9 months old, but can't seem to walk without falling at 40+. I think, we as moms, are under so much pressure to have the smartest, cutest, super whatever baby that we forget to just enjoy them. If there is some health problem later down the road then start the worry. Don't mess with these memories now worrying about something beyond your control or might not exist. A child with a health problem does not make you a bad mother. Don't worry, be happy and give baby Emma a huge hug when you go home and stop watching Oprah.
Subject: >;-) Autism


Author:
Crystal (Optimistic)
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Date Posted: 09:38:33 10/09/07 Tue
Kellie, Hey I just wanted to tell ya that I have a 8 month old baby boy that seems to be doing to the same things that your baby is doing....He moves is wrist around non-stop all the time...he also has only been sitting up good for like maybe a month are so and seems to have desire to crawl....i have noticed that he may be doing things a little later in life than most babies...Autism did cross my mind but i worked at a day care for 5 years and being around all kinds of babies i have learned that they do things when THEY are ready and not when we would like them to....I think that maybe you should relax and not worry....I have seen babies not walk until like 15 months...and they are fine now....hope this kinda eases your mind...there are other babies out there doing the same thing as yours......love ya girl
Subject: *!* autism


Author:
Jenny (You must have hope!)
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Date Posted: 09:37:45 10/09/07 Tue
Kelly,
I just wanted to try and give you some comfort in your worries. I think you are truely and amazing woman and mother ! Your love for your daugher is such a beautiful thing. please try and turn to the Word of God for comfort for your worries. I dont' want to sound like i'm beating you with a bible ...but if you are a Christian then you will truely find joy and hope in the Lord.

Also lol on the discovery channel ( not discovery health) there is a show called birth through the first year or something like...that is really awesome and it really explains shows studies of how all different types of children develope. Some children NEVER crawl. I nannied a little girl who laid on her back and scooted her legs to get her from point a to point b. She didn't start walking till she was like 15months. I worked with her daily and we had so much fun. Her mom was so worried about it that she took her to physical thereapy to calm her fears and get some advice on encouraging her to talk.
Sorry this was so long i told myself not to make it too long.

Following Him,
Jenny
Matthew 6:34
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. [NIV]

Psalms 34:4
I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.

1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
Subject: Emma Kelly


Author:
Shanon
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Date Posted: 09:33:25 10/09/07 Tue
Hey Kellie,
I was listening to the show this morning. I can so understand the fears of a first time mom. I feel that in todays world we put way to many pressures on our children to be a certain way. I feel that yes talk to her doctor, voice your concerns, but I don't think that Emma Kelly is lacking in any developmental ways. I am not an expert all I have are my own experiences and my children were late walkers, crawlers, and talkers. And yes they flapped their hands and are so far "normal". I received tons of your child isn't walking yet but so and so's child is. As a mom I think we some what buy into it for fear our children are not normal. But in the end I think it is our children who teach us the most in life. If nothing else to slow down and enjoy what is around you at your pace.
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