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Date Posted: 12:35:12 03/01/06 Wed
Author: tg
Subject: Re: love gone wrong
In reply to: chrys 's message, "love gone wrong" on 20:33:01 02/28/06 Tue

Yeah she did I just noticed.

"Cry if you want to cry"

ha

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[> Re: love gone wrong -- 23, 12:52:32 03/01/06 Wed [1]

"lol i don't know what my problem is it's like part of me is disgusted w/myself for getting that way, but who can ever help these things???"

Why are you disgusted with yourself for falling in love? Do you see that as a weakness in yourself or something? I think it's a strength. Guarding yourself from reality by denying your feelings is weakness. Opening up to them and being who you really are is strength. How is it a bad thing to be someone who loves others easily? If only the rest of the world had that same problem, Chrys, I think we would all be much better off.

I think you and I are a lot alike in this way. Rachel and I told eachother we loved eachother just a month or so into our romantic relationship (we were friends for awhile before that). It was terrifying to say it for fear that it wouldn't be reciprocated, but I would hate to think where I would be right now had I walked away based on that fear.

Embrace your feelings. And like I said, if you get rejected or this turns sour, you'll get over it and eventually be a better person for it down the line. And if nothing else, you'll have plenty of stuff to write about....
:)

What you should do now? I'm not sure, but I'll tell you what I would do. I would take a nice walk over to his place, thinking about exactly what I want to say to him on the way there. Try to gauge how important all of this is to you, and figure out how much of yourself you're willing to put on the line to try to fix this relationship. Then tell him how you feel. I can only guesstimate where he's coming from based on what you've written here, but unless he's already mentally moved on, I think he will only be happy to hear what you have to say.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck.

And lastly, don't beat yourself up over any of this, regardless of how it turns out. There are no guide books telling us how to love and interact with one another. We're all flying by the seat of our pants, gleaning whatever bits and pieces of information we can from various sources around us. Some of us have built-in handicaps based on the relationships we grew up around and it takes some time and effort to move past those patterns.

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