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Date Posted: 23:30:41 03/01/06 Wed
Author: LastingOne
Subject: Re: love gone wrong
In reply to: chrys 's message, "love gone wrong" on 20:33:01 02/28/06 Tue

Like I told Chico, you should really give yourself the grace to feel and be in this situation. Love and relationships are such a physical, mental, and energetic rollercoaster that we tend to react without logical reasoning...

or we tend to overcompensate with too much reasoning...

Vulnerability is scary. Nobody wants to hear any negativity from another person, especially with a situation that has been so electrifying yet frustrating. There are ways to address a situation without attacking the other person, which can lead to a snowball effect of defensiveness and catastrophizing.

If you want honest answers, just remember not to say statements like "You made me feel..." or "You did this..." for he will most likely shutdown and your frustration will only explode. Things like "I feel that when we are together, the energy and atmosphere is very tense (etc). I feel anxious and frsutrated (etc). Is that how you feel? Do you have suggestions on how to make the situation less tense?"

Good luck to you. Its never easy, but you'll never know until you ask!

Peace to you,
C

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[> Re: love gone wrong -- chico781, 23:34:20 03/01/06 Wed [1]

You need to do this for yourself so that you're at peace with all of this, no matter what that brings. I wish you all the luck in the world and use this as a growing experience.

Sergio

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