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Date Posted: 11:47:26 11/04/06 Sat
Author: Joshua Testasecca (WSU)
Subject: Sex -- When is one ready?

If only there was some type of quiz one could take to determine if they are ready to participate in intercourse with their significant other. Unfortunately for many teens worldwide, there isn’t. Being ready for sex isn’t some cut and dry set of terms and conditions. The readability for sex comes within one’s beliefs and the current standing of their relationship. However, there are a few things that should be considered. All of the advice is assuming a male-female couple that is exclusive to each other.

First off, let’s face it, guys take advantage of girls, and girls take advantage of guys – a common ‘hit it and quit it’ mentality. One of the main things is simply letting time work on the two of you. You’ll want to know, trust, and feel comfortable with your partner through and through, to make sure you are not being ‘played’, or used for sex alone.

Second off, there is no time limit on when it is okay. Some people may feel fully comfortable after a few weeks; some may not for months, years, or even wait till marriage. If you feel you’re ready, be sure to know what your partner is feeling as well. If they want to wait till marriage, respect that, and continue as things were.

Thirdly, don’t try to rush it. Sometimes getting ‘caught up in the moment’ will lead to intercourse, rather being the first time or not, and that’s okay. But sometimes, if one isn’t sure with them self, this can be a huge regret. Make sure your partner knows where you stand, and don’t be afraid to say no. Anyone who doesn’t respect that isn’t worth your time.

Fourthly, if you are ready, and you’re going to go through with it, make sure you’re prepared. Have protection, be safe, and be knowledgeable. I know in high school most of the risks get pounded into your head, so it’ll be hard to forget, just don’t get caught in the moment and bypass some of these key safety measures.

Lastly, the first time (especially if one or both of you are virgins, and may be more than just the first) will most likely not be a romantic scene of lust and passion as movies or books may say. It’s likely to be awkward. For virgins, it’s a new experience altogether, some high discomfort may be in store for the girl, and getting your bodies used to each other may take a little time. But as long as mentally you feel ready and comfortable, this will pass quickly over time.

I’m not claming to be some expert on sexual activity, as I can assure you I’m not, but take my words into consideration, because it just may help.

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