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Date Posted: 15:00:42 21/04/09 Tue
Author: All grown up
Subject: Don't take it personally!
In reply to: mom 's message, "good & bad" on 04:06:42 10/04/08 Thu

Idanced for a school with a similar situation - I used to get my feelings hurt and cry a lot after practice. My mom and I would say that I shouldn't feel "special" or like the only one who got yelled at - basically don't take it personally! More likely than not your teacher is yelling more at the dancers she/he thinks could be better with more work... when I looked at it that way I would decide that I was lucky that my teacher cared enough to get angry with me... and that is one reason I won a lot of major competitions! In the end, it helps if you look at your teacher as a coach rather than someone to nurture you. Take it with a grain of salt and know that it is teaching valuable life lessons. Now that I have recently graduated college and am out in the work force, I have a huge step up because of dance. If nothing else I learned how to stand up for myself and not get pushed around - I also built lasting friendships, self confidence, and a passion for dance that will always be with me.

My suggestion is to just pretend like your teacher is a drill sergeant and she/he yells at everyone because it is her/his dysfunctional way of saying "I care, and I know you will be amazing if you keep trying"... needless to say I did get in a few yelling matches with my teacher over the years, but I love her more than anything and I know that she loves me (as much as a drill sergeant can!)

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I personally think that a teacher who yells and has other teaching style problems (NT) -- Should take teacher courses to learn to deal with people., 14:16:05 21/11/09 Sat