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Date Posted: 18:53:29 12/28/08 Sun
Author: Michael
Subject: Re: Thoughts on Michael's question
In reply to: iteo 's message, "Re: Thoughts on Michael's question" on 17:53:17 12/13/08 Sat

allowing someone to unload is one of the big kindnesses, and i guess, right or wrong, your mother has to unload sometimes.
Since my father died my mother has spoken as if it was soem great marriage they had. The first time she spoke that way was at a restaurant with my sister and I. Neither of us said anything, but she could tell from the way we were looking at each other that we were stunned and got a bit annoyed. Relationships are a minefield, especially your parents. I lived amongst their warzone of a marriage and never understood, but always felt a victim of their ongoing hostilities, then he dies and history is re-written. Humans are very strange.

>Ah - that was an unfortunate thing to say! Oh well - I
>hope your mom gets over it soon.
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>>>>I hope what I wrote makes sense. I am writing while
>>>>having to listen to my mom telling me about the "so
>>>>many" young men who proposed to her, while she
>>>>"unfortunately" chose my father over them
>>>
>>>LOL!
>>>
>>Although I was not in the mood to listen to these
>>stories but I do feel for her. As you know my dad has
>>been ill for some time now and she is tending to all
>>his needs and she is really really doing great efforts
>>to make him feel comfortable, and then he said
>>something that really upset her.
>>
>>My brother told Mom on that day that he heard that one
>>of mum's distant relatives has died, and all Dad had
>>to say when he heard the man's name was "Yeah... I
>>remember this man. He is the one that when I proposed
>>to your mum was all happy and went like: "I can't
>>believe that a man of this stature would want to marry
>>someone of our family"!!
>>
>>Now, that was a very, very bad thing to say (even if
>>it had really happened) and that was what triggered
>>all these memories and made mum want to tell them to
>>me (although I have heard them from her like... two
>>dozens of times before)

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