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Date Posted: 16:25:09 08/29/08 Fri
Author: Michael
Subject: Re: Ordinary loneliness
In reply to: Roger 's message, "Re: Ordinary loneliness" on 18:17:04 08/24/08 Sun

Its at times like that we realise how much we are creatures on habit. How much we rely on people around us. Even at school I always admired the few who seemed to be able to get on with people, yet somehow seemed comfortable within themselves, self contained. Of course, in most cases it was just a misviewing on my part, but Im sure there are some who have got this ability. And i do think it is an ability, a higher way of life...and i dont mean anti social.

In the Bhagavan Gita it refers to doing work to the best of your ability and then surrendering the results. No worry if no-one appreciates it, if it is shown to be rubbish, or conversely if it is highly aclaimed. Just do it as well as you can, then forget about that task once its done and move on to what else is required. The satisfaction must therefore rest in the doing, and that means focussing on the work, the action, not the outcome.

Hmmmm, good theory, but very tricky thing to develop.

>I've had a very busy week, which was some considerable
>relief, and am going to Cape Cod next week with some
>insane in-laws which should be good. This two weeks is
>taking me out of the usual lonely day-to-day routine.
>I will start looking for things to keep me in touch
>with people. Losing the social part of the office
>routine was a big shock, I am now realizing.
>
>I actually did pay someone to help me with the
>carpentry and plumbing for an afternoon. We quite
>enjoyed the day, and he did a first-class job of
>fixing my drain. I think I may have found a job for
>him, too.
>
>Thanks for your concern. It is very valuable to me to
>have a place where I can leave a post like that. I
>aasume you all have some experience or knowledge of
>depression. I remember eyars when I didn't know what
>was wrong, so just knowing that I am prone to bouts of
>downtime gives me some perspective on it. The
>medications do help a lot, too. Knowing that it is a
>medical problem is a help.
>
>I own't be on for the next week, most likely. Even if
>I get to stop in an Internet cafe, I don't imagine
>I'll get much chance to spend time online.
>
>Thanks again,
>Roger
>
>
>>>It's when you start redecorating in black that you
>>>need to worry.
>>
>>Im a bit concerned that Roger hasnt been back.
>>Hopefully he just hit a bad patch and has come
>>through, or is off licking his wounds, as we all do on
>>ocassions.
>>
>>mmalik was asking after you Mz Morgan. Wanting to know
>>how you are, what you are up to.

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