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] Date Posted: 21:48:23 10/16/07 Tue In a life where people drop bombs on each other it comes as no surprise that daily disagreements are a common occurence. It's not really a matter of how often or how many of these unfortunate situations you find yourself in. It's more a matter of how you handle them both externally and internally. Most of how we learn to handle adversity comes from what we learned as children. Too often we were misguided by the superimposed behaviour of our dysfunctional parents. It's not easy to change impulsive behaviour. Hell, it's not easy to change anything about ourselves. We are creatures of habit and comfort. The other day I watched a Mother smack her child in public while chastising him for being curious. Initially I was filled with remorse. I shared a feeling of empathy standing there shaking my head and thinking, "this kid's got his work cut out for him." We are constantly a work in progress. Most of us trying to get better as we age. I think the hardest thing for any of us to realize is that we have to go back in order to go forward. Sure, change is hard but, when it comes to our mental and physical health it's damn sure worth it. I try to go back more these days and look at my life as it was given to me. I ask myself questions like, "Why did he have to do that?" Then, I find myself thinking, "It's not important why he did it." You see the only real value in going back is to face some demons and learn to forgive others and yourself for any indescretions that affected you so much they may have you chained to your own guilt and fear. You can't live there anymore. You can't live tomorrow yet either. All you have is today and if today can get better by revisiting the past just to say "Goodbye" then take the trip so you can walk back into the light. Take That! ajs [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Tammy [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 12:08:59 10/17/07 Wed Andy... A very refelctive spill here. I agree..we CANNOT go forward until we untie all the knots from the past. Being such creatures of habit, and products of our environments, we tend to lean towards taking the easy way out, because we learned it. Yet, in the light of all things, when times offer us a brief moment to reflect upon what it is that "carved us" to become who we are today, oftentimes, in retrospect, after the forgiveness, and only then, do we find the proverbial silver lining. The lessons that needed to be embraced, that helped us become who we are. It is then our responsibility to apply what we learned from it. Inspite of what may or may not have happened as children, there are those moments we need to face that bring us to the core of who we are, whether good or bad, it serves it's purpose as well. And there is always a purpose for everything, for everyone, and for every moment we embrace. These are the keys to moving forward in life. Great spill here. Hugs, Tammy |
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