| Subject: Love it: This goes for so many people on these boards, all gossip 99.99 % is not true, they tell it especially on the tabloid board so people would believe what they are saying, most take it as a grain of salt. If people believe everything that is on the tabloid board then they have a small brain. They are trying there hardest for you people to believe it, so that you will not show up at pageants, it gives them a better chance to win because you will not be there, now that is something |
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Date Posted: 15:53:08 01/28/09 Wed
In reply to:
's message, "Is your name Gossip? c/i" on 08:16:37 01/26/09 Mon
>Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the
>personal or private affairs of others. It forms one of
>the oldest and most common means of sharing (unproven)
>facts and views, but also has a reputation for the
>introduction of errors and other variations into the
>information thus transmitted. The term also carries
>implications that the news so transmitted (usually)
>has a personal or trivial nature, as opposed to normal
>conversation.
>
>My Name Is Gossip
>Many people consider gossip to be a harmless pastime.
>What about you?
>by Janet Treadway
>
>My Name Is Gossip. I have no respect for justice. I
>maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives. I
>am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age.
>The more I am quoted the more I am believed. I
>flourish at every level of society. My victims are
>helpless. They cannot protect themselves against me
>because I have no name and no face.
>To track me down is impossible. The harder you try,
>the more elusive I become. I am nobody's friend. Once
>I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same. I topple
>governments and ruin marriages. I ruin careers and
>cause sleepless nights, heartache and indigestion. I
>spawn suspicion and generate grief.
>I make innocent people cry in their pillows. Even my
>name hisses.
>I AM CALLED GOSSIP
>
>
>President Reagan's first Labor Secretary, Raymond
>Donavan, resigned from his post after numerous rumors
>that he'd done wrong. After spending more than a
>million dollars in legal fees to defend himself,
>Donovan was cleared of all charges. Coming out of the
>courtroom to talk to reporters, he asked: "Where do I
>go to get my reputation back?"
>Gossip also hurts the gossiper. According to
>psychiatrist Antonio Wood, when you speak ill of
>someone, you alienate yourself from that person. Say
>bad things about many people and your words will
>separate you from them.
>Guilt is an emotion we feel when we know in our hearts
>that it is wrong to slander and talk about someone
>behind his or her back. Have you ever tried to look
>someone in the eye after you have talked about him or
>her behind his or her back?
>Guilt also comes when we don't follow the biblical
>principle that says, "If your brother sins against
>you, go and tell him his fault between you and him
>alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother"
>(Matthew 18:15). Gossip may be fun for a moment, but
>in the end it will only produce hurt, guilt and pain.
>So how can we avoid gossip?
>How can we avoid gossiping?
>Seek a repentant and clean heart from God so you'll
>have the power to resist talking negatively about
>others. Take a look at the attitudes you hold and the
>comments you make. Examine why you are tempted to
>speak negatively and pray for God to give you the
>strength to confront and overcome those temptations.
>Confess the times you've gossiped or criticized in the
>past, and invite God to transform you. Release any
>pride or fear that is obstructing you from making the
>changes you would like, and be open to God's
>correction and guidance.
>Pray for people you have hurt—either purposely or
>inadvertently by speaking negatively about them. Ask
>God to heal them. Also pray for people who have hurt
>you in the past through their negative words about
>you. Forgive them and ask God to let them be aware of
>His loving presence with them.
>Pray for God to give you wisdom in such situations.
>James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him
>ask God, who gives to all liberally and without
>reproach, and it will be given to him." We can ask God
>to help us resist being pulled into negative
>conversations. How can we do this?
>When someone approaches us and begins talking
>negatively about someone, we can try to determine the
>speaker's motivation and encourage accountability by
>asking questions such as, "Is this something I need to
>hear about?" "Who told you this information?" "Have
>you spoken to those people who are directly involved
>with this situation?" FPRIVATE "TYPE=PICT;ALT=Girls
>talking"
>
>and "Before you share any further, what are you
>expecting from me?"
>Use powerful positive words to heal when confronted
>with destructive, negative words. Respond to gossip or
>criticism with encouraging words about the person
>being talked about. As Ephesians 4:29 explains, "Let
>no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is
>useful for building up, as there is need, so that your
>words may give grace to those who hear" (NRSV).
>Think. Another key to positive communication is to
>subscribe to the simple formula "THINK" before
>speaking of any person or subject that is
>controversial.
>T--Is it True?
>H--Is it Helpful?
>I--Is it Inspiring?
>N--Is it Necessary?
>K--Is it Kind?
>If what we are about to say does not pass these tests,
>we should keep our mouths shut.
>Finally, remember the little saying that tells us what
>kind of minds we have: Great minds discuss ideas;
>average minds discuss events; small minds discuss
>people.
>The apostle Paul provides a key for incorporating
>these concepts, saying, "Finally, beloved, whatever is
>true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just,
>whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is
>commendable, if there is any excellence and if there
>is anything worthy of praise, think about these
>things" (Philippians 4:8, NRSV). By applying his
>instruction, gossip can be stopped. Let us all strive
>to use the power of our words for healing. YU
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