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Subject: Re: This happened so quickly

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Keri

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Date Posted: 14:37:00 07/02/13 Tue
In reply to: Confused 's message, "Re: This happened so quickly" on 04:45:10 07/02/13 Tue

Hi Confused,

I was wondering if you've had a chance to talk with your husband about this yet? I know you were nervous about that and I was just curious how the conversation went.

I think you put the 'fear of God' (as the old expression goes) into her. Hopefully there will be more texting and driving. That is hard for young people.

I fully understand the idea that the money is not going to change the relationship. I had a friend tell me once if you loan money be prepared to consider it not coming back to you or don't do it at all. Otherwise it causes a strain and ruins the friendship or mentor-ship in this case.

But I do agree with MM that maybe a contract of some kind be drawn up. She probably can't pay it back or she'll just get further and further behind. I remember from my youth. But if I was being mentored I wouldn't be against telling the person who loaned me the money how I was planning to move forward and not let it happen again.

Perhaps a monthly update that I was staying on track would help assure you and Karla that the same behavior was not on the horizon. Maybe even an agreement that if she felt the need to go on another shopping spree that would render her homeless she could come to you or call you first. You could then help talk her through it.

Many times the urge to sludge is something much deeper than wanting new clothes. For me it was an anxiety disorder that made me do things that were risky or thrilling. I had to learn how to recognize it in myself and stop it before it happened. Having someone whom I could call and discuss it with would have been a huge comfort.

Hugs,
Keri

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: This happened so quickly	Confused	04:34:51 07/03/13 Wed
Re: This happened so quickly -- SJ, 05:36:36 07/03/13 Wed Re: This happened so quickly -- Confused, 04:09:59 07/04/13 Thu Re: This happened so quickly -- Confused, 04:28:00 07/04/13 Thu