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19 year boy living at home -- Ralph (embarrassed), 08:21:58 10/24/09 Sat [3]
i'm living at home with my mom and going to community college and working part time. mom has had it with my attitude and actions and has started spanking me again .
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Re: 19 year boy living at home -- David, 14:19:11 11/01/09 Sun [1]
>i'm living at home with my mom and going to community
>college and working part time. mom has had it with my
>attitude and actions and has started spanking me again
>.
If your mother hits you, and you are truly 19 years old, you are an adult, and that is considered assault, whether you are living with your parents as a dependant or not. The elderly also live with their children as dependents, and it is just as illegal to hit them because of disagreements. If you are tired of being hit, and have the balls to stand up for yourself and take responsibility for your own behavior, tell her the hitting is going to stop or else. Also, once you are hit by someone else, if you hit them back it is considered self defense by the law in every state. Stand up for yourself, boy.
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Re: 19 year boy living at home -- David, 14:22:32 11/01/09 Sun [1]
>i'm living at home with my mom and going to community
>college and working part time. mom has had it with my
>attitude and actions and has started spanking me again
>.
If your mother hits you, and you are truly 19 years old, you are an adult, and that is considered assault, whether you are living with your parents as a dependant or not. The elderly also live with their children as dependents, and it is just as illegal to hit them because of disagreements. If you are tired of being hit, and have the balls to stand up for yourself and take responsibility for your own behavior, tell her the hitting is going to stop or else. Also, once you are hit by someone else, if you hit them back it is considered self defense by the law in every state. Stand up for yourself, boy. You may find your mother respects you a bit more, if you refuse to be a submissive mewl. Remember, if you defend yourself it is lawful. Give that old witch a taste of her own medicine, and then watch her go to the clink. Also, why are you living with your mom in the first place. Get a freaking job and leave -- grow up.
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Being 18 years old, bigger than parents, and assault charges -- David, 14:15:52 11/01/09 Sun [1]
I resent my parents belting me. I left them when I was of age, and went my own way. Today they apologize for beating me, and feel terrible about it. I don't beat my own children, and they are well behaved. It is a primitive form of behavior control. For those children over 18 who are hit by their parents, those parents can be convicted of assualt. The last time my father threatened to belt me, I told him to go ahead and take a swing, then I would knock him silly, and call the sherrif. He backed off, and I left the next day.
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seen adult spanked -- Mike H (friends dad paddled bare), 16:26:27 10/15/09 Thu [1]
Growing upin the 50's we lived on a farm and so did my best freind. I was at their place alot. Once when I came over to see my friend and came into the barn--I was shocked to see my friends dad getting his bare butt paddled by my friends grandpa. the dad looked at me from his bent over position with his bare butt out there--and simply siad w/o any hint of embarrassment----
"Why don't you just go on up to the house Larry is there". I could hear the spanking continue. When my friend and I were together I askedwhy his dad was getting paddled and my friend replied--as if it was the simplest question --"Oh mom and grandma were angry with him at lunch and said he need to get paddled--grandpa waited til lunch was done and is giving him the paddle." I was really shocked--I was 14 at the time. I knew both my friend and I still got paddled at that age--but I never suspected his own dad (a very strong man) got the same exact kind of paddling. Of course I saw the dad all the time after that--but he never said anything about it nor acted embarrassed---They were great people and always very good to me----I did not know the word patriarchal at that time---I guess I was seeing the real definition of it!
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mom spanked at 15 -- jeff d, 20:30:31 09/09/09 Wed [3]
My brohers and I got paddled more my mom than dad cause she was home all the time----She paddled us bare over her knee--It hurt---but we sort of just regarded it as part of life. I had not gotten paddlled since 13 and I really had grown alot--I was on the varsity football team as I was very strong for my age---My parents forbade foul language. Wishing to impress my younger brothers--I used some of the language common in football---To my shock my mom overhead---she was outaged--She told me to get the paddle---and I did just that-she told me to take down my pants and undewear and I did w/o a moments hesitation and I went over her knee and she paddled me damn hard--with my youger brothers watching---I was squealing like a puppy. So much for being a tough football player--My butt was still red at pratice --I told them my dad paddled me--and I was still laughed at. I will give my brothers credit---they never told anyone I got my bare ass paddled by my mom. I have to ask other guys who got spanked by your mom in teens----I accepeted it with so with out questionthe same pre spanking fear---regardless of my size---Does a mother/son relationship just make this occur??? Hope to hear from some one thanks
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Re: mom spanked at 15 -- Wes, 22:41:44 09/17/09 Thu [1]
I'm 17 and mom still spanks me in a similar way to how yours did. I am bigger than her and probably stronger but I dont put up much of a fight. I do try to argue against it but it dosnt really help. I think the reason I ultimately give in is what alternative is there? I dont really get embarassed to be bare in front of her because she has seen it all many times.
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Re: mom spanked at 15 -- Pete in Kentucky, 23:51:43 10/01/09 Thu [1]
My mom spanked me on the bare (belt) until I was 15 or 16. My dad quit when i was 18 or 19. This was back in the 70s and while I hated my spankings I never questioned my parents right to spank me.
>My brohers and I got paddled more my mom than dad
>cause she was home all the time----She paddled us bare
>over her knee--It hurt---but we sort of just regarded
>it as part of life. I had not gotten paddlled since
>13 and I really had grown alot--I was on the varsity
>football team as I was very strong for my age---My
>parents forbade foul language. Wishing to impress my
>younger brothers--I used some of the language common
>in football---To my shock my mom overhead---she was
>outaged--She told me to get the paddle---and I did
>just that-she told me to take down my pants and
>undewear and I did w/o a moments hesitation and I went
>over her knee and she paddled me damn hard--with my
>youger brothers watching---I was squealing like a
>puppy. So much for being a tough football player--My
>butt was still red at pratice --I told them my dad
>paddled me--and I was still laughed at. I will give my
>brothers credit---they never told anyone I got my bare
>ass paddled by my mom. I have to ask other guys who
>got spanked by your mom in teens----I accepeted it
>with so with out questionthe same pre spanking
>fear---regardless of my size---Does a mother/son
>relationship just make this occur??? Hope to hear
>from some one thanks
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Admit it and stop -- Worldofhurt, 00:26:44 08/24/09 Mon [1]
Spanking is and has always been a sexual act. Do it to adults if you like but stop fantasizing about your own kids bottoms and the sick control you have over them. You don't have sex in public for a reason. You don't masturbate in public for a reason. You don't spank children in public for the same reason. If a child even asks for you to look at their bottom and spank it while enjoying the sweet tyrannical feeling that you will masturbate about later, it is still wrong because they haven't reached consent. Download some porn for christ sake you deviant scum.
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Teen discipline blog -- Carmella, 06:51:52 07/21/09 Tue [1]
I have just created a blog which may be of interest to like-minded parents.
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Still Spanked -- Will, 18:37:03 06/14/09 Sun [3]
I'm 20 and still live at home with my mother. Part of the conditions for living here is following some rules and if it does not happen then she spanks me. In fact I was just spanked a few hours ago for not cleaning the back yard which I was supposed to do yesterday. It just slipped my mind. I do believe spanking works but was unsure about it at my age. Having read all the comments here I see that I'm not the only one who gets it at this age.
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Re: Still Spanked -- Stuart, 04:32:05 06/16/09 Tue [1]
Will, where you from? So how was you spanked? Is it just you and mum or u got dad and siblings too?
>I'm 20 and still live at home with my mother. Part of
>the conditions for living here is following some rules
>and if it does not happen then she spanks me. In fact
>I was just spanked a few hours ago for not cleaning
>the back yard which I was supposed to do yesterday.
>It just slipped my mind. I do believe spanking works
>but was unsure about it at my age. Having read all
>the comments here I see that I'm not the only one who
>gets it at this age.
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Re: Still Spanked -- Will, 02:33:44 06/20/09 Sat [1]
>Will, where you from? So how was you spanked? Is it
>just you and mum or u got dad and siblings too?
>
I'm in Canada. Usually spanked bare over the knee or lying on the bed. There is my stepfather and a step sister who is a year older. My step sister gets it from mom too but never when I'm around. My step father is ok with it, or seems to be, either way he does not do anything about it. Never met my real dad.
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Embarrassment is very effective -- it's true -- Amy (true story), 20:51:52 05/11/09 Mon [1]
Back in the early 1970s, I attended an elementary school in North Carolina that was a bit overcrowded at the time, which necessitated putting some classrooms in trailers placed about 100 yards from the school building, right on edge of the playground.
When I was between the ages of 10 and 11 years old, my fifth grade class was in one of those trailers, and our teacher, Mrs. Hampton, had some interesting ways of dealing with repeated bad behavior.
One method was paddling. I was a rather troubled little girl, spanked often at home with hand, hairbrush and belt by both parents.
At school, I was no different, always talking back, sulking and getting into squabbles with classmates, just like I fought with my little sister at home. That earned me a half-dozen pops with the paddle from Mrs. Hampton on a couple of occasions -- she would take me outside of the trailer, just around the corner, and another teacher would be asked to witness my little pantied butt getting wood-roasted as I bent over, my dress flipped up on my back, to my great embarrassment. (It hurt, too.)
But that embarrassment and pain was nothing compared to what transpired once, when Mrs. Hampton imposed her other form of discipline used for recidivist offenders like me.
She held what she called "trials" in the classroom, in which the mischievous child would have to sit facing the class and answer questions about his or her bad behavior. After a few minutes of this, classmates would raise their hands and suggest punishments. For some reason, no one ever suggested spanking, opting instead for embarrassing offenders some other way, such as making them wear a sign all day, or writing lines on the blackboard.
That changed one day when I was busted for calling another girl a bad name and pushing her during some hallway dispute on the way back from the school cafeteria. I was put on "trial" for that, and it proved to be fateful.
One of my classmates, Tommy Blalock (whom I hated, for good reason, as you shall see) knew that I got spanked at home. My bratty little sister took great pleasure in describing my bare-butt lickings to him once, in great detail.
So when sentencing time came, Tommy raised his hand and suggested: "Mrs. Hampton, I think you should march Amy to the principal's office, have her call her mom, and ask for a spanking when she gets home!"
(I think the little creep hoped he'd be able to come over to my house and watch.)
That went over big. So when Mrs. Hampton went down the list of possible punishments on the blackboard, guess which one got the biggest show of hands?
There was much giggling as Mrs. Hampton took my arm and marched me out of the trailer, up the hill toward the school building. I was mortified, but I had no idea how bad it would get.
My mom was livid when Mrs. Hampton put me on the phone. I barely finished stammering out my assigned sentence ("...a s-s-spanking") when she demanded to speak to Mrs. Hampton again.
"Uh, huh," Mrs. Hampton said, a slightly anxious but stern look on her face. "OK, Mrs. Howe, if that's what you think should happen, then we'll wait here."
Uh-oh. I was beginning to get the gist of this. You see, we lived less than five minutes from the school, and my stay-at-home mom could zip right over at any time. Was she going to spank me in the office? Yikes!
No. Such. Luck.
I was sitting on a bench when mom showed up, and I darn near threw up from fear when I saw her. She meant business.
To my horror, she just grabbed me by the arm and said, "Come with me, young lady." And the three of us started walking -- BACK TOWARD THE TRAILER. OH MY GOSH!
"Please Mommy," I begged, only to be answered with a stern, snappy "Quiet!" that shut me right up. We were walking so fast that, at one point, one of the clog sandals I was wearing came off, and my mom made me pick it up, take the other one off, and walk barefoot on the hot concrete walkway (it was late Spring) as I carried my shoes. Soon enough, I would forget all about the burning soles of my little bare feet.
As we entered the classroom, there were gasps and wide-eyed stares all around. Everyone knew they were about to witness a soon-to-be legendary event at this school. Oh, the stories they'd be able to tell!
At a request from mom, Mrs. Hampton placed her own desk chair a few feet away from where she sat, right in front of the whole class!
I just stood there. frozen with fear, in a daze. This could not be happening. But it was.
"Put those shoes down right there, and come here right now, young lady!" Mom barked.
I hesitated, my lip quivering, and my eyes watering.
"Bu-but Mom..."
"NOW!" she yelled. I sobbed and dropped the clogs, which made her lip quiver, too -- with anger. Not good. I inched slowly toward where she was seated, by knees wobbling and sweat forming on my brow and upper lip.
Before I knew it, she grabbed my arm again and, with the remarkable superstrength of an angry mother, she yanked me across her knee as if I was no heavier than a blanket.
"Young lady, I've had enough of these bad reports from Mrs. Hampton." she lectured. "And apparently, these children have had enough, too, because they've sentenced you to a good spanking. Well, I think they're entitled to see your sentence carried out. I am going to spank your bottom nice and red for them today!"
Wait a minute -- "RED FOR THEM"? Surely she didn't mean...
Oh yes she did. As quickly as she had yanked me over her lap, she flipped up my dress and went for the waistband of my little white panties.
"NO!!! MOM!!!" I screamed, but it was too late by the time I whipped my hand back to try to prevent her action. My panties were already down around my knees, and I was humiliated for all time.
There were more gasps from the audience (and of course, many giggles), and over my shoulder I could see that even Mrs. Hampton was taken aback for a second. She brought her hand up to her mouth as she gasped, too, and jerked forward for a second as if to come to my rescue. Then she apparently thought better of it for another second, stepped back, and a weird little smile came to her face as she arched her eyebrows. She was going to enjoy this.
"Oh, yes, young lady," my mother answered me as I sobbed and pleaded, which she cut short with a quick slap to one of my thighs. "You're going to get the same spanking here that you would have gotten at home. I think the class deserves to see a nice red bottom today."
And with that, my mom delivered, well, the mother of all bare-bottom spankings with her well-practiced bare hand, to the delight of my audience. For several minutes, slap after painful, stinging slap rang through that trailer classroom as Mom covered every inch of my milky white, slightly freckled bare bottom and thighs with hot, searing pain, as I blubbered like a baby and kicked my bare feet all around, nearly kicking off my panties in the process. Somehow, I managed to keep them from falling no lower than at my frantic ankles.
When she was finished, she reached for the panties, pulled them back up and set me on my feet. She had me face the class, and I was forced to apologize as most of them grinned evilly at me.
Then I was made to stand in the corner, as Mrs. Hampton knocked on the door of the other classroom that shared the trailer (they'd heard the whole thing, of course) and asked their teacher, Mrs. Blalock, if she could please supervise both classes this afternoon at recess, which was scheduled in about 10 minutes. She said yes.
Then, for another 10 minutes, I was sat in front of the class again, on my blazing-hot behind, on that hard chair, for a humiliating post-trial-and-punishment discussion with the class.
Tommy, of course, was beside himself with glee, but so was nearly everybody else. A few girls seemed mortified and sympathetic.
But all agreed I had brought this on myself by my constant bratty behavior, and I was made to promise over and over to behave myself in the future or "face the consequences again," as my mother warned.
At one point, my teacher admitted that she punished her own kids the same way -- over the knew, bare bottom - and expressed regret that she was unable to apply the same methods to some of her pupils.
"I can think of a few kids here I'd like to do that to," she said, looking straight at Billy Honeycutt, the brattiest boy in class. He blushed, and looked away.
"Well," my mom replied, "you certainly have my permission to spank this one over your knee on her bare behind whenever you need to. And if that doesn't work, I'll be glad to come back and repeat this little performance."
Thanks, mom.
Now that they had witnessed my total humiliation and comeuppance, the kids were dismissed to run off to the playground, where they had a great story to tell to anyone who'd listen. I, on the other hand, had to sit in the class with my mom and teacher for about 15 minutes of more stern lecturing. At that point, I just wanted to curl up and die. At least I got to ride home with Mom -- that bus ride home would have been brutal.
I became an instant legend that day, without a doubt the worst day of my life, and I was never allowed to forget it. Kids teased me about it until the day I graduated high school.
But I rarely misbehaved in class after that, I'll tell you that. I hate to admit it, but that spanking really did the trick. I was a model student after that, even in college. So, er, thanks, Mom, I guess.
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I disagree. -- Comfy (Confused), 00:56:21 05/10/09 Sun [1]
Hello. I'm a hardworking, athletic, obedient, ambitious teenaged girl. But I'm a little confused. I don't think every child should get spanked. I think there are limits. Each child is special.
I was spanked by my babysitter from age 3 to 5. Never by my parents. But as a result of getting spanked, I carry a lot of sexual frustration to this day. No one knows about it cause I think it's kind of sick and wrong. I just think that if I never gotten a spanking, I wouldn't have such a fetish. Thank you for reading and God bless. :]
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caning -- Wen Tian Yun (sad), 02:46:13 05/05/09 Tue [1]
I am a boy. I am 13 years old. My dad ofthen canes me with a rattan. He canes me on my bottom, I cried everytime he canes me. Although I cried,he ignored me crying and canes me even more harder and more times. He would not hear me explain first before caning me. He wants me to get good results all the time. He canes me whenever I did badly for my tests, spellings, exams, even doing the assessment books that he bought for me, when I misbehave and walk I do not respect my elders and him. Everytime he canes me, my bottom will become very red, it hurts very much and it bleeds. But, he later on, help me to put oilment on my bottom, he points out what I did wrongly when I misbehave.When I did very badly, he would coach me. But, when he coach me, for every question I did wrongly or for every careless mistake I made, he would cane me on my hand. I sometimes enjoy being caned as that is the only time he can sit down and he can chat with me without any interruption from his work. You may find me very silly, but I meant it. If you all wants to see anything more about me, please go to my blog: http://yun999.blogspot.com/
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Penance -- Sid, 11:53:54 04/26/09 Sun [1]
When I was younger after confession my penance was sometimes 4 or 6 cuts with the strap on the bare bottom. I regarded it as justified for my sins. Anyone else had penances like this?
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others spanking your child. -- lynnew, 06:26:02 04/01/09 Wed [11]
How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor , teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland. Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out, and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me being spanked at school ( in my school this was with the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung out with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's children. They were spanked at home,normally by their mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents, and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and the neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me, rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be mad, I told her and she looked and just commented' That's a real good job. ~now I know when your misbehaving where to send you!
I am bringing my family up traditionally and use spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is administered soundly so that it normally leads to tears.
I have no worries about disciplining them, but would feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them. Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- noel, 12:06:40 04/02/09 Thu [1]
Lynnew, You mention that you were tawsed at school, yet use the belt at home. Do you mean the tawse in the second case ( Scottish belt) or a normal belt. If the former is it effective- more or less than the cane- on your teenagers?
>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>
>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing
>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>
>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung out
>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>children. They were spanked at home,normally by their
>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and the
>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on
>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got
>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me,
>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be
>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>misbehaving where to send you!
>
>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>tears.
>
>I have no worries about disciplining them, but would
>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- lynnew, 14:23:38 04/02/09 Thu [1]
Noel. sorry if I wasn't clear. I discipline my own daughters with a traditional tawse or cane.
For those of you who don't know a Scottish tawse is a specially crafted piece of thick leather about 2 foot long with the 'business end' split into two or three tails. It can be used on the butt or hands. In school it was traditionally until 1982 used on the hand . It stings but doesn't easily mark and should never ever break or damage skin. It is safe but very effective.Tawses are graded from light to extra heavy. I use a three tail heavy, which is ideal for recalitrant teens.
I give a dose to my daughters on the butt, but if ever stealing were involved I would strap the hands as well. The divided tails make it equally effective to the cane. But , of course, the cane , being rattan leaves prominant marks. Therefore I use the cane for the most serious offences. Hopefully very rarely!
>Lynnew, You mention that you were tawsed at school,
>yet use the belt at home. Do you mean the tawse in the
>second case ( Scottish belt) or a normal belt. If the
>former is it effective- more or less than the cane- on
>your teenagers?
>
>
>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>
>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>>and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing
>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>>
>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung out
>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by their
>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and the
>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on
>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got
>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me,
>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be
>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>
>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>tears.
>>
>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but would
>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Vanessa, 07:42:58 04/03/09 Fri [1]
Lynnew Congrats on bringing up your girls in the trasditional manner. They will thank you for it!
My story is a little different . I too came from a good Christian family , but they were completely opposed to physical violence of any type, and never laid a hand on me. In my teens I knew most of my friends, ( we lived in a rural community) went to the same school and Church and got spanked at home. Indeed the Minister in the church in those days preached in favor of it.
My parents actually filled in the waiver from the school to ensure I wasn't paddled. One day , however, I got into a fight. the automatic punishment was a five lick paddling or suspension. I was a very bright girl , nearly always top in my year when it came to tests and exams, and the idea of suspension was horrible. I pleaded with the lady V.P.(Miss Henderson) who dealt with my misdemenour to paddle me , and at last she said given my distress she would speak to my parents. Reluctantly , my mom agreed and I grabbed my ankles for my first five swats ever. Miss Henderson was really nice about it , as I had a previously unblemished record, and , whilst she really walloped with a vengence, she was very kind afterwards and let me compose myself with tissues and a glass of water, before facing my class. She told me I was very brave!!!
I asked my mom if she wouldn't reconsider paddling me at home. She said no , and I was unhappy. So the next school open night she spoke to Miss Henderson. When she returned home she had arranged that if I deserved a paddling I would be sent round to Miss Henderson either at home or school and she would paddle me. I was surprised but it worked very well. Miss H lived about ten minutes walk from my house, and on the few occasions I was sent there, the walk gave me plenty of time to reflect on the sin committed and pain to come! I normally got a twelve swat ration if I saw her at home , always grabbing my ankles, but I always learned a lesson.
I have always paddled my own children from youngsters to leaving home, but I share your misgivings about others dealing with them ( except school where I strongly support the paddle), despite my own background.Does that help?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Stuart, 13:56:58 04/03/09 Fri [1]
lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in the discipline?
Do others know how you discipline?
>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>
>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing
>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>
>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung out
>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>children. They were spanked at home,normally by their
>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and the
>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on
>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got
>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me,
>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be
>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>misbehaving where to send you!
>
>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>tears.
>
>I have no worries about disciplining them, but would
>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Lynnew, 14:27:16 04/04/09 Sat [1]
No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I have returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers the last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in reality it makes very little difference to the effect of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters and I discussed this only the other week when I had to tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language and swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought about by a serious problem between friends at school, but a few strokes brought them to order.
Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me when replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum, seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really can let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
They told me then they believe spanking is really effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all over and forgiven quickly.
As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls are proud of , although I know at least one of their friends confided in me she wished her parents would do the same to her. She gets grounded and the reciminations , and punishment hangs around for weeks. I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church who spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in
>the discipline?
>Do others know how you discipline?
>
>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>
>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>>and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing
>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>>
>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung out
>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by their
>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and the
>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on
>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got
>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me,
>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be
>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>
>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>tears.
>>
>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but would
>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Stuart, 14:59:01 04/06/09 Mon [1]
lynnew so u have your girls take their skirts/trousers off? I am guessing you have ruleson the type of knickers they may wear?
>No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I have
>returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers the
>last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in
>reality it makes very little difference to the effect
>of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters and
>I discussed this only the other week when I had to
>tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language and
>swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought
>about by a serious problem between friends at school,
>but a few strokes brought them to order.
>
>Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in
>line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me when
>replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum,
>seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really can
>let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
>
>They told me then they believe spanking is really
>effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is
>given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all
>over and forgiven quickly.
>
>As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls are
>proud of , although I know at least one of their
>friends confided in me she wished her parents would do
>the same to her. She gets grounded and the
>reciminations , and punishment hangs around for weeks.
> I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church who
>spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>
>
>
>>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in
>>the discipline?
>>Do others know how you discipline?
>>
>>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>>
>>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>>>and were never discussed, my parents, both practicing
>>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>>>
>>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung
>out
>>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by their
>>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and
>the
>>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state on
>>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I got
>>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and me,
>>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would be
>>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>>
>>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>>tears.
>>>
>>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but would
>>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Lynnew, 04:42:18 04/07/09 Tue [1]
Stuart, My method of punishment is to talk to the girl/s about the offense. when they have admitted their wrongdoing, I tell them a spanking is to be the penalty and then askher/ them politely to follow me into the kitchen. I ask her/them to stand on the back wall facing me hands by her/their sides. I then announce the form of punishment ( cane or strap). I have a high kitchen stool which I use for cooking. I put this in the middle of the room and take out as appropriate the cane or the tawse. I then ask the first girl to step forward and remove her skirt/trousers completely , folding them and putting them to one side. Then she must stretch over the stool and grab the 'low' bar. Then I apply the penalty. If it is the cane its a little more formal as I do test it for 'spring' and thus there are a couple of warning 'swishes'. with the tawse ( mine is a three tail 'heavy' from John J, Dick) it is simply applied in the time honoured method, holding the tails straight until I release the stoke. I NEVER tell the girls in advance the number of strokes to expect....that is for me to know and them to find out! But I am never unreasonable, and I do ask them to count.Miscount and I take it again. I don't give extra for yells, tears or any sort of performance, except if a girl were to rise from the stool completely , we would have to start over again.
Should the offense require a handstrapping (where 'hands' have been involved in the act - stealing, hands caught rumaging in my handbag, smoking etc) etc) before bending the girl over the stool I apply 'six' ( three on each hand , with the hands held 'Scottish style') and the tawse drawn over the shoulder.This, as those of you who had the experience of Scottish schooling in the days of the belt will endorse, is a most 'memorable' experience.
My girls are normally very co-operative, recognising the good the punishment does, and knowing I only correct them for their own benefit.Normally, my punishment does give rise to tears of shame as much as pain, although there is no point in punishment without sting. After the punishment is over we always hug so there is no ill feeling.
As to knickers - it isn't an issue . Both attend independent schools where uniform inspection is carried out on occasion. What suits the school is ok by me.Were they to wear very modern attire in any case it would be worse for them, unlike shool wear, thongs etc etc give absolutely no protection- indeed in my case would render the wearer subject to 'extra'!
I wondered from your interest Stuart, do you have kids to disicpline or were you disciplined yourself ?
>lynnew so u have your girls take their
>skirts/trousers off? I am guessing you have ruleson
>the type of knickers they may wear?
>
>>No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I have
>>returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers the
>>last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in
>>reality it makes very little difference to the effect
>>of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters and
>>I discussed this only the other week when I had to
>>tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language and
>>swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought
>>about by a serious problem between friends at school,
>>but a few strokes brought them to order.
>>
>>Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in
>>line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me when
>>replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum,
>>seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really can
>>let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
>>
>>They told me then they believe spanking is really
>>effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is
>>given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all
>>over and forgiven quickly.
>>
>>As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls are
>>proud of , although I know at least one of their
>>friends confided in me she wished her parents would do
>>the same to her. She gets grounded and the
>>reciminations , and punishment hangs around for weeks.
>> I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church who
>>spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>>
>>
>>
>>>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>>>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in
>>>the discipline?
>>>Do others know how you discipline?
>>>
>>>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor ,
>>>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>>>
>>>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured out,
>>>>and were never discussed, my parents, both
>practicing
>>>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was with
>>>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>>>>
>>>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung
>>out
>>>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by
>their
>>>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my parents,
>>>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>>>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion I
>>>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and
>>the
>>>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state
>on
>>>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I
>got
>>>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>>>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and
>me,
>>>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would
>be
>>>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>>>
>>>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two mid
>>>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>>>tears.
>>>>
>>>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but
>would
>>>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with them.
>>>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>>>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Stuart, 14:28:54 04/08/09 Wed [1]
lynne my interest is purely as I have never known of anyone in the UK who genuinely smacks teens bottoms. I feel if more teens were smacked they would be more respectful etc etc
>Stuart, My method of punishment is to talk to the
>girl/s about the offense. when they have admitted
>their wrongdoing, I tell them a spanking is to be the
>penalty and then askher/ them politely to follow me
>into the kitchen. I ask her/them to stand on the back
>wall facing me hands by her/their sides. I then
>announce the form of punishment ( cane or strap). I
>have a high kitchen stool which I use for cooking. I
>put this in the middle of the room and take out as
>appropriate the cane or the tawse. I then ask the
>first girl to step forward and remove her
>skirt/trousers completely , folding them and putting
>them to one side. Then she must stretch over the stool
>and grab the 'low' bar. Then I apply the penalty. If
>it is the cane its a little more formal as I do test
>it for 'spring' and thus there are a couple of warning
>'swishes'. with the tawse ( mine is a three tail
>'heavy' from John J, Dick) it is simply applied in the
>time honoured method, holding the tails straight until
>I release the stoke. I NEVER tell the girls in advance
>the number of strokes to expect....that is for me to
>know and them to find out! But I am never
>unreasonable, and I do ask them to count.Miscount and
>I take it again. I don't give extra for yells, tears
>or any sort of performance, except if a girl were to
>rise from the stool completely , we would have to
>start over again.
>
>Should the offense require a handstrapping (where
>'hands' have been involved in the act - stealing,
>hands caught rumaging in my handbag, smoking etc)
>etc) before bending the girl over the stool I apply
>'six' ( three on each hand , with the hands held
>'Scottish style') and the tawse drawn over the
>shoulder.This, as those of you who had the experience
>of Scottish schooling in the days of the belt will
>endorse, is a most 'memorable' experience.
>
>
>My girls are normally very co-operative, recognising
>the good the punishment does, and knowing I only
>correct them for their own benefit.Normally, my
>punishment does give rise to tears of shame as much as
>pain, although there is no point in punishment without
>sting. After the punishment is over we always hug so
>there is no ill feeling.
>
>As to knickers - it isn't an issue . Both attend
>independent schools where uniform inspection is
>carried out on occasion. What suits the school is ok
>by me.Were they to wear very modern attire in any case
>it would be worse for them, unlike shool wear, thongs
>etc etc give absolutely no protection- indeed in my
>case would render the wearer subject to 'extra'!
>
>I wondered from your interest Stuart, do you have kids
>to disicpline or were you disciplined yourself ?
>
>
>
>>lynnew so u have your girls take their
>>skirts/trousers off? I am guessing you have ruleson
>>the type of knickers they may wear?
>>
>>>No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I
>have
>>>returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers
>the
>>>last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in
>>>reality it makes very little difference to the effect
>>>of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters
>and
>>>I discussed this only the other week when I had to
>>>tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language and
>>>swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought
>>>about by a serious problem between friends at school,
>>>but a few strokes brought them to order.
>>>
>>>Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in
>>>line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me when
>>>replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum,
>>>seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really can
>>>let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
>>>
>>>They told me then they believe spanking is really
>>>effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is
>>>given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all
>>>over and forgiven quickly.
>>>
>>>As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls are
>>>proud of , although I know at least one of their
>>>friends confided in me she wished her parents would
>do
>>>the same to her. She gets grounded and the
>>>reciminations , and punishment hangs around for
>weeks.
>>> I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church who
>>>spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>>>>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in
>>>>the discipline?
>>>>Do others know how you discipline?
>>>>
>>>>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor
>,
>>>>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>>>>
>>>>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>>>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured
>out,
>>>>>and were never discussed, my parents, both
>>practicing
>>>>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>>>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was
>with
>>>>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you hands).
>>>>>
>>>>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung
>>>out
>>>>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>>>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by
>>their
>>>>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my
>parents,
>>>>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission to
>>>>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion
>I
>>>>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and
>>>the
>>>>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>>>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state
>>on
>>>>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I
>>got
>>>>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt was
>>>>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and
>>me,
>>>>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would
>>be
>>>>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>>>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>>>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>>>>
>>>>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>>>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two
>mid
>>>>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>>>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>>>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>>>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>>>>tears.
>>>>>
>>>>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but
>>would
>>>>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with
>them.
>>>>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background, just
>>>>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Lynnew, 01:06:16 04/09/09 Thu [1]
Thanks Stuart. It may surprise you but only just over ten years ago in independent schools the strap and cane were still legal . I taught in one such school where three of us shared ( men for the boys, women for the girls)the punishment duties amongst us ( head and two deputies). Many parents sought our school out because of its reputation for non nonsense discipline, and we had a happy environment in which to teach polite and respectful kids. Very very little such punishment was administered, but the fact we used it , if ever necessary , up to and including sixth formers was a deterrent.
The last girl I caned was a sixth former. She had been caught smoking and out of bounds ( buying twenty cigarettes).She was caught by a junior member of staff to whom she had used foul language and issued a veiled threat. Despite my description of the offense she wasn't a regular trouble maker, but offered no real explanation other than she was in a foul mood when caught and apologized to the junior staff member.
I talked to her for a long while but could get nowhere as to why she acted this way, and told her she could choose suspension for two weeks or six of the best. Six was rare, very rare , normally a couple or three at most. I notified her parents , who agreed with me, and she chose the cane. We normally caned the hands, but six was far too much So I had her bend over. It was over quickly, but as I expected she cried for the last couple of strokes. Once it was over we talked quietly whilst she composed herself. There was no anger or real distress.The morning after she brought me unbidden a letter of apology, and we shook hands .She told me she was sorry , and that day was getting a little reminder of her behavior every time she sat down! There were no further problems with her .She won a place at a leading university.
Now in my view which was better a few minutes pain and immediate remorse, or two weeks loss of education? One is over in a minute or two , the other can , especially in public exam years place a girl's future at risk.
It's not much different in families. My kids feel, for example that the punishment is quick, given whilst the offense is fresh in their mind, and is not drawn out , nor causes resentment- it is seen as fair. If they objected and wanted grounding , lines or loss of TV computer etc., I would do it , but this drags the affair out over weeks not minutes. My girls at at the top of the class at school , are polite respectful, and lead fulfilling independent lives . In short they are well adjusted citizens.
lynne my interest is purely as I have never known of
>anyone in the UK who genuinely smacks teens bottoms. I
>feel if more teens were smacked they would be more
>respectful etc etc
>
>>Stuart, My method of punishment is to talk to the
>>girl/s about the offense. when they have admitted
>>their wrongdoing, I tell them a spanking is to be the
>>penalty and then askher/ them politely to follow me
>>into the kitchen. I ask her/them to stand on the back
>>wall facing me hands by her/their sides. I then
>>announce the form of punishment ( cane or strap). I
>>have a high kitchen stool which I use for cooking. I
>>put this in the middle of the room and take out as
>>appropriate the cane or the tawse. I then ask the
>>first girl to step forward and remove her
>>skirt/trousers completely , folding them and putting
>>them to one side. Then she must stretch over the stool
>>and grab the 'low' bar. Then I apply the penalty. If
>>it is the cane its a little more formal as I do test
>>it for 'spring' and thus there are a couple of warning
>>'swishes'. with the tawse ( mine is a three tail
>>'heavy' from John J, Dick) it is simply applied in the
>>time honoured method, holding the tails straight until
>>I release the stoke. I NEVER tell the girls in advance
>>the number of strokes to expect....that is for me to
>>know and them to find out! But I am never
>>unreasonable, and I do ask them to count.Miscount and
>>I take it again. I don't give extra for yells, tears
>>or any sort of performance, except if a girl were to
>>rise from the stool completely , we would have to
>>start over again.
>>
>>Should the offense require a handstrapping (where
>>'hands' have been involved in the act - stealing,
>>hands caught rumaging in my handbag, smoking etc)
>>etc) before bending the girl over the stool I apply
>>'six' ( three on each hand , with the hands held
>>'Scottish style') and the tawse drawn over the
>>shoulder.This, as those of you who had the experience
>>of Scottish schooling in the days of the belt will
>>endorse, is a most 'memorable' experience.
>>
>>
>>My girls are normally very co-operative, recognising
>>the good the punishment does, and knowing I only
>>correct them for their own benefit.Normally, my
>>punishment does give rise to tears of shame as much as
>>pain, although there is no point in punishment without
>>sting. After the punishment is over we always hug so
>>there is no ill feeling.
>>
>>As to knickers - it isn't an issue . Both attend
>>independent schools where uniform inspection is
>>carried out on occasion. What suits the school is ok
>>by me.Were they to wear very modern attire in any case
>>it would be worse for them, unlike shool wear, thongs
>>etc etc give absolutely no protection- indeed in my
>>case would render the wearer subject to 'extra'!
>>
>>I wondered from your interest Stuart, do you have kids
>>to disicpline or were you disciplined yourself ?
>>
>>
>>
>>>lynnew so u have your girls take their
>>>skirts/trousers off? I am guessing you have ruleson
>>>the type of knickers they may wear?
>>>
>>>>No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I
>>have
>>>>returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers
>>the
>>>>last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in
>>>>reality it makes very little difference to the
>effect
>>>>of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters
>>and
>>>>I discussed this only the other week when I had to
>>>>tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language
>and
>>>>swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought
>>>>about by a serious problem between friends at
>school,
>>>>but a few strokes brought them to order.
>>>>
>>>>Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in
>>>>line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me when
>>>>replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum,
>>>>seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really can
>>>>let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
>>>>
>>>>They told me then they believe spanking is really
>>>>effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is
>>>>given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all
>>>>over and forgiven quickly.
>>>>
>>>>As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls are
>>>>proud of , although I know at least one of their
>>>>friends confided in me she wished her parents would
>>do
>>>>the same to her. She gets grounded and the
>>>>reciminations , and punishment hangs around for
>>weeks.
>>>> I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church
>who
>>>>spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>>>>>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved in
>>>>>the discipline?
>>>>>Do others know how you discipline?
>>>>>
>>>>>>How would you feel about others (neighbour, pastor
>>,
>>>>>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age matter?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I was brought up in a no spank family in Scotland.
>>>>>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured
>>out,
>>>>>>and were never discussed, my parents, both
>>>practicing
>>>>>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of me
>>>>>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was
>>with
>>>>>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you
>hands).
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older 'hung
>>>>out
>>>>>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>>>>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by
>>>their
>>>>>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my
>>parents,
>>>>>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission
>to
>>>>>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one occasion
>>I
>>>>>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I and
>>>>the
>>>>>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>>>>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our state
>>>on
>>>>>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I
>>>got
>>>>>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt
>was
>>>>>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and
>>>me,
>>>>>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom would
>>>be
>>>>>>mad, I told her and she looked and just commented'
>>>>>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>>>>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>>>>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two
>>mid
>>>>>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>>>>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>>>>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>>>>>administered soundly so that it normally leads to
>>>>>>tears.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but
>>>would
>>>>>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with
>>them.
>>>>>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background,
>just
>>>>>>hypocritical ?
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Re: others spanking your child. -- Stuart, 03:56:31 04/10/09 Fri [1]
lynnew
I would be really interested to know what part of the uk your in.
Would you care to email me direct?
>Thanks Stuart. It may surprise you but only just over
>ten years ago in independent schools the strap and
>cane were still legal . I taught in one such school
>where three of us shared ( men for the boys, women for
>the girls)the punishment duties amongst us ( head and
>two deputies). Many parents sought our school out
>because of its reputation for non nonsense discipline,
>and we had a happy environment in which to teach
>polite and respectful kids. Very very little such
>punishment was administered, but the fact we used it ,
>if ever necessary , up to and including sixth formers
>was a deterrent.
>
>The last girl I caned was a sixth former. She had been
>caught smoking and out of bounds ( buying twenty
>cigarettes).She was caught by a junior member of staff
>to whom she had used foul language and issued a veiled
>threat. Despite my description of the offense she
>wasn't a regular trouble maker, but offered no real
>explanation other than she was in a foul mood when
>caught and apologized to the junior staff member.
>
>I talked to her for a long while but could get nowhere
>as to why she acted this way, and told her she could
>choose suspension for two weeks or six of the best.
>Six was rare, very rare , normally a couple or three
>at most. I notified her parents , who agreed with me,
>and she chose the cane. We normally caned the hands,
>but six was far too much So I had her bend over. It
>was over quickly, but as I expected she cried for the
>last couple of strokes. Once it was over we talked
>quietly whilst she composed herself. There was no
>anger or real distress.The morning after she brought
>me unbidden a letter of apology, and we shook hands
>.She told me she was sorry , and that day was getting
>a little reminder of her behavior every time she sat
>down! There were no further problems with her .She won
>a place at a leading university.
>
>Now in my view which was better a few minutes pain and
>immediate remorse, or two weeks loss of education? One
>is over in a minute or two , the other can ,
>especially in public exam years place a girl's future
>at risk.
>
>It's not much different in families. My kids feel, for
>example that the punishment is quick, given whilst the
>offense is fresh in their mind, and is not drawn out ,
>nor causes resentment- it is seen as fair. If they
>objected and wanted grounding , lines or loss of TV
>computer etc., I would do it , but this drags the
>affair out over weeks not minutes. My girls at at the
>top of the class at school , are polite respectful,
>and lead fulfilling independent lives . In short they
>are well adjusted citizens.
>
>
>
>
>
>lynne my interest is purely as I have never known of
>>anyone in the UK who genuinely smacks teens bottoms. I
>>feel if more teens were smacked they would be more
>>respectful etc etc
>>
>>>Stuart, My method of punishment is to talk to the
>>>girl/s about the offense. when they have admitted
>>>their wrongdoing, I tell them a spanking is to be the
>>>penalty and then askher/ them politely to follow me
>>>into the kitchen. I ask her/them to stand on the back
>>>wall facing me hands by her/their sides. I then
>>>announce the form of punishment ( cane or strap). I
>>>have a high kitchen stool which I use for cooking. I
>>>put this in the middle of the room and take out as
>>>appropriate the cane or the tawse. I then ask the
>>>first girl to step forward and remove her
>>>skirt/trousers completely , folding them and putting
>>>them to one side. Then she must stretch over the
>stool
>>>and grab the 'low' bar. Then I apply the penalty. If
>>>it is the cane its a little more formal as I do test
>>>it for 'spring' and thus there are a couple of
>warning
>>>'swishes'. with the tawse ( mine is a three tail
>>>'heavy' from John J, Dick) it is simply applied in
>the
>>>time honoured method, holding the tails straight
>until
>>>I release the stoke. I NEVER tell the girls in
>advance
>>>the number of strokes to expect....that is for me to
>>>know and them to find out! But I am never
>>>unreasonable, and I do ask them to count.Miscount and
>>>I take it again. I don't give extra for yells, tears
>>>or any sort of performance, except if a girl were to
>>>rise from the stool completely , we would have to
>>>start over again.
>>>
>>>Should the offense require a handstrapping (where
>>>'hands' have been involved in the act - stealing,
>>>hands caught rumaging in my handbag, smoking etc)
>>>etc) before bending the girl over the stool I apply
>>>'six' ( three on each hand , with the hands held
>>>'Scottish style') and the tawse drawn over the
>>>shoulder.This, as those of you who had the experience
>>>of Scottish schooling in the days of the belt will
>>>endorse, is a most 'memorable' experience.
>>>
>>>
>>>My girls are normally very co-operative, recognising
>>>the good the punishment does, and knowing I only
>>>correct them for their own benefit.Normally, my
>>>punishment does give rise to tears of shame as much
>as
>>>pain, although there is no point in punishment
>without
>>>sting. After the punishment is over we always hug
>so
>>>there is no ill feeling.
>>>
>>>As to knickers - it isn't an issue . Both attend
>>>independent schools where uniform inspection is
>>>carried out on occasion. What suits the school is ok
>>>by me.Were they to wear very modern attire in any
>case
>>>it would be worse for them, unlike shool wear,
>thongs
>>>etc etc give absolutely no protection- indeed in my
>>>case would render the wearer subject to 'extra'!
>>>
>>>I wondered from your interest Stuart, do you have
>kids
>>>to disicpline or were you disciplined yourself ?
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>>lynnew so u have your girls take their
>>>>skirts/trousers off? I am guessing you have ruleson
>>>>the type of knickers they may wear?
>>>>
>>>>>No, at the moment I'm not in Scotland, although I
>>>have
>>>>>returned on occasion. I am widowed so that answers
>>>the
>>>>>last part. I allow them the modesty of knickers, in
>>>>>reality it makes very little difference to the
>>effect
>>>>>of the spanking in my mind. Actually my daughters
>>>and
>>>>>I discussed this only the other week when I had to
>>>>>tawse both of them for rowing, using bad language
>>and
>>>>>swearing. That's very very unususal and was brought
>>>>>about by a serious problem between friends at
>>school,
>>>>>but a few strokes brought them to order.
>>>>>
>>>>>Indeed my younger daughter , who was standing 'in
>>>>>line' whilst I strapped her Sister, said to me
>when
>>>>>replacing her sister over the kitchen stool ' Mum,
>>>>>seeing the tawse has done the trick , you really
>can
>>>>>let me off the real thing.....I didn't of course..
>>>>>
>>>>>They told me then they believe spanking is really
>>>>>effective,'tough love' it's quick , hurts but is
>>>>>given with love, and causes no resentment . Its all
>>>>>over and forgiven quickly.
>>>>>
>>>>>As to others knowing it isn't anything the girls
>are
>>>>>proud of , although I know at least one of their
>>>>>friends confided in me she wished her parents would
>>>do
>>>>>the same to her. She gets grounded and the
>>>>>reciminations , and punishment hangs around for
>>>weeks.
>>>>> I know of a couple of other mothers at my Church
>>who
>>>>>spank their teens, so its not unknown.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>>lynnew are you still in Scotland then? Do your
>>>>>>dasughters get it bare bum? Is dad ever involved
>in
>>>>>>the discipline?
>>>>>>Do others know how you discipline?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>How would you feel about others (neighbour,
>pastor
>>>,
>>>>>>>teachers) spanking your children? Does age
>matter?
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I was brought up in a no spank family in
>Scotland.
>>>>>>>Strangely, whilst , for reasons I never figured
>>>out,
>>>>>>>and were never discussed, my parents, both
>>>>practicing
>>>>>>>Christians, did not spank, but they approved of
>me
>>>>>>>being spanked at school ( in my school this was
>>>with
>>>>>>>the feared Scottish belt ot 'tawse' on you
>>hands).
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Also I frequently played, and as I got older
>'hung
>>>>>out
>>>>>>>with' two kids who were one of our neighbour's
>>>>>>>children. They were spanked at home,normally by
>>>>their
>>>>>>>mother with a belt. She had checked with my
>>>parents,
>>>>>>>and told me if we misbehaved she had permission
>>to
>>>>>>>wallop me as well as them! Indeed, on one
>occasion
>>>I
>>>>>>>remember well, we were in out mid teens, and I
>and
>>>>>the
>>>>>>>neighbour's daughter went to town and drank some
>>>>>>>alcohol, which was 'forbidden' . However our
>state
>>>>on
>>>>>>>return was soon discovered by my neighbour, and I
>>>>got
>>>>>>>the best bare butt spanking of my life. My butt
>>was
>>>>>>>left cherry red with some really clear welts, and
>>>>me,
>>>>>>>rightly bawling like a baby. Thinking my mom
>would
>>>>be
>>>>>>>mad, I told her and she looked and just
>commented'
>>>>>>>That's a real good job. ~now I know when your
>>>>>>>misbehaving where to send you!
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I am bringing my family up traditionally and use
>>>>>>>spanking as my main disiplinary tool. I have two
>>>mid
>>>>>>>teen daughters,(14 and 16) and both know that
>>>>>>>misbehaviour leads to a good caning or belting
>>>>>>>whichever I deem most appropriate. Either is
>>>>>>>administered soundly so that it normally leads
>to
>>>>>>>tears.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I have no worries about disciplining them, but
>>>>would
>>>>>>>feel less sanguine about others 'dealing' with
>>>them.
>>>>>>>Am I right or wrong, or, given my background,
>>just
>>>>>>>hypocritical ?
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Amazing -- James, 08:55:09 04/03/09 Fri [3]
Every year children die in corporal punishment sessions where they are literally beaten to death. I see little good reason to retain this system because it is completely arbitrary. When corporal punishments were used to punish criminals they were convicted beyond a reasonable doubt, and sentenced by a presumable fair and impartial judge. These judicial punishments took place with and where still legal; they take place with a doctor monitoring the event to ensure that the person is not killed. Most parents have little knowledge of human biology, and many are plain idiots. I have a difficult time accepting the proposition that due to a person's age or status; that they can be moderately tortured at the whim of a psyco parent-all legal. I have seen no state law that states a child must do something wrong to be corporeally punished, the laws only concern the amount of or injuries caused by the moderate torture. When someone is wrongfully sent to prison there is almost always compensation given, when an adult crosses the line and instigates violence to another, the person is subject to civil liability, and criminal in some cases. A child spanked to the fullest extent of the law, who is later found to have done nothing wrong is responded to with "oh well". When a parent does cross the line and is willing to step up and accept responsibility, they face the possibility of their family being torn apart, criminal prosecution, custody issues, ect. Is this for of discipline so great and so wonderfully necessary that it out weighs the harm?
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Re: Amazing -- Vanessa, 06:43:40 04/05/09 Sun [1]
Wow James, Don't know if its worth replying, certainly so far as I am concerned you're so wide of the mark!!
When a child were you ever spanked yourself at home , say or at school? I only ask this because the experience of most children is so alien to your rant.
Obviously in every barrel there can be bad apples, but most of the spanking parents and teachers/Principals I know would NEVER DREAM of harming their kids. You don't kill kids by causing their butts to redden a little. A good paddling at school may cause a few bruises , and some discomfort for a lttle while, but its not attempted murder.
You are right you can't take a spanking back, but that's why you should only spank for clearly established wrong doing. In virtually ever case I can think of , certainly when I was young and with my kids now both at home and at school, the kids always -eventuially - admit the misdemenour- and accept the punishment as fair. After all they are not tied down or ever restrained in any way in my house, nor in any of the schools I know that paddle. I ask them quietly and politely to 'bend over', normally with their hands on a chair seat and if they were feeling 'got at' I know they would object - and no - if they did ~I wouldn't thrash them within an inch of their lives!!!!! I would talk to them as sensible human beings , without anger or raised voices, and get to the bottom of the issue, to excuse a pun.
Now many States use capital punishment in the US. that you can't reverse, and there are many miscarriages, but I guess as its a judge and jury who make the mistake, and a doctor oversees the sentence that's ok! not torture! Not Murder!not like a spanking!
Have you ever talked to kids? Take a look the 'Principal's Door ' extract on youtube from Arkansas, the kids chose paddling over a long detention, and what does the 'star' say to the reporter, something to the effect of the swats stung, and I've learned my lesson, but at least I can go out and enjoy myself with my friends tonight.Oh! and she can still smile. Doesn't seem much like torture to me.
The worst thing in my job as a teacher/administrator is nowadays some kids in my school- excluding those whose parents 'fill in ' the no paddling request,- are really scared without reason if they get themselves a paddling. They believe your propaganda. Today few ever get the paddle, not like when I was at school when you were lucky to avoid it , but a false mistique has grown up as a consequence.
I have to spend a good deal of time explaining to scared students that a paddling isn't unbearable ,It's just a series of nasty stings. I'm happy to let them examine the paddle, and I'll even show them my swing, before they chose that or a non physical punishment. When they've had it many apologize and say they wouldn't have made a fuss if they had known what I was really going to do !!Many even thank me for teaching them a quick lesson. But hey teachers who still paddle should be on trial doubtless for attempted murder or worse. Is 20 to life just, do you think???
Actually James we will never agree, but please accept the point that just as the vast majority of gun owners don't massacre their neighbors, the vast majority of parents and teachers who spank are caring people who would never abuse, but believe what they are doing really does help kids, and in school provides a quick, effective punishment option .Please note the word option - there is suspension and /or detention if they prefer.
On one point you are right - abuse in whatever form is unacceptable in a civilized society , and every citizen has a duty to stop that.
>Every year children die in corporal punishment
>sessions where they are literally beaten to death. I
>see little good reason to retain this system because
>it is completely arbitrary. When corporal punishments
>were used to punish criminals they were convicted
>beyond a reasonable doubt, and sentenced by a
>presumable fair and impartial judge. These judicial
>punishments took place with and where still legal;
>they take place with a doctor monitoring the event to
>ensure that the person is not killed. Most parents
>have little knowledge of human biology, and many are
>plain idiots. I have a difficult time accepting the
>proposition that due to a person's age or status; that
>they can be moderately tortured at the whim of a psyco
>parent-all legal. I have seen no state law that states
>a child must do something wrong to be corporeally
>punished, the laws only concern the amount of or
>injuries caused by the moderate torture. When someone
>is wrongfully sent to prison there is almost always
>compensation given, when an adult crosses the line and
>instigates violence to another, the person is subject
>to civil liability, and criminal in some cases. A
>child spanked to the fullest extent of the law, who is
>later found to have done nothing wrong is responded to
>with "oh well". When a parent does cross the line and
>is willing to step up and accept responsibility, they
>face the possibility of their family being torn apart,
>criminal prosecution, custody issues, ect. Is this for
>of discipline so great and so wonderfully necessary
>that it out weighs the harm?
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Re: Amazing -- Susanne (texas gal), 16:52:27 04/07/09 Tue [1]
Vanessa, you sound a really nice VP or whatever, who cares about the kids. In my high School in Texas no one spent any time when paddling us - it was -look at the pick slip bend over and grab those ankles- wham , bang bang- get back to class- yes ma'am.
The first time I was sent up I was in and out in two minutes three swats, crying, no tissue even, and I really ( honestly!) didn't know what it was for!!!
The second time there were so many in line the sports coach helped out. she really whacked as hard as she could . I got five for sass and tardy points. I could hardly walk. Even the teacher whose class I went back to, told me to take some time out in the rest room. She came to see how I was. I remember her saying' What have they done to you poor girl?' Just a routine paddling , that was all
I don't disapprove of corporal punishment. We all have to learn , and a little bit of pain can do some good. I smacked my kids, even had a paddle. BUT you need to temper that with love and understanding. Compassion was what was missing in our school.
Just a thought . what do y'all think?
>Wow James, Don't know if its worth replying, certainly
>so far as I am concerned you're so wide of the mark!!
>
>When a child were you ever spanked yourself at home ,
>say or at school? I only ask this because the
>experience of most children is so alien to your rant.
>
>Obviously in every barrel there can be bad apples, but
>most of the spanking parents and teachers/Principals I
>know would NEVER DREAM of harming their kids. You
>don't kill kids by causing their butts to redden a
>little. A good paddling at school may cause a few
>bruises , and some discomfort for a lttle while, but
>its not attempted murder.
>
>You are right you can't take a spanking back, but
>that's why you should only spank for clearly
>established wrong doing. In virtually ever case I can
>think of , certainly when I was young and with my
>kids now both at home and at school, the kids always
>-eventuially - admit the misdemenour- and accept the
>punishment as fair. After all they are not tied down
>or ever restrained in any way in my house, nor in any
>of the schools I know that paddle. I ask them
>quietly and politely to 'bend over', normally with
>their hands on a chair seat and if they were feeling
>'got at' I know they would object - and no - if they
>did ~I wouldn't thrash them within an inch of their
>lives!!!!! I would talk to them as sensible human
>beings , without anger or raised voices, and get to
>the bottom of the issue, to excuse a pun.
>
>Now many States use capital punishment in the US. that
>you can't reverse, and there are many miscarriages,
>but I guess as its a judge and jury who make the
>mistake, and a doctor oversees the sentence that's ok!
>not torture! Not Murder!not like a spanking!
>
>Have you ever talked to kids? Take a look the
>'Principal's Door ' extract on youtube from Arkansas,
>the kids chose paddling over a long detention, and
>what does the 'star' say to the reporter, something to
>the effect of the swats stung, and I've learned my
>lesson, but at least I can go out and enjoy myself
>with my friends tonight.Oh! and she can still smile.
>Doesn't seem much like torture to me.
>
>The worst thing in my job as a teacher/administrator
>is nowadays some kids in my school- excluding those
>whose parents 'fill in ' the no paddling request,- are
>really scared without reason if they get themselves a
>paddling. They believe your propaganda. Today few ever
>get the paddle, not like when I was at school when you
>were lucky to avoid it , but a false mistique has
>grown up as a consequence.
>
>I have to spend a good deal of time explaining to
>scared students that a paddling isn't unbearable ,It's
> just a series of nasty stings. I'm happy to let them
>examine the paddle, and I'll even show them my swing,
>before they chose that or a non physical punishment.
>When they've had it many apologize and say they
>wouldn't have made a fuss if they had known what I was
>really going to do !!Many even thank me for teaching
>them a quick lesson. But hey teachers who still paddle
>should be on trial doubtless for attempted murder or
>worse. Is 20 to life just, do you think???
>
>Actually James we will never agree, but please accept
>the point that just as the vast majority of gun owners
>don't massacre their neighbors, the vast majority of
>parents and teachers who spank are caring people who
>would never abuse, but believe what they are doing
>really does help kids, and in school provides a quick,
>effective punishment option .Please note the word
>option - there is suspension and /or detention if they
>prefer.
>
>On one point you are right - abuse in whatever form is
>unacceptable in a civilized society , and every
>citizen has a duty to stop that.
>
>
>
>
>
>>Every year children die in corporal punishment
>>sessions where they are literally beaten to death. I
>>see little good reason to retain this system because
>>it is completely arbitrary. When corporal punishments
>>were used to punish criminals they were convicted
>>beyond a reasonable doubt, and sentenced by a
>>presumable fair and impartial judge. These judicial
>>punishments took place with and where still legal;
>>they take place with a doctor monitoring the event to
>>ensure that the person is not killed. Most parents
>>have little knowledge of human biology, and many are
>>plain idiots. I have a difficult time accepting the
>>proposition that due to a person's age or status; that
>>they can be moderately tortured at the whim of a psyco
>>parent-all legal. I have seen no state law that states
>>a child must do something wrong to be corporeally
>>punished, the laws only concern the amount of or
>>injuries caused by the moderate torture. When someone
>>is wrongfully sent to prison there is almost always
>>compensation given, when an adult crosses the line and
>>instigates violence to another, the person is subject
>>to civil liability, and criminal in some cases. A
>>child spanked to the fullest extent of the law, who is
>>later found to have done nothing wrong is responded to
>>with "oh well". When a parent does cross the line and
>>is willing to step up and accept responsibility, they
>>face the possibility of their family being torn apart,
>>criminal prosecution, custody issues, ect. Is this for
>>of discipline so great and so wonderfully necessary
>>that it out weighs the harm?
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spanking works -- Bill, 02:10:53 02/21/09 Sat [7]
I'm a father of 3 children, ages 1, 3 and 6.
Good hard spankings are what every child needs in order to learn responsibility.
After my 6 yr old ran into the street, I told her she was going to get spanked 10 times with the belt. She started crying right away and I told her that crying wasn't going to do her any good. I told her to get in her room and lie face down on the edge of her bed. I lifted her dress and slipped her panties down. I use an old heavy leather strap to ensure the spanking leaves a lasting impression. I always double the belt over and hold it with both hands. I draw it back and whack it against her butt as hard as I can. If each stroke doesn't leave a welt, then you're not doing it right. You shouldn't be alarmed if a spanking results in bruising or welting. That will go away within a week, but the lesson will stay with them.
When my 1 yr old threw a temper tantrum in the store, I knew what I needed to do. You need to teach them young that bad behavior will not be tolerated. I immediately took her out to our family van. I unfastened the sticky tabs on her pamper and pulled it back so I could spank her on the bare bottom. I took her over my lap and spanked her with a thick wooden paddle I keep in the glove box. When her little butt turned bright red I knew she was getting the message. I usually give her anywhere from 5 to 10 good hard whacks. Little ones like to kick and squirm when they're being spanked, and I'm trying to break her of that habit. The more she squirms the more I spank. I tell her she better hold still or she'll get it even worse.
With my 3 yr old son I also use a heavy leather strap on his bare bottom. When I caught him throwing blocks at his sister I asked him if he was ready for a good spanking. I had both of his sisters come in the room to watch and my wife is usually there also. I like my wife to be present during the children's spankings so the kids know we are united when it comes to punishment.
I made my son take off all his clothes. Then I told him to lie face down on the living room floor so he could receive his punishment. My wife brought me the belt and I stood over him and gave him 10 good hard whacks of the strap. Then I had him apologize to his sister. He never did that again.
Children need to know that you are in charge! They need to learn to have respect for their parents. My kids know that their butt belongs to ME and NOT to THEM. They know every time they do something wrong their pants WILL be taken down and they WILL be spanked. No exceptions!
With small children it isn't unusual if they wet themselves while being spanked. My two younger kids gets very upset and nervous when I'm in the process of spanking them. On occasion they will lose control of their bladder and wet themselves. You can always clean the child later, but the spanking must continue. Children also like to cry and plead with you when they know they're about to be spanked. They need to learn that pleading will no effect the outcome. Once a child is told they will be spanked, you need to follow through with it. If my children try to protest the spanking they know they will get it even worse. This teaches them to cooperate with the process.
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Re: spanking works -- Bill (Child Spanking Pics and Blog), 02:15:25 02/21/09 Sat [1]
Spanking Blog:
http://childhoodspanking.blogspot.com
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Re: spanking works -- Bill, 02:28:24 02/21/09 Sat [1]
If your children are misbehaving you need to yank those pants down and bust their butt accordingly! Use a heavy leather strap and administer 10 hard whacks! They'll get the message real quick! Children need to know that you are in charge! They need to have respect for their parents. My kids know that their butt belongs to ME and NOT to THEM. They know EVERY time they do something wrong their pants WILL be taken down and they WILL be spanked. No exceptions!
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Re: spanking works -- Sara from amsterdam, 12:29:42 02/27/09 Fri [1]
>I'm a father of 3 children, ages 1, 3 and 6.
>Good hard spankings are what every child needs in
>order to learn responsibility.
>
>After my 6 yr old ran into the street, I told her she
>was going to get spanked 10 times with the belt. She
>started crying right away and I told her that crying
>wasn't going to do her any good. I told her to get in
>her room and lie face down on the edge of her bed. I
>lifted her dress and slipped her panties down. I use
>an old heavy leather strap to ensure the spanking
>leaves a lasting impression. I always double the belt
>over and hold it with both hands. I draw it back and
>whack it against her butt as hard as I can. If each
>stroke doesn't leave a welt, then you're not doing it
>right. You shouldn't be alarmed if a spanking results
>in bruising or welting. That will go away within a
>week, but the lesson will stay with them.
>
>
>When my 1 yr old threw a temper tantrum in the store,
>I knew what I needed to do. You need to teach them
>young that bad behavior will not be tolerated. I
>immediately took her out to our family van. I
>unfastened the sticky tabs on her pamper and pulled it
>back so I could spank her on the bare bottom. I took
>her over my lap and spanked her with a thick wooden
>paddle I keep in the glove box. When her little butt
>turned bright red I knew she was getting the message.
>I usually give her anywhere from 5 to 10 good hard
>whacks. Little ones like to kick and squirm when
>they're being spanked, and I'm trying to break her of
>that habit. The more she squirms the more I spank. I
>tell her she better hold still or she'll get it even
>worse.
>
>
>With my 3 yr old son I also use a heavy leather strap
>on his bare bottom. When I caught him throwing blocks
>at his sister I asked him if he was ready for a good
>spanking. I had both of his sisters come in the room
>to watch and my wife is usually there also. I like my
>wife to be present during the children's spankings so
>the kids know we are united when it comes to
>punishment.
>I made my son take off all his clothes. Then I told
>him to lie face down on the living room floor so he
>could receive his punishment. My wife brought me the
>belt and I stood over him and gave him 10 good hard
>whacks of the strap. Then I had him apologize to his
>sister. He never did that again.
>
>Children need to know that you are in charge! They
>need to learn to have respect for their parents. My
>kids know that their butt belongs to ME and NOT to
>THEM. They know every time they do something wrong
>their pants WILL be taken down and they WILL be
>spanked. No exceptions!
>
>With small children it isn't unusual if they wet
>themselves while being spanked. My two younger kids
>gets very upset and nervous when I'm in the process of
>spanking them. On occasion they will lose control of
>their bladder and wet themselves. You can always clean
>the child later, but the spanking must continue.
>Children also like to cry and plead with you when they
>know they're about to be spanked. They need to learn
>that pleading will no effect the outcome. Once a child
>is told they will be spanked, you need to follow
>through with it. If my children try to protest the
>spanking they know they will get it even worse. This
>teaches them to cooperate with the process.
Bill you can´t be serieus! I hope you are a fake poster. To hit a 3 and 6 year old with a belt and to hit a baby with a stick is sick and crazy. There is nothing wrong with spanking,but this is child abuse!!!
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Re: spanking works -- Gina (horrified), 11:59:52 03/17/09 Tue [1]
I hope your ass gets thrown in prison. That is abuse not spanking.
>I'm a father of 3 children, ages 1, 3 and 6.
>Good hard spankings are what every child needs in
>order to learn responsibility.
>
>After my 6 yr old ran into the street, I told her she
>was going to get spanked 10 times with the belt. She
>started crying right away and I told her that crying
>wasn't going to do her any good. I told her to get in
>her room and lie face down on the edge of her bed. I
>lifted her dress and slipped her panties down. I use
>an old heavy leather strap to ensure the spanking
>leaves a lasting impression. I always double the belt
>over and hold it with both hands. I draw it back and
>whack it against her butt as hard as I can. If each
>stroke doesn't leave a welt, then you're not doing it
>right. You shouldn't be alarmed if a spanking results
>in bruising or welting. That will go away within a
>week, but the lesson will stay with them.
>
>
>When my 1 yr old threw a temper tantrum in the store,
>I knew what I needed to do. You need to teach them
>young that bad behavior will not be tolerated. I
>immediately took her out to our family van. I
>unfastened the sticky tabs on her pamper and pulled it
>back so I could spank her on the bare bottom. I took
>her over my lap and spanked her with a thick wooden
>paddle I keep in the glove box. When her little butt
>turned bright red I knew she was getting the message.
>I usually give her anywhere from 5 to 10 good hard
>whacks. Little ones like to kick and squirm when
>they're being spanked, and I'm trying to break her of
>that habit. The more she squirms the more I spank. I
>tell her she better hold still or she'll get it even
>worse.
>
>
>With my 3 yr old son I also use a heavy leather strap
>on his bare bottom. When I caught him throwing blocks
>at his sister I asked him if he was ready for a good
>spanking. I had both of his sisters come in the room
>to watch and my wife is usually there also. I like my
>wife to be present during the children's spankings so
>the kids know we are united when it comes to
>punishment.
>I made my son take off all his clothes. Then I told
>him to lie face down on the living room floor so he
>could receive his punishment. My wife brought me the
>belt and I stood over him and gave him 10 good hard
>whacks of the strap. Then I had him apologize to his
>sister. He never did that again.
>
>Children need to know that you are in charge! They
>need to learn to have respect for their parents. My
>kids know that their butt belongs to ME and NOT to
>THEM. They know every time they do something wrong
>their pants WILL be taken down and they WILL be
>spanked. No exceptions!
>
>With small children it isn't unusual if they wet
>themselves while being spanked. My two younger kids
>gets very upset and nervous when I'm in the process of
>spanking them. On occasion they will lose control of
>their bladder and wet themselves. You can always clean
>the child later, but the spanking must continue.
>Children also like to cry and plead with you when they
>know they're about to be spanked. They need to learn
>that pleading will no effect the outcome. Once a child
>is told they will be spanked, you need to follow
>through with it. If my children try to protest the
>spanking they know they will get it even worse. This
>teaches them to cooperate with the process.
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Re: spanking works -- Unbelievable, 11:01:32 03/19/09 Thu [1]
>I'm a father of 3 children, ages 1, 3 and 6.
>Good hard spankings are what every child needs in
>order to learn responsibility.
>
>After my 6 yr old ran into the street, I told her she
>was going to get spanked 10 times with the belt. She
>started crying right away and I told her that crying
>wasn't going to do her any good. I told her to get in
>her room and lie face down on the edge of her bed. I
>lifted her dress and slipped her panties down. I use
>an old heavy leather strap to ensure the spanking
>leaves a lasting impression. I always double the belt
>over and hold it with both hands. I draw it back and
>whack it against her butt as hard as I can. If each
>stroke doesn't leave a welt, then you're not doing it
>right. You shouldn't be alarmed if a spanking results
>in bruising or welting. That will go away within a
>week, but the lesson will stay with them.
>
>
>When my 1 yr old threw a temper tantrum in the store,
>I knew what I needed to do. You need to teach them
>young that bad behavior will not be tolerated. I
>immediately took her out to our family van. I
>unfastened the sticky tabs on her pamper and pulled it
>back so I could spank her on the bare bottom. I took
>her over my lap and spanked her with a thick wooden
>paddle I keep in the glove box. When her little butt
>turned bright red I knew she was getting the message.
>I usually give her anywhere from 5 to 10 good hard
>whacks. Little ones like to kick and squirm when
>they're being spanked, and I'm trying to break her of
>that habit. The more she squirms the more I spank. I
>tell her she better hold still or she'll get it even
>worse.
>
>
>With my 3 yr old son I also use a heavy leather strap
>on his bare bottom. When I caught him throwing blocks
>at his sister I asked him if he was ready for a good
>spanking. I had both of his sisters come in the room
>to watch and my wife is usually there also. I like my
>wife to be present during the children's spankings so
>the kids know we are united when it comes to
>punishment.
>I made my son take off all his clothes. Then I told
>him to lie face down on the living room floor so he
>could receive his punishment. My wife brought me the
>belt and I stood over him and gave him 10 good hard
>whacks of the strap. Then I had him apologize to his
>sister. He never did that again.
>
>Children need to know that you are in charge! They
>need to learn to have respect for their parents. My
>kids know that their butt belongs to ME and NOT to
>THEM. They know every time they do something wrong
>their pants WILL be taken down and they WILL be
>spanked. No exceptions!
>
>With small children it isn't unusual if they wet
>themselves while being spanked. My two younger kids
>gets very upset and nervous when I'm in the process of
>spanking them. On occasion they will lose control of
>their bladder and wet themselves. You can always clean
>the child later, but the spanking must continue.
>Children also like to cry and plead with you when they
>know they're about to be spanked. They need to learn
>that pleading will no effect the outcome. Once a child
>is told they will be spanked, you need to follow
>through with it. If my children try to protest the
>spanking they know they will get it even worse. This
>teaches them to cooperate with the process.
So Bill...one question for you, how often do you hit your wife? Because it sounds to me like you have some unbelievable child abuse problems and I hope you go to hell.
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Re: spanking works -- Louise (sickening), 11:18:52 03/26/09 Thu [1]
Bill if your story is true and your beating your kids you deserve alongwith your wife to burn in hell. how dare you hit a one year old with a belt. You made me mad so can I beat your butt with a belt? I am reporting this email to ACS and if its true I hope to god you lose your kids for abuse you sick twisted bastard
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spank versus no spank -- Verity, 09:42:28 03/15/09 Sun [1]
Just wondered if any of you experienced both both 'spanking' and 'no spank' approaches to discipline when you were a child. I am now 'pro-spank' but made that determination not just by faith or choice but by having experienced both regimes when a child. For what its worth these are my views:-
I experienced both regimes when I was a early 'teenager'. I had been born in a Christian but 'no spank' family ( for those theologians amongst you let's not get into that). My Father died when I was 12. About two years later one of my Mom's sisters had a serious accident and had no one to look after her. My Mom felt she ought to help, but didn't want me to miss school.One of our neighbours was also a widow, a High School Principal, and a lay Baptist Preacher. She had her own daughter who was about my age. She kindly offered to 'look after me' whilst my mother went to her sister. In all over the next year I probably lived with her for a good few months normally in spells of two or three weeks ( Mt mother's sister lived several hindred miles away). Later this arrangement continued with occasional stays at Sheila's , and her daughter would occasionally stay with us, say when mom was attending a conference. Of course then , if we played up it was groundings and no T.V.
At my home life was pretty liberal : no chores , discipline was traditional non spank. I would get grounded,or lose t.v. time, phone rights etc. etc. All of these were 'lengthy' punishments aimed at causing what I shall call mental pain. When I was punished the arguments went on for days. If I though the matter unfair we would have row after row, which only led to my grounding or whatever being increased....which led to more arguments..and so on.
When I was first looked after by Sheila she was straight with me. Her house; her rules. If I broke them punishment would be swift and painful! I was also expected to do chores which was a real shock.
I got my first punishment within a week. I grumbled at my chores ( to clean up after breakfast before going to school), and as a result didn't do it. When I got home at night I was told to go straight to my room. Shelia came in a few minutes later with a leather strap, and very politely asked me to take off my jeans and lay over a couple of pillows on the bed. She then pulled down my panties and gave me a good leathering. I remember I cried, guess a combination of humiliation and pain. When she had finished and I had composed myself, she told me very gently she hoped I had learned a lesson, and gave me a hug to show her continuing love.
For most offenses she used either the strap, or a school paddle. For the latter you stayed clothed,( although if , of course, you wore a skirt it would be straight on your panties), but as in school you either grabbed your ankles or braced yourself against the wall, depending on the number of strokes. Normally her punishments ended in tears, and always with a really sore behind.However they were quick , specific and a deterrent which really made you think twice before re-offending.
Sheila had definite ideas about the ritual of punishment. You would be summoned by her for a telling off, and then sent to your room 'to wait'. She didn't keep you long, just long enough to reflect on your misdemour and to think of what was to come. When she came into the room, there was no discussion it was just a business like process. she never told you how many strokes, that was for her to know , you to find out! You had to count, and if you messed up ....she started 'from the top' sgain. Swear and it was an extra two, refuse to bend or otherwise comply with her ( very polite) requests , an extra four.Should you be silly enough to repeat an offense....double!
I found this much more effective for me as a punishment. It was quick, you knew what would happen if you 're-offended'. Once the punsihment was over there was no 'atmosphere' in the house afterwards. The penalty had been paid, and life returned to normal.
One reservation is with very young children . I was old enogh to fully understand I was doing wrong. In Sheila's view , a slap was enough for a youngster, as an immediate signal of danger. She didn't believe in the strap or the paddle until about 10 when the child knows right from wrong. but then the spankings really have to hurt!
She also believed that spankings worked right through the teenage years. At about 15 she normally transferred and used a flexible rattan cane ( a proper 'rod') instead of the strap and paddle. This stung more and was given on the bare, touching toes.A normal dose was six or twelve. I only got twelve once, for buying her daughter cigarettes ! We were both punished together ; first one got six stokes then the other.....then back to the first. We yelled at nearly every stoke. It was a remarkably effective punishment. The marks lasted over a fortnight.I never touched tobacco again.
As to my family :we agreed that from the teenage years we would use the cane as the most effective punishment.I did the spanking as our children are girls, I gave an appropriate dose ( normally no more than six). We now have lovely grown up well behaved daughters, who never needed a lot of discipline, but who knew that because we loved them , if they crossed the line a caning was waiting for them - without exception.
My eldest daughter told us only the other week that she was happy to have been raised in a secure well disciplined home.She said she never feared me caning her, for punishment is neccessary deserved correction.The pain is suffering you have earned!
That reminded us of an incident when she was eighteen. One night she drove a friends car home when she had been drinking. the day afterwards, felling guilty, she told me. I tried to stop her , saying that if she carried on I would have to punish her. Our daughter replied that that was fine, perhaps I should get it over with ....but just one thing she had to say, she felt she should get , for the first time in her life, more than six. We all agreed , and I gave her ten of the very best!. After the tears she thanked me ,and said she knew she deserved, and had learned from, every single stroke. that was her last caning.
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When is someone to old to spank -- Blake, 11:21:21 11/15/08 Sat [3]
When is someone to old to spank! It seems to be somethank that we all are dealing on this form.From parents to some young Adults like me who stell get it from time to time.Hope this subject gets use all taking.
Blake
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Re: When is someone to old to spank -- Jo Ann, 08:57:20 01/27/09 Tue [1]
>
>You are never too old to spank. My son, age 17, started lying to us, playing around with drugs, coming in past curfew and basically making poor decisions. We grounded him, took his truck away and nothing seemed to help. One evening I picked him up from school and took him home and made him just pull down his jeans and bend over the couch. I gave him a spanking he would not forget for a long time. He is now 22 years old and about a couple of months ago he thanked me for that spanking. He said it saved his life. Was it easy to give him this spanking? No, but I rather had spanked him then to see him in prison, high on drugs,or an alcoholic. My husband and I have raised five kids. They all are successful. Yes, we believed in spanking if nothing else worked.
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Re: When is someone to old to spank -- Noel W., 06:06:44 03/10/09 Tue [1]
I agree Jo Ann. Sometimes it is when you feel you've 'got beyond' the age for correction that it has its most powerful effect.
I was in mt late teens in the mid 70's. Far too old to be spanked in my view! I was 'going out' with a girl called Mary , a year younger than me. Her Mom, who was widowed, had three other children , all younger again. I knew she spanked them.
Mary had curfew at 11.30 which was very generous compared to many of her, and my friends. One night , however, we decided , quite deliberately, to stay out at a rock concert until the early hours. Of course it was before mobile 'phones , so no call home. Mary's Mom was naturally worried. she rang my Mom , who hadn't a clue where we were. Eventually I rang home just to say I would be very late. My Mom called Mary's who reacted by saying we were selfish little brats who ought to be taught a lesson we wouldn't forget. My Mom concurred, and said she would back Mary's Mom with any discipline she felt appropriate.
When we got home we got the shock of our lives. Mary's Mom ushered us into their dining room where she had pushed aside the table and placed on dining chair in the center of the room. Hooked on the back of it was a rattan cane! Mary told us we were both to be caned for disobedience and thoughtlessness. She told me she had spoken to my Mother.We argued , but without success.
We were given twelve strokes each - really hard on our butts, plus four 'extras' for arguing and sassing her. We were allowed to keep our boxers/knickers on for modesty,( not that they gave any meaningful protection) but had to remove our jeans .At the end of the punishment , despite our age , we were both in tears. But boy was it effective!!!
After that I was always polite and respectful to Mary's Mom. I once crossed her again. I bought a little 'pot' which I shared with Mary. Mary's stash was discovered and once again a whopping was administered, longer and harder than the first, and in this case the humiliation was intense as she did it in front of the entire family to set an 'example'. Believe me to be made to bend over for punishment, let alone cry as a teenager in front of younger children is real humiliation, but in this case fully deserved, and preferable to a Police record!
Nevertheless after each punishment we never committed that offense again. Indeed our behavior improved markedly when we realized this discipline was here to stay regardless of our 'grown up' age. It was never given unfairly : indeed on both occasions we were guilty as sin. After the punishments we were both contrite and apologetic. Mary's Mom had drawn a line in the sand.
Being 'grown up' as a teenager is just a source of pride and bravado. To bring them down to earth once in a while does no harm. Of course it is humiliating and embarrassing , but that is part of why spankings work!
>>You are never too old to spank. My son, age 17,
>started lying to us, playing around with drugs, coming
>in past curfew and basically making poor decisions.
>We grounded him, took his truck away and nothing
>seemed to help. One evening I picked him up from
>school and took him home and made him just pull down
>his jeans and bend over the couch. I gave him a
>spanking he would not forget for a long time. He is
>now 22 years old and about a couple of months ago he
>thanked me for that spanking. He said it saved his
>life. Was it easy to give him this spanking? No, but
>I rather had spanked him then to see him in prison,
>high on drugs,or an alcoholic. My husband and I have
>raised five kids. They all are successful. Yes, we
>believed in spanking if nothing else worked.
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worried about you anti spankers -- bloggs (smiling), 03:56:40 02/13/09 Fri [1]
Dose it make you think or what that when you go to the message board. There are people surfing all day To put there anti-spanking points of view. Whats so worrying is how they found the site there complaining on
This means these guys shouting fetish... abuse ... should not be allowed ...have actual wrote Down Spanking knickers and bare all in google not in that particular order with the adult filter turned off to find the sites to complain on
I would seriously love to know what the crack is with these people. They search all night for spanking material to complain about. you can see how much effort they actually put into there hobby by going into Mr polls. To think they actual surfed to find that stuff to complain about.
What a Sad lot. You are certainly no better or worse than the other guys. Your complaining about.
Talking about calling the kettle black.
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Is this for real? -- PDeverit, 17:53:34 01/19/09 Mon [1]
Wow! Is this site for real, or is it a joke? A site dedicated to hitting kids (for Jesus no less).
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teenage spanking -- Gia Stephell (SAD), 15:16:32 03/04/08 Tue [7]
These are no longer children you are "spanking", they are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young lady on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16 year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
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Re: teenage spanking -- owomen, 21:50:47 03/14/08 Fri [1]
>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young lady
>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
In the days of old, you are never too old for a bare bottom spanking. If your mother of father feels that you have drawn the line and you should be put over their knee, then over your knee you should go. Even if you are kicking and sceaming. Your parent should spank away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their roof, your bottom is there's.
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Re: teenage spanking -- owomen, 21:54:11 03/14/08 Fri [1]
>>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young lady
>>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
>
>In the days of old, you were never too old for a bare
>bottom spanking. If your mother of father felt that
>you dawn the line then you should be put over
>their knee, and over your knee you should go. Even if
>you were kicking and sceaming. Your parent should spank
>away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their
>roof, your bottom is their's.
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Re: teenage spanking -- Chris, 21:40:16 03/18/08 Tue [1]
Even spanking a child of the same sex on the bare bottom is bordering on being an invasion of privacy. I'm not sure it would be even be legal anymore, let alone doing it to someone else's daughter. If your wife told you to jump off a cliff would you do it?
>>>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>>>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young
>lady
>>>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>>>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>>>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
>>
>>In the days of old, you were never too old for a bare
>>bottom spanking. If your mother of father felt that
>>you dawn the line then you should be put over
>>their knee, and over your knee you should go. Even if
>>you were kicking and sceaming. Your parent should
>spank
>>away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their
>>roof, your bottom is their's.
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Adult children spanking -- Emilio (NEVER too old), 04:54:07 10/25/08 Sat [1]
No age limit, for followers of common sense and more (of Traditional Christian Family), is the way it works fairly and effectively.
Mainly adult daughters benefit from this caring and baalnced DD until their marriage day...
E.
>>>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>>>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young
>lady
>>>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>>>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>>>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
>>
>>In the days of old, you were never too old for a bare
>>bottom spanking. If your mother of father felt that
>>you dawn the line then you should be put over
>>their knee, and over your knee you should go. Even if
>>you were kicking and sceaming. Your parent should
>spank
>>away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their
>>roof, your bottom is their's.
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Re: teenage spanking -- Mary, 12:11:35 12/11/08 Thu [1]
>>>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>>>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young
>lady
>>>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>>>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>>>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
>>
>>In the days of old, you were never too old for a bare
>>bottom spanking. If your mother of father felt that
>>you dawn the line then you should be put over
>>their knee, and over your knee you should go. Even if
>>you were kicking and sceaming. Your parent should
>spank
>>away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their
>>roof, your bottom is their's.
I'm 16 and my mom put me over her knee and spanked me with her hairbrush! The reason she spanked me was because she made me some food, and wanted me to come to the table to eat with her. She knows I don't like the sound that she makes when she eats so I told her to be quiet, but she wouldn't listen, so I yelled, "Shut the fuck up." That's when she got up, went to the bathroom and came back with the brush! That's unacceptable! I'M 16! She wont even let me bring boys over!
Once I was kissing a boy at school, I got sent to the principal and he called her! Over the speaker phone I told her I was just going to do it anyway, so she'd better let me. The same day after school, my girlfriends and I were walking over to my house. When we got inside my mom was sitting there waiting for me. She asked me what they were doing over and I told her that they were going to spend the night. That's when she told them to take a seat on the sofa and she grabbed my wrist, took me to the kitchen and spanked my butt with a belt! They heard everything! I could hear them laughing! My mom is a bitch! You people are fucking crazy! I SHOULD KICK HER ASS!
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Re: teenage spanking -- Jack, 17:51:39 05/13/08 Tue [1]
>>These are no longer children you are "spanking", they
>>are young ladies and gentlemen. Spanking a young lady
>>on her bare bottom is out of the question. You mean
>>to say there is no other way to discipline a 15 or 16
>>year old. Then what do you do when they are 18?
>
>In the days of old, you are never too old for a bare
>bottom spanking. If your mother of father feels that
>you have drawn the line and you should be put over
>their knee, then over your knee you should go. Even if
>you are kicking and sceaming. Your parent should spank
>away! 15 or 23! As long as you are living under their
>roof, your bottom is there's.
Are you a parent?
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Spanking -- kidsmom, 12:23:02 12/10/08 Wed [1]
you people are really crazy. Who is spanking a 15 or 16 year old kid unless they have never instilled any behavior along the way. It's too late by that point. By the way, I have twins 12 years old and 15 year old and have NEVER SPANKED ANY OF THEM. They are well behaved and have never given us any trouble. I have withheld privledges and such and that's all I needed to do. You people are NUTS! I was spanked as a child as was my husband and we wanted to STOP THE CYCLE. It doesn't work as evidenced by you still having to HIT A 16 year old kid!!
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Hi -- Andrew, 17:38:03 10/19/08 Sun [1]
Hi I'm pleased to find you here. I don't agree with banning the human race out of existence, I'm a Christian, believe in fairly traditional roles in the family, and support the rights of good parents to spank when needed. Will be good to discuss ideas, and get to know everyone, yours, Andrew
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New Here -- Blake, 19:19:41 10/18/08 Sat [1]
Hi.I'am a 20 year old college student who stell lives at home my parents and my younger brothers.Since I'am stell living at home I most fellow the rules of the house or I suffer the consequences of my actions.For me and my brother that means are parents do spank or ground use,yes I stell subject to punshment at my age.It sucks get spanked at my age,but now that I'am older I'am not in trouble that much.
Looking forword to talk to you.
Later
Blake
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New Here -- Blake, 19:19:08 10/18/08 Sat [1]
Hi.I'am a 20 year old college student who stell lives at home my parents and my younger brothers.Since I'am stell living at home I most fellow the rules of the house or I suffer the consequences of my actions.For me and my brother that means are parents do spank or ground use,yes I stell subject to punshment at my age.It sucks get spanked at my age,but now that I'am older I'am not in trouble that much.
Looking forword to talk to you.
Later
Balke
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Im 26 and I still give it to an 18 yr old friend as punishment -- Young Aussie (Sad), 21:48:28 10/06/08 Mon [1]
I met a guy onlin ewhos 18 and told me he needed spanking like his dad gave him until the age of 16 and regularly as his behavious hadnt improved. Im 26 ang gay, Chris is undecided and i never force it but we do have sex also part of our sessions. Online it was real and a fantasy but he meant it. We established rules and sort of trusted eachother.
I told him at 18 if he hadnt learnt he needs a real beating, like an adult (knowing he had it very hard and regularly as a kid). The first spanking was given us both naked and long and hard, we msg'd me that night and siad Sir im sitting on are sore bottom which weas no suprise but i watched his reactions and he hadled it fine. We have had about 6 sessions harder and hard but the last as he had moved city was by far the hardest and most effective. He was staying with me for 3 days which the longest could get away and lie about it. He would recive 2 spankings a day all much harder than his dad gave but some would be harder then nother and i told him it was essential he had trouble sitting for several days. On top of that he would recieve and thank me for any extra punishments given which werent many but alway with the cane or crap and short but very painful. We now had a fetish strap a crop cane wood paddle and the innocent but nasty lexan paddle. He has a tiny bum its hot as and I had to look after it but it was very red and deep purple and welted with a conentration on the sit spot. Of the 6 offical spanking he cried during most which he had never done before and always asked for his beating and thanked me, he also with a hell of a struugle told me how much ithurt and he hated it but to please maximise the punishment everytime. Note that we tad total trust and his uni marks DID imporve after this session which was very very painful but spread out berable but totally pushed his limits. I intented to hurt him at times to the agony point but that pain never lasted. I never now give blreaks with the paddle if u dont stop it geats unbearably intense (ive recieved i know and its pain we all live through) as its a spanking its meant to hurt and it honestly works on him. He handles the pain very very well for one so young but he enjoys it and i have to go this hard to make him hate it and regret the comoing session. Appart from that we are friends. I told him the next session is 6 weeks and plan on this for a long time to come but to go no harder he now is turned on but dreads the sessions and we totally care about eachother.
In his cse the pain is essential as he enjoys spanking so i have to make it so hard he hates it. It works as well i neded ti then and never got but at 18 a kid should take a very very hard spanking generally, to the point where thier bums cant handle more but never break skin or perm marks.
The only thing ill increase if needed is the caning at the end as the pain really lasts.
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I am Pro-Bare Butt Spanking -- Keith, 18:06:27 09/26/08 Fri [1]
I'm so sick of the politically correct nonsense these days that has pressured parents and caregivers to feel shamed into not spanking children. There is NOTHING wrong with spanking so long as it is done within the right mindset for the right reasons. I've spanked bare butt and will continue to do so. Why? Because it is effective and gets its point across. People get so worked up about seeing a child's bare bottom and spanking it. Well you spend your early years wiping their rear ends, diapering them and bathing them. It shouldn't be a big deal. It usually is if people raise their kids to be ashamed of their bodies or nudity. I use my hand on bare bottoms when necessary and I have no apologies for doing so. If people care about their children, they will spank them as needed.
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teenage spanking -- Andrew M., 16:38:39 05/07/08 Wed [2]
My wife and I are raising three terrific kids. We have a daughter 15 and two sons 12 and 10. We decided early on in accordance with the Word of God and advice from our pastor that we would use spanking as a method for correcting our children’s misbehavior. Let me first say that our children are very well mannered but when they are disobedient, they are taken over the knee and given an open hand spanking on their bare bottom. As the head of our household, I started out spanking my daughter but at the age of about nine, for reasons of modesty, I began turning her over to her mom for her spankings. I continue to handle the boys myself though. I am careful never to spank out of anger. When a spanking is in order, I take the boy in question to his room where we have a talk about his misbehavior. I encourage him to participate in the discussion as much as possible to try and get an idea of where his heart is at with respect to repentance. After prescribing the spanking I allow my sons the opportunity of pulling down their own pants. Both of my sons have learned from experience that if they are unable to drop their pants on their own, Dad will do it for them. I spank the same way my Dad spanked me; over the knee with the open palm of my hand. After the spanking I give a few follow up words of advice and leave the boy alone for awhile to cry it out. As for my daughter; I don’t interfere with the method her Mom uses on her. All of our children are growing up to be good kids though so I guess we’re doing something right.
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Re: teenage spanking -- Billy, 11:43:12 09/01/08 Mon [1]
>My wife and I are raising three terrific kids. We have
>a daughter 15 and two sons 12 and 10. We decided early
>on in accordance with the Word of God and advice from
>our pastor that we would use spanking as a method for
>correcting our children’s misbehavior. Let me first
>say that our children are very well mannered but when
>they are disobedient, they are taken over the knee and
>given an open hand spanking on their bare bottom. As
>the head of our household, I started out spanking my
>daughter but at the age of about nine, for reasons of
>modesty, I began turning her over to her mom for her
>spankings. I continue to handle the boys myself
>though. I am careful never to spank out of anger. When
>a spanking is in order, I take the boy in question to
>his room where we have a talk about his misbehavior. I
>encourage him to participate in the discussion as much
>as possible to try and get an idea of where his heart
>is at with respect to repentance. After prescribing
>the spanking I allow my sons the opportunity of
>pulling down their own pants. Both of my sons have
>learned from experience that if they are unable to
>drop their pants on their own, Dad will do it for
>them. I spank the same way my Dad spanked me; over the
>knee with the open palm of my hand. After the spanking
>I give a few follow up words of advice and leave the
>boy alone for awhile to cry it out. As for my
>daughter; I don’t interfere with the method her Mom
>uses on her. All of our children are growing up to be
>good kids though so I guess we’re doing something
>right.
Don't you think, if you were really "doing something right," that the spankings would've been over with by now? Why can't your kids moderate their behavior so as not to provoke any further bottom warmings? You make it sound like the spanking regimen is a big success, but it seems to me you're either spanking for every little thing or else your kids are having difficulty adding 2 and 2 and coming up with 4.
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hi -- Lisa, 10:30:37 08/08/08 Fri [1]
Rebbeca i had exactly the same my last parental spanking was the day after my 23 birthday for wrecking the car.
So your not alone
God bless
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wooden spoons -- Joe, 20:09:01 07/17/08 Thu [1]
When I was a kid my dad spanked my brother and I with a heavy duty wooden spoon and it STUNG TO HIGH HEAVEN. He didn't spank us often, maybe once a year or so, but when he did, he made sure we would never forget it. He would send us to our bedroom and go retrieve the wooden spoon from the kitchen. When he returned we were bawling already. He would bare us from the waist down, take turns putting us over his knee, and whipping our butts with that spoon. Each of us would get 20 to 30 searing smacks. We would howl from swat 1. My best friend who lived three houses away from us told me one time he could hear us screaming from his house when we were getting spanked. Here's the thing, we weren't bad kids, we just got into mischievous behavior. One time we rolled tires down a big hill and they would hit cars at the bottom. Another time we took bricks and threw them down our neighbor lady's concrete steps and busted them all up. I know we deserved to be spanked but I think we could have been spanked by hand and not those nasty wooden spoons. My poor butt was so bright red after a spanking and you could see all these red, oval-shaped spoon marks on my butt. I think my dad could have been easier on us. What do you think? Do you think we deserved the wooden spoon?
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Teenage Spanking Problems -- Brian P, 13:23:45 02/22/08 Fri [3]
I'd like some help please with a discipline problem. I'm a father of twins, a boy and a girl, both 16 now. I lost their mother some years ago, but I've recently remarried to a lady with two daughters, aged 15 and 13. We both believe in spanking as a last resort punishment and agreed before we married that we'd continue with corporal punishment when necesary, but hoping, of course that it wouldn't be necessary. But we never got around to sorting out the details, and now it's causing some friction.
There are two areas on which we disagree and I'd really value some help from anyone who has any relevant experience.
Firstly, although I've used spanking as an "ultimate deterrent" for both my children, when I've had to actually carry out the threat, I've always been more lenient with my dayghter than my son. I normally spank my daughter over my knee with just the flat of my hand or, very rarely, a slipper either on her bare bottom or through her panties. With my son, though, I always either slipper or belt his bare bottom, and I do it harder than I do with my daughter.
My wife says that is wrong and that I should treat them both identically. She points to the fact that my daughter needs to be spanked more often than my son as evidence that I am too soft on her. What do you think?
The second problem is that my wife is now saying that, as the man of the house, I should take over the job of spanking her daughters when necessary. She always spanks their bare bottoms, which I think is OK, but it does create difficulties for me. I don't have a problem spanking my own daughter's bare botom (and neither does she), but I'm not sure that I should be doing that to girls for whom I'm not the natural father. So I'd like to hear other people's opinion on this as well please.
Hopefully they'll all behave themselves and this discussion will turn out to be academic. But I'd like to have the problem resolved before any spanking is needed, and my wife's eldest daughter is already looking like she'll be needing one before much longer.
Thank you.
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Re: Teenage Spanking Problems -- Holden Caulfield, 22:29:54 03/16/08 Sun [1]
I'm not sure that spanking teenagers is quite the way to go, for all kinds of reasons besides the misgivings you mention, but if you're that convinced about it why not do it a bit differently - have them bend over something and lift their skirt and pull their panties down and smack them with a cane or a yardstick or some other longer implement? That way there's no direct contact between you, and a cane gives a much more effective spanking than anything else you could use in any case (and I know for the most obvious reason).
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Re: Teenage Spanking Problems -- LizB, 18:34:56 03/26/08 Wed [1]
You're already finding more excuses to spank your daughter than your son. You're already treading on dangerous ground, and the last thing you should be even thinking about is doing the same to your step-daughters, regardless of what your wife might say. I agree with the last poster - it'd be better if you used a cane, if you insist on using any corporal punishment at all. You shouldn't be smacking her bare bottom, and you absolutely sure as hell shouldn't be putting her half-naked over your knee to do it, for reasons which should be absolutely obvious. If you must, bend her over the bed and cane her fully clothed, 'six of the best' still hurts well enough.
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Non Christian Spankers -- John, 11:28:10 03/24/08 Mon [1]
Hello
I just listen to an hour of the radio show and I am listen to another hour now. I just wanted you to know that Christians are not the only parents who believe in spanking. I live in California and think spanking should be back in school just like it was when I was in school. I got spanked and paddled in school and at home and at church and at friends houses by other parents who felt spanking another's kids was ok if they had earned it. I had friends that got the belt or the switch and none of them died. Oh I hated getting a spanking but it kept in in line.
I spanked my daughter when she earned it and since the 6th grade she hasn't needed one. She is a straight A student.
I would suggest that you don't need to prove to Christians that spanking is right it is the non Christians who get put off by the talk that the bible says to do it. I didn't spank my child because I read about it in the bible I spanked her because I knew it worked on me. To get spanking back in school and at home we need to go beyond bible teaching.
Good job putting up this site and I hope it does some good because I have seen far too many children in schools that could use a good spanking. Oh and by the way I did not have to leave welts just a good red bottom was all it took for my child. Boys are another story growing up I remember that every boy I knew got a spanking often myself included. And we all got it harder than the girls but it seemed that girls learned their lessons quicker. Maybe boys do have as hard a butt as they do head.
Again that you keep up the good work.
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