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Author:
Rachel
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Date Posted: 17:43:29 05/11/18 Fri
In reply to:
Chiara
's message, "Re: Patchwork families" on 15:37:23 05/04/18 Fri
Chiara,
Your name is pretty! Does it mean something?
OMG you got spanked at 15 when staying with an exchange family!? I can guess how dramatic that must have been, as I was spanked when I stayed with families from our church while my parents were at church retreats.
Depends on who spanked you and how you got it, I guess. How old were the other girls?
R
>Hallo Kayla, I'm from a place where spanking is not
>allowed any more, but I spent a year abroad as an
>exchange student and got spanked there just like my
>host sisters. I was already 15 and it was hard at
>first, but I got used to it and when I look back I am
>really grateful for the experience. Not sure whether
>this helps you, but I don't think 10/11 is too old to
>start. I like what you write about self-confidence. I
>don't stop here often, but feel free to write if you
>want to share thoughts.
>Best of luck,
>Chiara
>>Hi again and thanks for both comments. For sure, my
>>boyfriend's the one who would have to explain the
>>change and it can only ever work if he'll have my back
>>on this. He's optimistic about it, but he doesn't have
>>actual experience with spanking (or even getting
>>spanked), so my advice is important to him and I still
>>feel unsure. I'm not at all saying that 10/11 is too
>>old to get spanked, just that it might be too old to
>>start getting spanked. When it comes to explaining
>>such a change, I agree that the fairness aspect is
>>something that kids will instantly grasp, but from
>>their point of view the easier solution to that would
>>be to stop spanking my own daughter. Briefly the extra
>>info that Uwe asked for: my daughter is 9, she gets it
>>about 2 or 3 times a month, I use only the slipper,
>>but I use it hard and fast, so we are not just talking
>>about some light swats. The aim is to teach her
>>obedience and responsibility, but also endurance and
>>the self-confidence that comes with knowing you have
>>it. I can already see signs of that in her and I worry
>>it might go away if I stop spanking her already. I've
>>seen my boyfriend's kids most weekends during the past
>>five months, and I think they accept me, the girl
>>openly, the boy hiding it behind a cool "whatever"
>>attitude. Their mom died from complications during
>>childbirth, so they don't really miss her in terms of
>>conscious memories of her, but my impression is that
>>they miss having a mom. They had nannies, but that's
>>not the same, and having me around won't be the same
>>either. They are both healthy and sensible kids.
>>Anyway, I'd love to read more comments, also from moms
>>who've been in similar situations.
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