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Date Posted: 06:31:20 11/30/09 Mon
Author: Joel to Steve
Subject: Re: Joel's "Say No to Drugs!" Whipping From Grandpa
In reply to: Steve----to Joel 's message, "Re: Joel's "Say No to Drugs!" Whipping From Grandpa" on 13:01:48 11/29/09 Sun

Hey buddy how you doing? It was so good of you to leave me another message. Thanks for both you've sent me. You are a TRUE FRIEND to saty in conact with me!!!!!!

Had some time to think things through, done some praying, and Kyle, Luke and Sean have talked with me last few days.

I got a game plan to put ineffect.

But first, you are right there I have come to realize there was NO excuse now what grandpa did. Of course with things happening as they did before I got the whipping and trying to talk with grandpa, you know my mind can get mixed up, I guess I should have gotten my butt out of there.
It's hard to think when a person I've loved all my life and has never threatened to punish me before, never did anything to grandpa or grandma to have them think less of me as a grandson, etc., so I've always tried to please.

I'm not stupid, but I should have realized grandpa was not grandpa as he always is. Also, to make things clear, all I got was a whipping, and NOTHING ELSE was said or suggested that he want to do to me, before or after the whipping, as in abuse or anything else.

It was still scary, I'll admit that. I'm okay, don't need no therapy or stuff.

Steve, I want to tell my folks what happened, and grandma needs to know.

But first, I've never been told growing up that my dad was ever mistreated or abused by grandpa and grandma, and dad and mom have never hid if dad was. I think by now something would have surfaced if dad had been. I'm l7 yrs. old and a pretty smart guy to figure things out or find a way to.

Before I tell on grandpa to my folk and grandma, I have a mission that I need to fullfill, and you know what that mission is-to at least get my dad to spank me one time as his son in a father/son realtionship. I know you craved for that, and didn't have the opportunity (and it wasn't your fault, darn it that it didn't happen), but I have a chance now.

I need to get my dad to do this first for me. If I don't, and was to tell on grandpa, after I tell on grandpa my dad might be afraid to spank me and think he was abusing me to do it. Or, we don't know for l00% until I tell on grandpa that something might surface and IF my chance, and I pray if never happened to my dad, maybe my dad was abused by grandpa growing up and if promised himself if he had a son that he would not abuse him in giving unnecessary earned spankings/paddlings/whippings.

So Steve, I can handle it, there's no pressure on me, I got to fullfill my dream first with me dad first, and then the incident in the barn can be told about grandpa. I think what will happen then is that my dad will want to break off relationship with my grandpa, and I know forbid me not to see him.

Maybe grandpa needs counciling or something? I have no idea what really brought this not use or abuse drug issue about, other then what has been in the news, etc.

It's crazy this has to happen at holiday season time, especially when families get together and celebrate the reason for the season. Thanks for saying that because of the incident that it comes first to correct that wrong and not worry about the holiday. You are right, buddy. And no excuse tended, but I don't have alot of immediate family in the area to be with for the holidays, so I'll get through this okay and if it takes until after the holidays to settle, I can handle it without any pressure.

My basketball playing won't suffer you can count on that. I had to turn myself around during football season to realize my role as an athlete, and to get my butt in gear to really listen to me dad, my coaches and friends like YOU to get myself FOCUSED and STOP fooling around and being a smart-ass! Heaven knows, thanks to you and especially Kyle on your orders and his to pound my butt to get my mind straightened out and head on time. Thanks!

Now for the game plan that I've come up with, and some ideas from Kyle, Luke, and Sean and buddies like you and others.

This coming weekend Kyle, Luke, Sean and I will return to the scene of the crime-the farm my whipping took place on. Going to visit grandpa and grandma.

Want to see what reaction grandpa will have towards me and see what he says, if he'll bring up about the whipping, etc.. I WILL NEVER BE ALONE WITH HIM EVER AGAIN! I'll make sure grandma is there, and especially my buddies Kyle, Luke and Sean will be there with me.

Got a good excuse to visit, even though my folks won't be with us, us four dudes have dates, the girls we took to the harvest fest. Of course, Kyle is having his girlfriend come along for his date, and the girl he dated is going to be Sean's date, and Luke will have the girl he had before. As for me, Holly was honored and flipped out when I called to ask if she would be my date for the weekend again. Of course Kyle put his two cents in to me, "yeah Joel, gives her a chance to see your cute ass in jeans, likes she says she likes to look at."

GEEZ!

Good reason to go Steve, the community is having its annual Holiday Festival and there will be a Holiday Ball to end the event. Holly told me about this over Thanksgiving and wanted me to go with her, but my mind wasn't think good, was thinking too much about my wounded butt, so didn't give her an answer. She wanted an answer after the basketball game too, but I stupidly shrugged off. I need to get my head out of my ass more, I guess when it comes to girls, but of course I don't usualy get a whipped butt before they want to date me, etc.

So that's the game plan to feel out grandpa and what he might say to me.

Oh, us guys have a date with grandma to make Christmas Cookies (hope it doesn't sound corny to ya), but I figure it will be a perfect opportunity to feel her out and bring up about dad growing up, how he handled spankings he mighthave gotten, etc., and Kyle, Sean and Luke said they will be glad to help out in the conversation. Grandma likes to talk, talk, talk about the past, when she was girl, met grandpa and getting married....good open door to see if grandpa might have tried od did abuse dad as a kid?

How you like my thinking and game plan, Steve?

Nobody is going to be looking to hurt grandpa, either, but if something happens and he starts and does stuff, some athletic jocks have a right to protect themselves, so come what may!

Now about that razor strap! Geez, I can still feel that on my bare butt...

I can't bring myself to stealing it. I'd be the FIRST person grandpa would accuse. I've always tried to be honest and not steal. I will admit, I still have the habit to swipe homemade cookies when I'm not suppose to to spoil my dinner that my mom makes (growing teen gets hungry), a habit I've had since I was alittle kid, and if mom counts'em and there are some missing she always thinks my dad is the thief and won't counfront him to stop.

Maybe I should tell mom that wives can correct their husbands with a hairbrush if needed? Now where did I hear that and learn about?
So we'll see if three buddies of mine, might have guts to sneak a razor strap. They will be suspects to, if it happens, so what excuse can be used if that happens?

I know Steve you can't stand for excuses, and no exceptions can be made, but maybe, just maybe, I wonder if a good buddy (you) might think up one that could be used?

So Steve, that's my report for now. Probably leave for grandparents Saturday morning, have basketball practices after school and especially Friday, so it would be a late start if we went Friday night. Got to get our butts ready for Tuesday, Dec. 8 basketball game.

Steve, thanks for being a great buddy for me. Putting up with me, some nonesense some of the time, I don't mean to, but you are one HELL of a Friend!

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