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Subject: From David for Parents and Adults Author: PJ [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 22:29:10 12/09/11 Fri Our friend, David, found an old parent/adult survey and has spruced it up. I pulled it out from being buried in another thread and put it here for consideration. -------------------------------------------------- 1.Your gender and approximate age? 2.The genders and ages of the kids that you spank (example: boy-6, girls-8,10 or classroom of 10&11 yo boys & girls)? 3.Your relationship to the kids you spank (example: parent or teacher or coach or etc.)? 4.How often do you spank? 5.In what position do you usually spank? 6.Do you usually spank bare? 7.What implement(s) do you usually spank with? 8.Do you spank in private? 9.When did you give your last spanking? 10. What was the gender and age of the last kid(s) that you spanked? 11.What was it for? 12.What is the main reason for the spankings you give? 13.Describe the worst spanking you have given? 14.How do the kids feel about spanking ingeneral? Cooperative? 15.Do others know that you spank? Is spanking prevalent in your community? 16. Roughly where are you from? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: David [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:09:17 12/10/11 Sat Thanks for splitting it PJ - and now I'll answer most of it. I'm comfortable with discussing methods, etc., but not with details of actual spankings I've given to my sons. 1.Your gender and approximate age? Male, 40s 2.The genders and ages of the kids that you spank - 2 sons, 15 and 17 3.Your relationship to the kids you spank - Father (they won't admit it in front of friends though!) 4.How often do you spank? - 1-2 months 5.In what position do you usually spank? Always over the lap 6.Do you usually spank bare? Always 7.What implement(s) do you usually spank with? - Hand, paddle or belt (depending on why I'm spanking) 8.Do you spank in private? - They share a room and neither has ever wanted to stick around when the other is getting it, so it's never been something I had to make a rule about. If they're both getting it, then it's together. 9.When did you give your last spanking? - About 3 weeks ago. 10. What was the gender and age of the last kid(s) that you spanked? - Male, but not going to say which son. 11.What was it for? - or what it was for this time. 12.What is the main reason for the spankings you give? - Curfew, school related things and the occasional really bad thing (don't want to give any of you here ideas of what to do!) 13.Describe the worst spanking you have given? Maximum is about 3 times age with the belt, but I don't count precisely. Could be a bit more or less. 14.How do the kids feel about spanking in general? Cooperative? I'm pretty sure they don't like it. ;) But co-operation isn't an option. 15.Do others know that you spank? Is spanking prevalent in your community? Some do. It's not talked about a lot 16. Roughly where are you from? I'm roughly in Canada. Also smoothly in Canada. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: PJ asks David [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:25:47 12/10/11 Sat I am wondering how it is that you still decide to spank your boys when I thought it was against the law to do so on Canada. I am glad you do and probably deep down they are too. Am I wrong, is the law not enforced, or do you sons have an agreement not to "turn you in" or is it something else. Just curious. I think it is a stupid law. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: David [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:22:02 12/11/11 Sun There is not a law specifically, it's rather an interpretation of what reasonable punishment is, since the law states that parents may use corporal punishment. I don't spank in a way that would make anyone ask questions and of course my kids aren't interested in sending me to prison. I've never heard of anyone criminally charged for a private, non abusive spanking. Only people who've spanked their children in public, or clearly abusive behaviour. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Young Dad [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:48:27 12/11/11 Sun 1.Your gender and approximate age? 20s 2.The genders and ages of the kids that you spank; son-5 3.Your relationship to the kids you spank; his dad 4.How often do you spank? he's had a few swats to his bottom before but just had his first proper spanking 5.In what position do you usually spank? over my lap 6.Do you usually spank bare? he's had swats over his pants, underpants and even bare bottom. His first proper spanking was bare bottom 7.What implement(s) do you usually spank with? hand 8.Do you spank in private? yes 9.When did you give your last spanking? few days ago 10. What was the gender and age of the last kid(s) that you spanked? son, 5 11.What was it for? being defiant 12.What is the main reason for the spankings you give? so far the one he's had was for being defiant and disobediant 13.Describe the worst spanking you have given? at present the most recent one 14.How do the kids feel about spanking in general Cooperative? not really, he doesn't want another proper spanking 15.Do others know that you spank? Is spanking prevalent in your community? family and friends do, I know a few parents that spank 16. Roughly where are you from? midwest US [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: David to Young Dad [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:20:35 12/11/11 Sun Young dad, did you grow up with spanking? I imagine if you did it wasn't all that long since you were last on the receiving end. What will the future hold for your son from a spanking point of view as he gets older? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Young Dad [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:20:21 12/12/11 Mon Hi David, Yes my parents spanked and yes it's not long ago when I did get my last one. With our son we'd ready decided at some point spanking would start to be used to discipline him and not the occasional swat he's sometimes been given and he'd already been told that and what would happen. So proper spankings are now here to stay for when he misbehaves. How were your two sons after they'd gotten their first one, did you stay with them after or let them cry it out some before going back and talking to them? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Greg [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:20:25 12/13/11 Tue How did your son take his first big boy spanking from dad? I bet this was one big boy experience he'd rather not have had! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Young Dad [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:54:09 12/14/11 Wed Hi Greg, About how you'd expect, not very quietly or without a lot fussing. I didn't march him to his room he was carried there. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Derek [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:26:59 12/11/11 Sun Ok, my kids are bugging me to do this so I guess I'll give it a try. 1.Your gender and approximate age? male, 57 2.The genders and ages of the kids that you spank (example: boy-6, girls-8,10 or classroom of 10&11 yo boys & girls)? 1 girl, age 14 and 2 boys, ages 13 & 11 3.Your relationship to the kids you spank (example: parent or teacher or coach or etc.)? I am their father 4.How often do you spank? Only when they need it. 5.In what position do you usually spank? Most of the time they are over my lap but occasionally I bend them over my knee for a quick spanking. 6.Do you usually spank bare? Not always. 7.What implement(s) do you usually spank with? I prefer my hand especially when spanking a bare bottom. I do use the paddle sometimes though. I prefer not to spank bare with that. 8.Do you spank in private? Most of the time. 9.When did you give your last spanking? If you count the one swat I gave my youngest son earlier this week then that was it. I don't count it myself but there seems to be a debate among the kids as to whether it does or not. Prior to that I spanked both boys last month for not doing their chores again. 10. What was the gender and age of the last kid(s) that you spanked? See #9. 11.What was it for? See #9 12.What is the main reason for the spankings you give? Disobedience, backtalk, not getting chores done, breaking curfew, not going to sleep at night. Skipping school or cutting class are biggies. 13.Describe the worst spanking you have given? I prefer not to get into that. I honestly don't think that as a parent it would be appropriate. 14.How do the kids feel about spanking in general? They don't particularly like them. Cooperative? Generally speaking, yes. Of course, there is a lot of begging & pleading before the spanking starts & some kicking & wiggling once it does. 15.Do others know that you spank? Some do. Is spanking prevalent in your community? I think more so than most be would care to admit. It's not talked about a great deal. 16. Roughly where are you from? Northeast US [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: From David for Parents and Adults Author: Jacob [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:58:08 02/18/12 Sat 1.Your gender and approximate age? Male, mid 50's 2.The genders and ages of the kids that you spank (example: boy-6, girls-8,10 or classroom of 10&11 yo boys & girls)? wide range. 3.Your relationship to the kids you spank (example: parent or teacher or coach or etc.)? Parent or acting on behalf of, Teacher, Coach, Assistant Principal, Principal. 4.How often do you spank?, this has varied over the years as a parent and as an educator etc. 5.In what position do you usually spank? as a parent I either put the culprit over my lap or had them bend over something, at school it's usually bending over a chair or a desk, or just bending over. 6.Do you usually spank bare? at home yes and in a few other circumstances, at school over pants with a few exceptions. 7.What implement(s) do you usually spank with? as a parent my hand or a paddle, at school a paddle. 8.Do you spank in private? yes but have punished more than one child at the same time if several were being disciplined for something. 9.When did you give your last spanking? a few days ago. 10. What was the gender and age of the last kid(s) that you spanked? boy, 13. 11.What was it for? class disruption. 12.What is the main reason for the spankings you give? as a parent all the usual types of misbehavior parents discipline for, for each of my children that varied quite a lot with respect to the child and their age. 13.Describe the worst spanking you have given? I have given a few sound spankings when I thought one was deserved but how hard a spanking or paddling was given depended on the situation, age of the child, offense, attitude etc. 14.How do the kids feel about spanking ingeneral? Cooperative? Not very happy at the time for sure, but then it's a punishment and that's to be expected. I have had students I paddled later on thank me for paddling them and tell me it helped them. 15.Do others know that you spank? Is spanking prevalent in your community? Yes, it probably is here more so than other parts of the US. 16. Roughly where are you from? South, US. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]