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Subject: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Date Posted: 16:25:18 08/20/12 Mon

Greetings all,

I hope the forum is working for you. It does seem a bit quiet so I encourage you all to respond to things that interest you and try to reply back when you can to those that have responded to you.

I have a question for all about allowing certain kinds of posts. Please let me know what you think.

First, we have to acknowledge that spanking is a personal and private matter and yet it is the also the subject of this public forum. My question is how do you feel about posters asking questions about a previous post where the questions could be considered personal or private? As an example, suppose you post about a spanking that you have recently received or given (in the case of caregivers). If someone then posts asking questions about how hard was it, was it given bare, how much crying was there, etc., then these might be questions that you might consider personal or private and yet it is information that a reader might find interesting or helpful.

So how do you think we should agree to handle such posts that ask potentially private or personal questions about a previous post?

Please note that there are questions that are not at all appropriate for this forum and I will not post those but I am seeking input about other types of questions.

Thanks.

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Sean
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Date Posted: 16:49:46 08/20/12 Mon

I don't really have a problem with people asking questions. If I don't want to anwer them the I won't.

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Mark W.
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Date Posted: 06:24:12 08/21/12 Tue

I don't mind sharing that I sort of brought this subject up to the moderator. I had an adult respond to my thread about skipping school and getting busted. I felt he asked some inappropriate things about my paddling at home. I attempted to answer him but it was a bit disrespectful and I thank the moderator for not posting it.

I think Sean and Nathan both present great solutions.

Yes, Sean, just don't answer the inquiry. Nathan, you are right, it is different coming from kid to kid. Now, I think it is OK for adults to "talk" to us here but there are certain lines that should not be crossed.

My answer is this though. I think if we as a poster give "details" that is our business as long as it is appropriate to the rules of this forum. But since not all members here have Sean's or Nathan's insight to know what to answer and what not then I think posts asking for personal details such as state of pants, redness, pain level, and even crying should be left unapproved. Kids, tell what you are comfortable telling, again, within form rules. But I think once a post is made that is all of the details that are needed. No one else should ask for information. Sure we should be supportive and can relate a similar situation from our life.

If kid A wants to merely say, "I got a spanking." Leave it alone as that is all the detail he/she wants to give.

If kid B wants to say, "I sneaked out of the house and went to a party and got caught. My dad bared my bottom and gave me 15 licks with a belt. It hurt really bad and I was real red and cried a lot." OK, he/she obviously feels more comfortable with details but that was his/her choice. But still leave it alone as far as more details.

So, my short answer: no, they should not be approved.

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Taylor
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Date Posted: 12:04:44 08/21/12 Tue

I agree with my brother. If you don't want to answer the question then don't. Our parents read everything here & if they have a problem with a question they will deal with it.

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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PJ
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Date Posted: 17:42:17 08/21/12 Tue

I sort of see Mark's points. I say don't approve them. Do others even need to see that sort of questioning on here?

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Sean
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Date Posted: 18:09:04 08/21/12 Tue

I got a question. Is it ok to post about my brother and sisters spankings? Sometimes when we get a spanking we get grounded too which means no computer time. So can one of us post about thier punishment? It would be with their ok of course. Thanks.

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[> [> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Thomas
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Date Posted: 05:31:02 08/22/12 Wed

Hi Sean.I think Is it ok.

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[> Subject: Re: What do you think? - Asking questions of posters


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Tyler
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Date Posted: 14:21:21 08/22/12 Wed

if i just didnt want 2 answer the question on this forum i just wouldn't. i hate it when my mom or my uncle tell people about when i get a spanking, to there friends and stuff which sometimes they do but i wouldnt tell all of it here if i didnt want to.

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[> Subject: NEW RULES


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Moderator
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Date Posted: 10:20:02 09/04/12 Tue

All,

Thanks to those that offered your opinion. Based on your thoughts and my own opinion, here is my ruling on this issue.

New Rule #1: Adults may NOT ask kids questions that I feel to be of a personal or private nature. Kids (that have introduced themselves and post here some) MAY ask such questions of other posters as long as I feel the post is appropriate. All posters should NOT respond to any posts that they are not comfortable with. Examples of private/personal questions include but are not limited to: spanked bare bottom? did you cry? did others see you spanked? have you kissed your girlfriend/boyfriend?


Posting about another person's spanking?
Thanks, Sean, for asking this question. It was an excellent one! My short answer is...
YES, you MAY post about another person's spanking.

However... As a moral principle, we should consider the effects on others of gossiping and talking about other people's private matters. If it is "not your business" should you really be posting about it? The one mitigating factor here is that the people we might post about are protected by anonymity. We don't really know who anyone is and so they are spared any ill effects from us having posted about their private business. BUT... that is not true in the case of siblings, relatives, and friends that all post on this site. So....

New Rule #2:
Kids MAY post about another person's spanking (or other punishment or private matter) as long as your parents/caregivers allow you to do so. If the other person is one who also posts here or reads here, then you should get either that person's permission or the permission of your parents/caregivers. I will leave it to you to work that out with your parents/caregivers, siblings, relatives, and friends.

Adults MAY post about kids' spankings at their discretion and for the benefit of the forum community.

Posts that seem mean-spirited or spiteful or otherwise inappropriate will not be posted -- in keeping with the general rules that we treat others with respect and post only family-friendly material here.

Please let me know any thoughts or concerns or questions that you might have about these new rules.

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