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Date Posted: 12:23:28 12/12/25 Fri
Hello! My name is Kathleen, but I go by Kat for short. I'm currently working through some feelings and found this page and others while doing some research. I was hoping you guys could help me work through some things.'
I'm 22 years old and and have been married to my husband, David, for about 4 months. Right before we got married, he received an incredible opportunity to go overseas for a one year contract to do work as an engineer. It comes with an amazing paycheck and we knew it would be great for our future. So we decided he should take it.
I was living in an apartment and the plan was for him to move in with me once we were married. But when this opportunity came up, his Mom, Sheila, offered for me to move in with her instead and save money. I love him Mom and thought it was a great idea, but he cautioned me about it. I was living in Colorado, where I grew up, and she lived in Texas, still in the house he grew up in.
He warned me she could be a little overbearing and strict and that she would see me as a kid. She lost her husband when my husband was little and raised three kids alone. So she's always been a take-charge kind of person. I told him it was fine, that I could handle it, and it would be good for our relationship.
So he left two weeks after we got married, I finished out the last month on my lease, and then moved to Texas. I'll admit, he wasn't lying about her. She's super nice and loving but she isn't afraid to exert control. It's still HER home and I'm expected to assimilate to her way of doing things. Mostly, it hasn't been a problem.
But there have been a few things I do that drive her crazy. Like forgetting laundry in the dryer, leaving dishes in my room or in the sink, and not always picking up after myself. About two weeks ago, she went on a bit of a rant about it to me and off handedly said she should fish her old paddle out of retirement. I don't know why, but it made me feel a way I hadn't experienced before.
I'm an only child to two wonderful, mostly conservative parents who didn't spank me. They lectured and grounded me and weren't afraid to take me to task over misbehavior but spanking just wasn't a thing where we lived. Down here in Texas, it's a different story. After she made that first comment, there have been a few more. Enough that I started getting interested.
I asked my husband and he told me his Mom wasn't afraid to "whoop a butt" and she had whooped all three of them growing up right until they moved out. I kind of jokingly asked if she'd whoop me and he assured me she wouldn't be scared to. I kind of half kidding told him I'd like to experience it. This led to a long convo about that which he thought was hilarious. He told me if I was serious, to go ahead and egg her on. But to be careful what I wished for, that I'd regret it quickly and that once that monster was unleashed, there was no putting back in it's cage.
I've tried to forget it, but the more I stories I read online, the more intense the feelings are. There's just something about her doing that to me that makes me feel a little crazy. What do you guys think? Should I just try to forget about it? Talk to her about it? Or just push her and see if she'll actually do it? I'd be curious to know your thoughts!
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