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Date Posted: 04:56:12 12/08/24 Sun
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Emmie Sue
's message, "Something happened that bothers me" on 05:26:58 06/25/23 Sun
Hi Emmie Sue...I'm a real person, I live in the real world.
First I would say, congratulations that you have proven yourself to be a good, kind, and caring person...and that you have a conscious. Like the rest of us, you are HUMAN, and we are ALL imperfect.
While I do believe that spanking a child is a fair punishment, I personally don't...but I believe it is beneficial in many cases, so I am not opposed to it. I do not endorse what so-called "professionals" say about the negative aspects of spanking a child, many of whom don't even have children of their own. It's like getting marriage counseling from a Catholic priest.
I raised two sons, both wonderful young men today. I only ever spanked one of them, the oldest, when he was about 3...just one time, and the younger one was never spanked by me at all. I think I just didn't have the heart to make them cry.
I did spank my sweet 11 year old niece, also just one time because I was keeping her, along with my 2 sons, for a good while, while my wife was out shopping. She kept intentionally doing something that she knew annoyed me - calling me a name - and no amount of telling her to knock it off was having any effect on her. I finally told her if she did it again, I was going to spank her. I REALLY think she was just testing me, because she did do it again...so, to ensure my word meant something, I stopped what I was doing, knelt down on one knee next to her, put her over my knee, pulled up the long shirt that was covering her bottom, and gave her a few fairly mild swats on the seat of her pants. It was more of a "token" spanking than a real spanking...but she did "cease and desist" with the name calling, and actually became very quiet, very subdued. Today she is a grown woman with a young daughter of her own and to this DAY when she texts me, she will teasingly call me the same name that I spanked her for, and I will always remind her she is not too old for a repeat performance...even thought she's 42 years old. It's become and inside joke between the two of us, and I love her to pieces.
I have a close friend named Felicia who was going through divorce at the exact same time as I was, who moved in next door, at that time. Felica had two kids, an older girl and a younger boy. I used to consider if she and I could ever become a couple and blend our families - she was GORGEOUS, sweet, and about 10 years my junior...but after I got to know her kids, I knew it could never happen. I had never seen such out-of-control children in my life...but really, I blamed Felicia more than I blamed her kids, because her parenting approach was completely inconsistent. One day she had them walking the line, the next day they were using her for a doormat.
Felicia herself was raised with frequent spankings at home and innumerable paddlings in the principal's office, at school (I think a lot of it was because she had the MOST AMAZING butt!). She even got spanked early one Saturday morning, at 30 years old when she lived next door to me, by her mom...but that was a one-off, complex situation, perhaps a story for another time.
In any event, Felicia could not seem to get her kids to listen to her UNTIL she finally had to spank them. NOTHING ELSE would get their attention. She kept a small paddle in her kitchen "junk drawer" and usually when one got paddled, they both got paddled. She would order them to one of the bedrooms, then later join them with the paddle. She always closed the door but I could hear the action taking place. I never heard her give more than 3 swats to either child, and they were not that hard. I never heard the boy make a peep...but the girl OTOH, was screeching like a banshee and begging not to be spanked, even before the first lick...and then when the actual spanking started, she carried on like her mom was skinning her alive; a total drama queen.
Felicia would leave them in the room afterward for a few minutes, before letting them out. She would first come back to chat with me, apologize for having to discipline her kids while I was visiting. She always felt really guilty about spanking her kids but then would invariable justify her actions by saying, "A good sting in the butt never killed anybody." And when she did let her kids out, they were both perfect little angels...for a good while.
So hats off to you, for thinking so introspectively about this WHOLE spanking thing, and distinguishing between a punishment spanking for a child, and an adult spanking for fun. I'm a protector of children, I don't spank children, I only spank "naughty" young ladies who want to be spanked.
JD
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