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Subject: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Carly [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:04:10 08/25/22 Thu Hey All, I turned 22 back in June, and have not been smacked since April. How long would you say, is when you can safely say your parents are no longer using smacking as punishment? Carly [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: James [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:15:30 08/25/22 Thu Since you were spanked at 21, it is evident that your status as an adult did not stop the spankings. So. I would say that you may well be spanked so long as you continue to live at home if you misbehave. As a parent that is my practice. You don't say whether you have misbehaved since April. If you have and would have been spanked for such behavior at 21 then you may well be safe from spankings. But it may also be wise not to tempt fate. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Mandy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:38:11 08/25/22 Thu I think, if they are a beneficial part; of your life...Why ever stop? !! Maybe find a new person, at some age...But never stop, if they work!!! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:44:43 10/03/22 Mon My parents disciplined me until I as 18. After getting married at 21 I was a bit of a wild child and my husband, knowing about how I was disciplined (as was he by his parents) suggest we start practicing domestic discipline, which I was very open to try and consented to doing. It’s been an amazing experience and really helped me mature and be a better wife and he a better husband. I receive maintenance punishment once a week on Sunday evening and corrective punishments when I don’t follow an agreed upon role. As part of our agreement I can stop at anytime but have not because of its effectiveness. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:02:15 10/03/22 Mon I agree with Ashley. I was fortunate enough to have one of these DD relationships as an adult, in addition to some "vanilla" relationships. These adult DD relationships/marriages are so much more closer, and more loving, even devotional, than a typical vanilla marriage. If you read the testimonials, you will see that these partners flat out adore thier disciplinarian partner. In fact, I am looking for another one such relationship. They are not easy to find. This is the catch 22. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:39:20 10/03/22 Mon Hi Kevin nice to meet you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: spanking dad (crying) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:25:45 04/29/23 Sat Every girl should her panties lowered, at least once each weekend, to have her buns set on fire with a holey wood paddle or leather spanking strap-- her age in spanking strokes. Her brother and his friends should watch and/or assist in their spankings and apply soothing cream to each girl's twitching bare bottom after she is spanked. What is first name and age of each girl? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:57:10 10/04/22 Tue Hi Ashley. pleased to meet you as well. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Why assume they are over ? Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:49:57 10/03/22 Mon I agree with Mandy. Spankings are a labor of love, or at least they should be. Spankings should continue well into thier 20's and beyond, even if they go off to college, or get married. I have known many women, including my fav sister Susan, who questioned why thier spankings were discontinued at some arbitrary age. My sister Susan agreed that I should pick up her spankings since my parents had stopped spanking her. But we never did. I guess she got cold feet. She was a very beautiful redhead, too. Way pretty. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Carly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:41:19 09/21/22 Wed Well thats the question answered, there not over :( Carly [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:27:58 10/02/22 Sun I gather that your spanking in April was the traditional bare bottom across the lap spanking from one of your parents. I have heard of but not know anyone getting spankings at 21. I am a parent, and, in my house, most bare bottom spankings ended by 18 or 19 as the girls came to understand what behaviors were not allowed. Although I never said they were over they just stopped being needed but had they been needed I would have spanked because as a mom I believe that spanking works. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Carly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:13:21 10/03/22 Mon sorry for taking so long to respond, but only just seen your response. yes maam, that's exactly how i got the one in April. the question is kinda irrelevant now tho, cos i got one a couple of weeks back :( Carly [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:17:34 10/03/22 Mon Beautiful, Carly! I am happy for you and your parents. Many members may question this. I have known too many twenty somethings (and older) that still get it at home. We certainly understand this. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:22:39 10/03/22 Mon Carly, you can always email me if you would like an understanding friend. I get along very well with young ladies like you. I'm kevinbr4 on Trillion. Confidential. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:11:33 10/03/22 Mon Susan, I have been close friends with many "twenty somethings" that still get it at home. In fact, they are my fav spanked gf's on here. They make the best friends. They are almost always very respectful, mature, long lasting friends. Some of these young ladies and I go way back to the old Yahoo days, when they were still older teens or college students. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Lesley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:13:56 10/02/22 Sun Hi Carly, Hmmmm, it’s hard to say but hopefully they are over for you. I went almost a whole year between spankins when I was 16 and then got my last from my Mom when I was 17. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Grumpy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:22:56 10/02/22 Sun Lesley, you mentioned going a year without spankings, then getting one at 17. I was looking at a very old Life magazine from the 1940s where a young lady described getting spanked by her mom. “Me, at 18!”, she wrote. But she also said that she had forgotten “how much it could burn.” Did you have the same experience when spanked after a long while, forgetting how much it hurt, how awkward it was to be over a lap (if that’s the way you got it) how embarrassing the whole episode was, etc? I had some of the same feelings when a group of 4-5 male and female friends pinned me down over one of their laps for a very hard birthday spanking — at 25! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Fatima [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:27:00 10/02/22 Sun NEVER. I'm a grown professional working on a doctorate and I'm still not out of the woods. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:19:03 10/03/22 Mon I agree with Fatima. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:08:17 10/03/22 Mon I got my last spanking at age 18, about 4 months before my 19th birthday. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:05:04 10/03/22 Mon Was it the usual bare bottom across the lap one? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:42:37 10/04/22 Tue Yes. Mom always spanked bare, no exceptions. If my sister or I were going to get spanked , we knew it was going to be on our bare butts. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:25:36 10/05/22 Wed Was it a hand spanking or hairbrush or paddle? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:41:50 10/05/22 Wed Mom had a hairbrush with a wood handle. Ouch. In this particular spanking afterwards I also got 3 with the belt which was rarely used. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:31:12 10/06/22 Thu Obviously your mom felt the lesson needed to be learned and I'm sure as she pulled your panties down she made a point of saying why you were going to get spanking., [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:42:19 10/08/22 Sat Growing up we typically had family meetings, usually on a Friday night. We would discuss all matters related to the passed and coming week. It was usually there where an infraction by my sister or me was brought up. If mom decided a spanking was in order, she would say something like "Let's go upstairs and finish discussing this." There really was not much of a discussion, it was simply mom repeating the offense and briefly elaborating during which I would be nodding , "yes ma'am or no ma'am." As this was going on I would be taking down my panties and crawling over her knee. Many times I had my panties off but she wasn't done scolding and I'd have to stand there naked from the waste down in front of her. In our house, mom did all of the spanking and it was always on the bare, NO EXCEPTIONS. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:37:06 10/09/22 Sun I always pull the panties down, says moms in charge. We have family meetings to discuss family issues but not for spankings, they are done at the time of the misbehavior and yes I get tears and pleas to keep the panties up and like your mom spankings are bare bottom NO EXCEPTIONS. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Grumpy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 19:28:29 10/04/22 Tue For those of you who got it as older teens or young 20s as some said they did, did you ever object to aspects of the spanking, say being bared, an implement, put over the knee, spanked in front of a younger sibling, etc.? Did it do any good? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ashley-91 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:58:43 10/05/22 Wed Hi Grumpy, For those of you who got it as older teens or young 20s as some said they did, did you ever object to aspects of the spanking, say being bared, an implement, put over the knee, spanked in front of a younger sibling, etc.? I had a younger brother (2 years younger). Mom did otk spanking on a chair or the family room, bare, and if we got in trouble together we got punished together. Dad took over when we turned 12 and with him his preferred implement was his belt bent over the sofa. We usually got it when he came home from work hence the belt. If we got punished on the weekends or other days home he used the paddle. We never dared object because we were told we would get double at a young age if we ever questioned the punishment. Since we were spanked at a younger age together it didn’t bother us that much seeing each other bare getting punished. We didn’t have to watch the other get punished but since it was in the family room there was privacy. That said, I think brother made sure to watch me get it more than. I did him when not punished together, lol. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: GBella [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:26:56 10/08/22 Sat I live at home while going to school. Even though I'm 20 my mom still spanks me and she has made it clear that so long as I am still living here the rules remain the same. I had not planned on moving out until I was at least finished with school first, so is safe to assume the spankings won't be stopping anytime soon. Not saying situations like mine are super common, but it might not be as rare as you might think. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:49:12 10/08/22 Sat I got my last spanking just a few months before my 19th birthday. Several girls from our church are still spanked well into their teens also. As you said, it's probably not too common but might be as rare as you think. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: GBella [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:24:14 10/08/22 Sat Did your mom suddenly decide you didn't need them anymore or is it because you moved out? Before last weekend happened it had been little over a month since I last got spanked. Personally I know of three other girls with similar arrangements. One of them I've been friends with since middle school and I know our moms talk back and forth. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ts92 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:38:14 10/09/22 Sun Not because I moved out. I just think it was a combination of she thought maybe I was turning into a mature adult. I do know of a couple of girls from our church who were still spanked at that age. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Kev [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:36:27 10/08/22 Sat Lots of 20 somethings still get spanked. Trust me. Even older. How do I know? I spank them. Moms too. It's OK. They need to get it sometimes too! It's OK. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Paul (Happy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:55:12 11/04/22 Fri I got my last at 19. My mother returned to working after my younger sister started school & I was 9. For some reason she stopped spanking as well. When an older friend told her she needed to start spanking us again. She resumed when I was 12 almost 13. At 13 through 15 I got about 5 or 6 per year, dropping to 3 at 16 & one each year at 17, 18 & 19. The lady showed her an old poem “The Patter of the Shingle” & she got herself a shingle & tried it. She liked the results. I fought her the first couple of times she spanked me but she was a big matronly woman & could handle me. When I was 13 she sat me down & told me she spanked me because she loved me & wanted my behavior to change & not just because she was bigger & stronger than me. I quite physically resisting but still tried to talk her out of a spanking when she decided I needed one. It was hard to submit but I did start feeling better when she called me to account for bad behavior & I found I felt better afterward as much as I wanted to think otherwise. She thought about positions differing from those used when I was younger but her friend told her not to change so I would know what expect when I had to be spanked. The over the knee position added to the embarrassment of the spanking as I got older. I still remember the feeling of blushing as she turned me up & pinned me into position. That shingle got tears by the third or fourth smack too. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ainsley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:24:42 04/19/23 Wed Hi. New to this. I'm 21 still get it. My parents say as long as I'm at home it's a possibility. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Beth [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:40:22 04/20/23 Thu Ainsley, you're not alone!! I'm 21 and my step-sister is 21, and we're both still spanked. Our parents say the same thing -- we'll be subject to spankings as long as we're at home or they are supporting us. It is not just a threat. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ainsley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:24:18 04/20/23 Thu It feels like I'm alone out here so it's nice to meet you. Have you lived there long or is this fairly new. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Beth [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:27:11 04/20/23 Thu I've always lived with my mom and she's always been a spanker. She married my stepdad almost 6 years ago and he started spanking me too. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ainsley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:58:32 04/22/23 Sat I'm sorry. I know how you feel. Are you parents super strict or is it just basic rule stuff?. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Beth [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:31:49 04/23/23 Sun They are pretty strict -- I suppose closer to super strict than basic rules. It doesn't take much to earn a spanking but they're still pretty fair about it. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Dee [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:45:15 04/25/23 Tue A mom of 3 20, 18 and 16 all girls. 18 and 16 have both been spanked in the past week they seem to be getting spanked more often lately. My 20 year old got it 3 times this year, the last for a speeding ticket 3 weeks ago. I pull jeans and panties down lets them know mom is in charge and they go across my lap for a hairbrush spanking. I have told them that when they prove they don't need to be spanked I will stop spanking. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ^Mike [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:39:50 04/25/23 Tue For older girls (late teens, early to mid-20s) getting spanked as discipline, its usually assumed that they've been raised with it, and spankings simply continued without interruption to the present. That seems the case with Dee's daughters but is that so with you, too, GBella, Beth and Greta? Melissandré's initial post indicated she hadn't been subject to the martinet since her teens, but at 25 she wasn't considered "too old" by her parents. In each instance, the girls' feelings were deemed irrelevant. Is that the case with you, too, Ainsley? Were you raised with spankings and have they simply continued, uninterrupted until now, even though you consider yourself too old? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ainsley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:56:44 04/28/23 Fri Hi Mike. Mine didn't start till I was 17. I was too old than, I'm too old now. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: ^Mike [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:08:43 05/04/23 Thu Wow, Ainsley, your parents didn’t *start* spanking you until you were 17? (What were you, a junior or senior in high school?) Were your parents non-spankers who suddenly “saw the light” due to some change in your behavior? How was discipline handled in your home before you were spanked? So, you’re 21 now, and you’re apparently still living with your parents, have they continued to spank you, uninterrupted, since you were 17? What’s the story there? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Ainsley [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:21:22 05/05/23 Fri Hi Mike Yes 17 it started over a dress my daddy thought showed too much. We fought, I lost. Before that I was mostly grounded. My bros were spanked so it was not like out of the blue they started spanking. I just wanted to be myself more at 17 and not be a goody goody all the time I guess. I moved out when I was 18 on my own. COVID made me move back in with them, they were awesome to do it but spankings were part of the arrangement if they were ever needed. I'm way too old no matter what they say though. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Dee [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:27:44 04/27/23 Thu Yes the girls have been raised with spankings, but their numbers steadily decrease as the years go by. They all know that spanking remains on the table and will be used as necessary. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Karin_ven [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:53:08 04/27/23 Thu In my opinion spanking has nothing to do with age but more with behaviour . If you live in your parents house you have to obey their rules. If its not possible that you adjust, you should expect the consequents. I was spanked until I got married at 24, over the knee on the bare bottom with the hairbrush. As punishment it worked perfect, it hurtet as it suppose to and I feared it as I should. Thinking that spankings should end at a certain age or thinking you’re too old is something that is in your mind. As long as it hurts as it should and you fear it your parents should continue. If you think you shouldn’t be punished in any form then you have two options. - move out -follow the rules and behave like they expect from you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: When to assume they are over for good. Author: Pliny [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:50:58 05/29/23 Mon Perhaps it's different for boys. At least it was for this one. I can tell you the last one I got but there was never any formal statement that they were done and it wouldn't happen again. Basically, I was 90 minutes late for curfew and extremely disrespectful. I was 14 years old and had not received one in over a year and I think I thought I was too old and I think my mother thought I was too old too. Finally, I told her to go to hell which was the last straw and she ordered me to go to her bedroom, get the belt out and wait with my pants off. There was a whole ritual to things and I knew the drill. I remember that whole event like it was yesterday. Mom took a good hour to calm down and when she came in to the room, she had calmed down and I had managed to get very nervous (with good reason). She then proceeded to absolutely blister me in a series of sessions where she applied the belt, took a break to lecture and then started again. When it was finally over I had to put my hands on my head and my nose to the wall and listen to her lecture for a while and then just stand there and fully appreciate how badly I had screwed up. She announced that there would be two more each a week apart and that I was grounded with extra chores until they were completed. She promised that the next two would be worse than that one. The week-long wait for the next one was utterly miserable as was the following week-long wait. Basically, I had been punished that night for the curfew violation and the next would be for refusing to listen and disrespect and the final one would be for telling her to go to hell. When all of that was finally over, I didn’t want any part of anything like that again and I am certain mother didn't want to do it again and it never happened again. There was never any formal announcement or anything like that but I was never stupid enough to be that disrespectful and mother was able to explain things because I would listen. That was how they ended for me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]