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| Subject: Re: What about bath time? | |
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Author: Veronika to Olga and Dim |
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Date Posted: 04/17/17 9:36am In reply to: Olga to Dim 's message, "Re: What about bath time?" on 04/17/17 7:34am >>Also - "pisyun", "struchyok". And I remember the >>medic's word when she instructed girls - >>"pisyulyochek". In fact also there are many other >>words. >>The most of the girls, as I remember, called it >>"pisjka". > >Without doubt, boys have many words for it. However, >indeed, most girls then in our and boys age used >"pisjka". It was neutral and usual during bathing, and >I recall boys accepted it without problems. My friends, I have read your posts and want to add my two cents from my experience as babysitter. Young boys of school age, especially those nearing their teen years, are naturally going to be quite embarrassed when being bathed by a girl or young woman who is babysitting them. But so be it! In fact, the more shame the boy feels, the easier the girl's job will be. Like most girls did when they were in their teens, I did my share of babysitting young boys. Of course, as boys get older they tend to get more and more embarrassed and shy about taking their clothes off in front of a girl who is babysitting them. (Of course, not long thereafter, that shyness disappears and most can't wait to strip for a girl!) Some girls can't help but enjoy a naked boy's embarrassment immensely. And it's not hard to understand why, even aside from the visually appealing aspects of the job when you're a teenage girl. Ordering a boy (or, later in life, a man for that matter!) to take his clothes off when he doesn't want to gives you a sense of momentary absolute power and authority over them that they hate! So, by all means, don't be afraid to look. You're just doing your job. It also makes it easier to handle babysitting them. As young boys are often unruly, their sense of shame at being seen naked by a girl who may be not much older than he is can have the effect of rapidly diminishing his defiance to your authority. This can be especially effective when reminding the boy of his impending embarrassment in front of others. ("If you don't stop fighting with your sister right this instant, you can go upstairs, take all your clothes off and I'll be up in a few minutes to give you your bath.") Although use of this embarrassment technique can be quite effective - especially when girls are around to add to the boy's embarrassment - and is sometimes necessary, it is probably used far too often and unjustly as a cop-out for poor babysitting which allowed young children to get too unruly in the first place. Of course, when there are no discipline issues involved, embarrassing a boy for no reason is not justified under any circumstances. Babysitters who needlessly taunt or make fun of a boy as he is undressing or once he is naked shouldn't be babysitting. If more than just a slight giggle or two slips out or if your laughter becomes uncontrollable, just excuse yourself from the nude boy's presence for a moment to compose yourself. When you return, if you want to apologize (which will likely make the boy feel even more embarrassed and might lead to another case of the giggles), don't say anything or just tell him you're sorry but you just happened to think of something really funny at the moment. Naturally, there are girls who might take advantage of being in a position to get-even, such as the older sister of a girl who was bullied by the young boy she is now babysitting. Although it would be inappropriate to tease the boy outright about his nakedness, there are obvious ways in which the older sister could effectively nip the boy's bullying days in the bud. ("Hi, Megan. Sorry I forgot to call you back earlier. I'm giving your classmate Bobby his bath right now, so after I get him out of the tub, dried off and dressed, I'll give you a call back.") Then, of course, there are the majority of boys who are usually quite well behaved and are simply embarrassed that they have to bare it all for a girl. The proper thing for a girl babysitting a boy like that would be to gently tell the boy that it's o.k. to be embarrassed, he is after all (or soon will be) completely naked! The girl should add that he shouldn't feel ashamed. It's not like he did anything bad. He's just going to be bathed or have his jammies put on. He shouldn't feel any more embarrassed in front of you than if he was naked in front of a female doctor or nurse. Tell him that he's not the first boy you've seen naked and surely won't be the last. If in the unusual circumstances the boy is older, say 12 or more, gently smile and say, "You don't have anything I haven't seen before." Never make a comment if the boy gets an erection, other than to put him at ease, if it's obvious he's utterly humiliated by his condition. ("It's o.k., sweetie. That happens.") Also, don't be afraid to look at the boy. If he observes you purposely avoiding any glance at all at his nakedness, he might think you are trying to avoid looking at him to avoid laughing. Keep your composure, look once in a while (but by all means do NOT stare or touch) and keep reassuring him that it's quite natural for him to feel embarrassed ("I know you're embarrassed. But it's O.K. to feel embarrassed."). And he SHOULD feel embarrassed. You certainly don't want to be babysitting younger boys who are eager to show themselves off to you! If you do happen to encounter the odd school-age boy who is too eager to strip of his clothes and doesn't bother hiding himself or an erection, then by all means smirk and grin until he DOES start blushing. If that doesn't work and he is clearly enjoying his exposure in front of you, never babysit that kid again. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Re: What about bath time? | Erik (for everyone here) | 04/17/17 9:43am |
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| Re: What about bath time? | Dim to Veronika | 04/19/17 10:24pm |
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