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Date Posted: 16:20:19 12/01/22 Thu
Author:

epaster
Subject: Re: Maintenance spanking
In reply to: Jennie81 's message, "Maintenance spanking" on 08:07:33 11/30/22 Wed

Hi Jennie,

Thanks for stopping by and posting about your husband's maintenance system.

We have not used maintenance spankings, although I have sometimes thought they would help.

Like you, my wife doesn't like punishment spankings, but she has learned that having painful consequences improves her behavior. When she behaves better, she feel better and we are closer. To her, the occasional sore bottom is worth it.

She also likes that I can take action instead of just being mad at her.

Feel free to read over the earlier discussions and respond to any that interest you. That may help increase the activity here.

Epaster

>Hi,
>
>I found your site and would like to meet some other
>like minded people’s thoughts on how we do
>maintenance spankings. I hate it because well it hurts
>but it has certainly improved my behavior and our
>relationship. My boyfriend started spanking me as soon
>as we started dating a year ago but it was not DD.
>After 3 months and his growing frustration with some
>of my bad habits that he patiently tried to talk to me
>about he said that he wanted to give DD a try. I enjoy
>fun good girl spankings but had never had a punishment
>spanking. I did recognize I needed to improve a lot
>things for my own benefit but also to keep our
>relationship alive. So reluctantly I agreed. After a
>few months maintenance was introduced weekly. 7 months
>in and I threw a fit on Sunday when he said it was
>time. At one point I said why should I be good I am
>getting spanked anyway while having my fit. That
>turned into a punishment spanking very quickly lol.
>When it was over he said we will talk about this on
>date night (Wednesday). Here comes my demise, on the
>way to dinner he said I thought about what you said
>and how this can be more fair. I will receive a
>maintenance spanking Sunday at bedtime regardless but
>if I am good all week it will be light hand and brush
>or spoon all otk. However I now have a spreadsheet
>with 5 categories that we fill out every night at
>bedtime. Each category has up to 10 points and several
>task. Example health covers diet exercise sleep. Based
>on how well I did that day I could be a 0 to a 10. If
>I mess up so bad that I earn a punishment spanking
>that category automatically gets a 10. So there is a
>tally each day and at the end of the week is the
>additional amount I will receive. These can be any
>implements he decides ex paddle belt cane. I never get
>to end of the week with zero because there are always
>little things not enough to deserve a spanking but
>could be better that add little points here and there.
>Well little points add up to big points over a week if
>you are not careful. I have learned because one part
>of the day wasn’t good you keep trying as hard as
>possible because you don’t want more points than you
>already have coming. My total weekly points have also
>decreased considerably since we started. Something
>about knowing each how many have been added is very
>motivating to do better the next day.

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Re: Maintenance spanking -- Jennie81, 20:04:33 12/01/22 Thu