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] Date Posted: 14:07:09 05/02/25 Fri my brother-in-law live me and my husband. Kevin has 12 yrs. How can I control him? How can I punish him? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Mommy Trish to Alicia. [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 00:36:19 05/03/25 Sat First of all welcome to the group Hun and I wish I could have seen your message earlier. I am sorry to hear that your husband and you are having difficulties with your brother-in-laws little boy and I say little. Because make absolutely no mistake he is a little boy and probably believes he is all grown up. Would you mind clarifying a few things here please. What kind of behaviour is he causing trouble with. Sorry to ask you also and do you know if he is still prebuesent. I would like to chat with you regarding discipline for him and sounds like a little boy is probably going to have a sore bottom soon. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alicia to Mommy trish [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 01:58:19 05/03/25 Sat my brother-in-laws live with us after his mother was died. my husband gave me authority to discipline "his brother". please..chat with me about his discipline. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Mommy Trish to Alicia. [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 02:09:08 05/03/25 Sat Could you please give me some details like I asked Hun. What kind of trouble has the boy been getting into. I presume he has never been spanked before. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alicia to Mommy trish [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 02:58:53 05/03/25 Sat sometimes refused to obey my orders, refused to study. Once he stole money and I didn't tell my husband. my husband told ne that his brother never been spanked before. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Mommy Trish to Alicia. [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 03:09:41 05/03/25 Sat It does not sound like he is doing anything that all children have not done Hun. But I would definitely be spanking my children for stealing and bad behaviour. I personally strip my children completely and use my hand and a paddle. Remember he is the child and should be respectful to you and everyone else. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alicia to Mommy trish [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 06:15:09 05/03/25 Sat Do you think that the difference between me and them in language, religion and culture will affect my relationship with my brother-in-law . [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: scamptoo to Alicia [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10:17:43 05/03/25 Sat If I am reading your post correctly, your 12 year old brother-in-law has come to live with you and his brother because their mom passed away. You say that your husband has given you "authority to discipline "his brother", but you are not too sure how to discipline him? You also said that your husband told you that his brother has never been spanked before. So I am guessing that the two of you have discussed spanking the boy? If that is the case then what the two of you need to do is sit down and talk to the boy, and tell him that his behavior is not acceptable and that you and his brother have decided to use spanking for all of his misbehavior. How you chose to spank is up to you. Some in authority choose to spank over the knees with only the pants and underwear down, while others choose to spank over the knees with the boy completely naked to add embarrassment to the punishment. And others choose to spank in the diaper position with the boy completely naked, as they feel they have more control over the boy if he is on his back with his legs pushed up to his chest, and they can see his facial expressions to judge what effect the swats are delivering. It is up to you, and your husband, to decide how you will spank the boy if you have already chosen spanking as a punishment for misbehavior, and tell the boy how his spankings will be done. Write back and let us know what method the two of you have decided on. . [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alicia to scamptoo [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 14:56:59 05/03/25 Sat You read the post correctly. But now I ask, Do you think that the difference between me and them in language, religion and culture will affect my relationship with my brother-in-law ? Because these differences exist between me and my husband's family. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: scamptoo to Alicia [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 11:53:43 05/04/25 Sun I don't see any reason why language, religion, or culture would affect your brother-in-law, because he is only 12 years old and at that age kids don't really care about any differences in language, religion, or culture. Biases to language, religion, or culture are usually learned from parents that feel in some way that they don't quite meet up to the standards of people from other cultures, so they try to make like it is the fault of those from other cultures. You married your husband, you didn't marry his family. Your husband chose you to be his wife, and only he matters. As for your 12 year old brother-in-law, well, it will be up to you and your husband to teach him that it is not acceptable to treat others from different cultures in ways that your brother-in-law would like to be treated. With that said and done, you still haven't answered if you and your husband decided how to discipline your brother-in-law if/when he misbehaves. . [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Eukonidor [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 16:04:15 05/04/25 Sun In some cultures, you marry the family. Been there; done that. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Alicia to scamptoo [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 14:51:24 05/04/25 Sun I am Brazilian and my husband is Egyptian. We have differences in the things that he talked about. Yesterday, I talked to him about his brother. He told me to make the right decision. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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