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Subject: Re: To Cassidy (RESERVED!)

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Cassidy to grandadbob.

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Date Posted: 11:09:10 05/05/25 Mon
In reply to: grandpaBob 's message, "Re: To Cassidy (RESERVED!)" on 03:22:27 05/05/25 Mon

Hello again and I do apologise for not being able to reply to you before now. Yes from everything I have been reading about the young girl Tanya there seems to be so many similarities with miracle and that young girl. Miracle is definitely undernurished and lacking in some proper meals. She struggles sometimes to eat dinners and I intend to be firmer with her in regards mealtimes from now on. I have made an appointment for my own doctor and nutrihasanist and I possibly spelt that word incorrect. I completely understand what you mean about being consistent with everything and especially regarding discipline and she has already been testing me a few times again today. We brought her out for a walk and it is ve day here and eighty years celebrations of the end of the war.
But despite the celebrations it is so important to remember those who never made it and especially their loved ones dealing with the grieving and loss. Miracle has been through so much for a little girl and seems like that little girl Tanya is the same. I noticed that she got herself into some trouble and is now asking you to not let her grandparents find out. I was smiling ss though they would not see her messages lol. But she seems like a wonderful little girl. I should have given her a spanking when we were out earlier with my friends for running off and then rolling her eyes at me. She is definitely going to push boundaries like all children as you mentioned she had not been given any restrictions and no consequences for what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. I am going to look into going to a local church as you said about and I had actually been considering it for a while now. Yes from what I have been reading it sounds like the church Tanya attends with her grandparents is wonderful and very hands on. I was trying not to smile as miracle said do you really think my Grampa would spank me and I said I have absolutely no doubt he would. Sending love from miracle and I.

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Date Posted: 15:06:18 05/05/25 Mon

Hi Cassidy and yes, kids will be kids always.
As we already said it is very important to be really strict at the start as it is the though moment of our little ones life. When they will start to really understand their limits and boundaries then it will be possible to let something goes from time to time but till then we cannot have a blind eyes as it is enough to leave something out and immediately old habits come back to the surface.

I personally don't like to punish kids but, as you already know well, if we don't want to loose them we have to move in the only direction we can: love and discipline.

For Tanya, as you mentioned it, it would be a painful moment tomorrow morning as her grandparents had postponed her punishment before school. It's not funny to attend school on those hard wooden chairs with a well spanked bottom! That's something our little Miracle will have to discover very soon.

Bye for now, dear, and good night

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Cassidy to grandadbob.
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Date Posted: 06:20:04 05/06/25 Tue

Hello again and I want to apologise as I was unaware that that you had replied to my message. I completely agree with you about tough love and especially in the beginning with children like miracle and the other little girl you are currently working with Tanya. She really tested me this morning and there is no doubt she is sitting on a sore bottom as I message you. I am thinking that maybe we need to start a fresh thread and noticed this is becoming quite full and hard to keep up with to be honest with you. I want to thank Cody and yourself for everything yous have done so far for miracle and I. She is not used to boundaries, structure and discipline amongst other things. Sounds like that young girl Tanya got a good roasting this morning and I was thinking is it too soon to implement something similar to miracle. Yes I believe miracle got a taste of what it is like sitting down in school with a sore bottom. I am extremely greatful to you and Cody and I know that at the moment Cody is mostly replying to you. But I will have her reply to Cody also. Much love from miracle and I.

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Date Posted: 08:02:08 05/06/25 Tue

Hi, Cassidy.
You're right, with Miracle we're just putting down the basis while with Tanya things are more advanced now in fact with her we are starting to implement a new element: the First Time Obbedience (aka FTO) where if the child doesn't prompty obey to the adult in charge without any esitation a punishment is due.

Of course for little Miracle it's absolutely too early to start with that as she still has to really understand there are rules and she's not the one who create them.

It was interesting she replied me yesteday telling me about herself and her feelings so for me it will become easyer to understand her and deal with her. I think she actually has some level of trust in me and that's good because when I willreinforce your rules for her, she'll feel like everyone who matters to her is on board with saying the same things.

Let me know how is gone today with her while I'll send a post to her requiring to tell me how went the school and so on.

Bye for now
R.

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