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Subject: Cooperation and Negotiation Author: Louise Vancisic (Lou) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 16:37:08 11/13/25 Thu Here is my take on how a big girl handles spankings. I welcome commentary on this. It has to do with cooperation and negotiation. When mother has decreed that a spanking will be administered the big girl cooperates. If Mom asks her to fetch the hairbrush or strap, she does so without any argument. If Mom instructs her to lower her panties she does so without any fuss. When Mom instructs her to approach and go across her lap, or lay on the bed, she does so without any argument. And during the spanking she tries to lay there like a good girl and take it. She tries to resist screaming though sincere crying is perfectly acceptable. She doesn't beg off from her punishment but promises to be a better girl. She also promises not to repeat the offense that got her in trouble. The negotiation takes place when punishment is not being administered. Mother and daughter discuss what elements of a spanking will be most meaningful to the girl. It's where the big girl requests privileges that make the punishment less > >> demeaning. Pulling down their own panties is for many girls vastly preferable to having to stand facing their mother and having her do it. That's the way Mom prepares a little girl who is too frightened to do it herself. Retaining panties for a spanking is also something that a girl negotiates for. And a big one is private spankings. Big girl privileges are granted for demonstrating mature behavior and lost for immature behavior. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Cooperation and Negotiation Author: Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:33:19 11/14/25 Fri Hello Louise!! This sounds pretty accurate. My last spanking was from my Mom when I was 15. We were arguing and finally she told me to go to my bedroom. I really didn’t think I would recieve a spanking because she didn’t say anything about it. I went to my bedroom and a few minutes later she came in, closed the door and turned my desk chair around and sat down. I went into panic mode because I knew what was now happening. She told me to come to her and standing in front of her I received the big lecture about my attitude and about respect and then I was gold to pull down my shorts and undershorts. I didn’t it but slowly and then laid over lap and……well you know the rest.

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation and Negotiation Author: Jamie. [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:46:12 11/15/25 Sat Brooke is this the big 5 minute one? I don't think it was because on that one you say she swatted your bottom 3 or 4 times on the way to your room. This was a well deserved spanking however even if you did not expect it.

[> [> Subject: Re: Cooperation and Negotiation Author: Louise Vancisic [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:42:16 11/16/25 Sun Dearest Brooke. I can guess the rest but it I really enjoy hearing you tell it. Were you really being disrespectful or was she setting an unreasonably high bar? Several times I was spanked because I rolled my eyes or made a wry face. I did not think that I should have been spanked.