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>Hey Denny, I don't really see it as abusive as its >just my perception of what my parents might have been >thinking. Yelling and crying harder didn't get me out >of a spanking, it just got more spanked more. Same as >the cuteness of Jerry's "little bare buttocks" might >have encouraged a spanking - but might not. > >And similarly. Some parents (especially mothers?) have >been known to say "make sure to give him a big one" >before a spanking. Or express satisfaction at the >effects of a particularly big spanking. Or make sure >to spank until the target area is a specific shade of >cherry red. > >So there's some schadenfreude going on quite often, >but that's not the same thing as it being abusive. > >I think, maybe contrary to expectations, formal >spankings with a smaller number of big swats, are less >subject to the kind of variability that can make some >spankings seem arbitrary. A spanking that's a very >large number of smaller swats more often continues >until the parent has "made sure it's enough", which is >a more subjective judgement so maybe leads to parents >getting "carried away". > >I think it's a problem to classify spankings as >abusive just because of an apparently harsh attitude >or method taken by the parent. On the internet >generally, most people claim that all spankings are >abusive, and a spanking with an implement doubly so. >Here on this forum it's different, even tho people >here receive, received, or give spankings of different >sizes or severities. > >Some people see nothing at all funny about a spanking, >wouldn't enjoy watching a spanking, and don't see the >point of a birthday spanking. Other people find the >spectacle interesting, intense or exciting. Or feel >some level of schadenfreude. Or see birthday spankings >as a fun event for everyone. Or (more controversial) >see substantial birthday spankings as a good way to >help keep kids in line. > >Graeme posted a link recently to an interesting 2005 >case where there was outrage after newspaper headlines >claimed that a 12 year old boy had been "beaten with a >horsewhip" by his mother. > >Reading the headlines, and even some of the articles >themselves, it was easy to think "that's obviously >abusive". But it's only when reading the mother's own >detailed account, that it emerges that the "horsewhip" >was actually more like an ultra miniature version of >the tawse. More suitable for spanking a small stuffed >toy plushie than a full size 12 year old boy. Plus it >sounded like the mother's use of it, and her parenting >generally, were completely unproblematic. She was >acquitted by a jury. > ><img >src="https://live.staticflickr.com/65535/51388334247_35 >4c418829_n.jpg" width="320" height="281"> > >When I write here, I like to emphasise the enthusiasm >that my parents spank with because, I think similar to >the spankings that Jerry gets, my spankings are very >large, very intense, and really quite a big deal (to >me anyway). I've never really experienced the type of >spanking "a few swats and then it's all over". But I >wouldn't want anyone to misinterpret my descriptions >either.
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