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Subject: Re: New Years Resolutions

Author: Kristina to Cath again lol (Excited and Feeling Supported)

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07:25:21 01/21/24 Sun In reply to: Cath to Kristina 's message, "Re: New Years Resolutions" on 00:00:32 01/21/24 Sun Dear Cath, you're welcome! And thank you for being so open with me, I am glassy eyed just reading that, its beautiful and sweet, and it was an invigorating read, you're doing great! Did you tell the kid you ordered a new paddle or shall it be a surprise? I am very happy with it lol though I still use my hairbrush some My hairbrush I use was the one my mom used on me until 19, she wrapped it up with a bow and gave it to me at my first babyshower for my oldest lol the ladies ohhed and ahhwed knowing what it was for :) Tell your husband thank you for allowing you to write to me, and thanks for the compliment, you are a family after my own heart! Very stern but i can tell you really love and care. I am impressed with your methods as well As far as emails, there are secure encrypted email services, free , one of which I use that are very private, so an option could be creating an account both you and husband could use to discuss these important issues. If he still would not feel comfortable, doing so, I can understand and respect that, feel free to ask questions about it if you wish though! I will tell you in a follow up post in great detail our bedtime routine but I wanted to ask questions about yours first, to clarify some things :) Yes, my children were same way about bedtime or making up excuses to get up , thirsty, need to pee, etc lol I feel that begging and fussing like they used to about bedtime, should mean bringing them to the bathroom, soaping their mouths and putting them back to bed, as that I consider backtalk for sure. I would suggest if there is a tv in their bedroom to remove it. I would also have a special box you can put in mom and dads room, where laptops, cell phones, flashlights are placed prior to bedtime, so there can be no temptation. That fifteen minutes of waiting must be very effective, shaking and chatting to eachother "how hard will they be tonight??" have you ever snuck to the door to listen or peek in to see the cute display going on? Are they wide eyed when that brush and strap are seen? And do they beg to get out of it at that point? It is wonderful you make sure to have kleenex and washcloth handy. If I may make another suggestion, a bottle of baby oil kept there as well, its good to apply before any spanking, adds to the sting without any damage done. Beds being far apart means a wall for corner time. I think you facing eachother is fantastic for the view for both of you to see how effective, but for the kids to see eachother also so when you started in september, how did you explain things? so you mentioned the hand portion is fairly short, How long if you had to guess is each of their hand spankings for bedtime? what are jimmys reactions having to watch TWO hand spankings at same time before his own, and their reactions to seeing his? its great you snuggle them and comfort as they cry during Jimmy's spankings, but maybe could make sure to also point and say "see how red his bum is getting?" "see how daddy controls his kicking?" "my his bum is getting warm, huh girls?" "remember darlings, a warm bottom means a warm heart, a sound spanking is an act of love" So, I really like what you said about the girls in diaper position and you holding their legs nice and wide, and back i assume so one foot is beside each ear? do you say anything during the strapping? the dance is all part of it, the spanky dance lol How many swats does Tom give for Jimmys hairbrush spanking? and can I ask why you use strap for the girls and not him? reading the bible is great, and I like that you kneel and pray with them. I would add some ritual, where they have to say something like "thank you mommy and daddy for spanking our bare bottoms" to show their acceptance, symbollically. I LOVE that you then praise and comfort them let them know they were so brave! It made me smile reading that it left you satisfied you are doing the right thing, and if I dare say in a loving marriage, I think in marriages where a flame is kept alive, well, being a spanking family is a HUGE part of keeping that romance and fire lol what time do you start the bedtime routine? I was thinking of a suggestion, what if, you personally bathed the girls before you begin, talk about whats to come and gently help them wash hair etc.. and THEN have them march to their room to wait nude for you to come in? Oh no, just because you got the lexan, please dont stop the hand warm up, it prepares their bottoms but its also the touch, its important skin to skin bonding My complete methods and routine for discipline and for bedtime reminders, will be a surprise ill get to when i reply to your answers here, BUT... I will give one spoiler, you asked about a weekly meeeting, well... by the way I put lotion on their bottoms after every session , arnaca gel i like best, or aloe and they heal and de-redden quickly but it doesnt ease the sore warm feeling much. But the spoiler is, Friday evenings, yes, I and if hubby is home, talk to them go over the weeks events you mentioned a diary, I keep a sort of diary, its a spanking log, I put down date time , reason for spanking and what they got (for bedtime i write bedtime session lol rather than a big long entry) would be nice to do same, then for a weekly review you can go over the entries with them and expplain how to do better. My daughter, on friday nights, will be put in diaper position on the sofa, with her brother waiting his turn. Now depending on offences, the length of a lexan paddling varies. BUT you mentioned long and slow... well My timer I have, gets set for twelve minutes. (15 if they had been naughty that week) I vary the pace, between fast and slower, but i can paddle pretty firmly with it and still not mark bottoms. I give her a hug and kiss tell her she did well, and she sits on her corner stool hands on head while i deal with brother. same treatment but not diaper position, hes bent over sofa arm with a pillow under hips. He does his corner time, and then we come back to living room to cuddle and i rub their backs and soothe them, and talk about it, i encourage them to answer my questions and them to ask their own. Some final questions here: Do you noticed in addition to sleeping better, they wake up more refreshed and less likely to be grumpy in morning? How often are they punishment spanked and how are those done? Does your church have a place parents use to spank be it a ladies room or some empty classroom or bathroom? do you have other families near you who also share similar beliefs and methods? God bless! 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