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>Whell I wasn't judging you. I apologize if I came off >that way. I'm simply surprised, because if your >parents actually met my parents in real life, your >parents would likely have thought my parents to be >"permissive", even if they were too polite to ever say >so outright. Yet this is one point, on which, >undeniably, my parents were sticklers. > >I've heard a lot over the years about what it's like >to grow up in a southern family. Particularly a family >such as the Duggars, who literally taught their >daughters that God was always out to get them. > >There was a family that went to our church, when my >boys were growing up. They were originally from Texas. >They kicked their oldest boy out of the house, because >he told them he was gay. (He was 14 years old) The >moment I found out about the situation, I arranged for >him to live with another family in the church, Who >promised to take care of him until he was 18. > >(They actually ended up paying for him to go to >college, and and helping him get his career started. >He considers them his real family to this day.) > >The boy's parents were actually furious with me for >arranging the boy's new housing situation. They felt >that by finding him to a place to stay, I was >"interfering with their parenting". I told them that >they stopped "parenting" the moment they kicked the >boy out. > >There is nothing for me to interfere with! > >They left our church, soon after. > >My Uncle's friend, Whom I sometimes refer to as simply >another Uncle, he had a similar story. His family >disowned him. They were from Kentucky. But our family >essentially adopted him. To my Brothers and I, he was >our uncle every bit as much as our biological Uncle. > >After Uncle died, our other Uncle simply remained a >part of the family. (He even had his last name changed >to match ours, at some point that I don't want to get >into.) > >My point is that everything I've heard about southern >families... you being allowed to have a guy in your >room, even with the door open, it sounds out of place >from southerners I've met. > >I wonder: Is that something that the parents of your >school friends would have allowed or did allow? > >I had a girlfriend in college. Her mother was from >Florida. (at least as far as I was told) The daughter >was more locally grown. But the point is that the girl >was my first time. In fact, there was a second time, >third... a LOT of it. > >(I made bad decisions, when I was a boy) > >But her Florida mother was actually cool with all of >it, and even encouraged it quite a bit. (She didn't >want to watch or anything like that. The mother just >wanted me to act like I was part of their little >family.) > >It turned out there was a reason why I was getting all >of that. The mother and daughter both wanted me to get >daughter pregnant, despite the fact that I didn't want >that. They actually told me that she was on the pill. >She was not. > >After that breakup, that's when I had myself fixed. > >That said, that sounds less like the standard southern >family, than what I've heard out of the Duggar >neighborhood. For a long time, They were actually >showcased on TV as the ideal southern family. > >(30 children all birthed by the same cow. Weird!) > >But honestly the way you typically describe your >family, (Except for the above example) that usually >sounds a little more like what I would expect to be >the typical southern family. > >I guess that's why I find it so interesting that your >parents were so permissive on this one particular >point. Are you the same with your girls? Or are they >to dating age yet?

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