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Subject: Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead?

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Jim W to Sonya
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Date Posted: 15:15:46 01/05/25 Sun
In reply to: Sonya 's message, "Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead?" on 08:22:09 01/05/25 Sun

With my boys there were always clues as to what was going on. I could tell who was running upstairs by the sound, they were three and a half years apart in age. (making their weight completely different.)

When the house got quiet, I knew to check and see what they were getting into. I would guess that your mother used clues like that.

There's a reason why I used Mrs Hendrix as my example. (aside from her love of calling even the slightest deviation from the truth a "fib")

Try as I might, I don't recall me or my brothers ever blatantly lying to Mother or Father. We might bend the truth a bit, we might leave contextual information out of a statement, we might even exaggerate details that made us look better...

But I don't actually recall any of us saying something that was completely false. Not even my Older-Brother.

However there were multiple examples of boys at the school trying to give teachers and Mrs Hendrix completely false information.

Once or twice one of them would say something and Mrs Hendrix would ask me if it was true. I really did not want to rat out the other boys, but I also didn't want to implicate myself in... whatever, so my response was usually along the lines of I did not witness any of this.

(Or simply "I don't know!")

I can't count how many times I heard her say, "Of course you do, silly boy!"

(Followed by a bit of reasoning, why she supposedly didn't believe me, true or not)

As for double spankings, we usually only got those if we were acting up in public. We'd get it right there on-the-seat-of-the-pants, and then when we got home we'd get it pants down.

If something was handled by another adult, then my parents weren't really big on giving us a second one whenever we got home. There was a rare trap sugar butt they usually just considered the matter closed.

My best friend's parents didn't always feel the same way about that however. The very few times that she was punished at our house, my parents would intentionally neglect to tell her parents about it, because they considered the matter closed.

And I was not about to volunteer information.

My parents were never as strict as her's, anyway. I think I just used to figure that it was because they didn't have as much room in their home to give each other as much space....

But I raised my own boys in an apartment, that was much smaller than best friend's house. The limited space did not make me as strict as her parents. In fact, I would argue that I was more laid back than even my own parents.

My boys might disagree with that. I had a VERY hands on parenting style. (That is NOT a euphemism for heavy spanker) I parented by spending more time with them, and involving them in more of my activities, than any adult ever did for me.

A paddling was not off the table, as an option, mind you. But I simply used all of my other options first so it never really came to that.

(It also helped a great deal that my boys were far better behaved than I ever was as a boy.)

Did how your parents raised you effect how you are as a parent?

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Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead? Sonya 14:39:43 01/06/25 Mon

Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead? -- Jim W to Sonya, 16:12:36 01/06/25 Mon

Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead? -- Sonya, 20:56:30 01/06/25 Mon

Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead? -- Jim W to Sonya, 21:53:05 01/07/25 Tue

Re: Was there Ever an Adult always a Step Ahead? -- Sonya, 14:40:46 01/08/25 Wed

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>With my boys there were always clues as to what was >going on. I could tell who was running upstairs by the >sound, they were three and a half years apart in age. >(making their weight completely different.) > >When the house got quiet, I knew to check and see what >they were getting into. I would guess that your mother >used clues like that. > >There's a reason why I used Mrs Hendrix as my example. >(aside from her love of calling even the slightest >deviation from the truth a "fib") > >Try as I might, I don't recall me or my brothers ever >blatantly lying to Mother or Father. We might bend the >truth a bit, we might leave contextual information out >of a statement, we might even exaggerate details that >made us look better... > >But I don't actually recall any of us saying something >that was completely false. Not even my Older-Brother. > >However there were multiple examples of boys at the >school trying to give teachers and Mrs Hendrix >completely false information. > >Once or twice one of them would say something and Mrs >Hendrix would ask me if it was true. I really did not >want to rat out the other boys, but I also didn't want >to implicate myself in... whatever, so my response was >usually along the lines of I did not witness any of >this. > >(Or simply "I don't know!") > >I can't count how many times I heard her say, "Of >course you do, silly boy!" > >(Followed by a bit of reasoning, why she supposedly >didn't believe me, true or not) > >As for double spankings, we usually only got those if >we were acting up in public. We'd get it right there >on-the-seat-of-the-pants, and then when we got home >we'd get it pants down. > >If something was handled by another adult, then my >parents weren't really big on giving us a second one >whenever we got home. There was a rare trap sugar butt >they usually just considered the matter closed. > >My best friend's parents didn't always feel the same >way about that however. The very few times that she >was punished at our house, my parents would >intentionally neglect to tell her parents about it, >because they considered the matter closed. > >And I was not about to volunteer information. > >My parents were never as strict as her's, anyway. I >think I just used to figure that it was because they >didn't have as much room in their home to give each >other as much space.... > >But I raised my own boys in an apartment, that was >much smaller than best friend's house. The limited >space did not make me as strict as her parents. In >fact, I would argue that I was more laid back than >even my own parents. > >My boys might disagree with that. I had a VERY hands >on parenting style. (That is NOT a euphemism for heavy >spanker) I parented by spending more time with them, >and involving them in more of my activities, than any >adult ever did for me. > >A paddling was not off the table, as an option, mind >you. But I simply used all of my other options first >so it never really came to that. > >(It also helped a great deal that my boys were far >better behaved than I ever was as a boy.) > >Did how your parents raised you effect how you are as >a parent?

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