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Alex to Gary Steven
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Date Posted: 13:32:32 09/24/25 Wed
In reply to: Gary Steven to Alex and Colin 's message, "Re: Spanking With Emphasis On Embarrassment" on 15:11:46 09/23/25 Tue

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate you for the childhood memories you have related here and I don't think myself or Colin ever meant to suggest the stories are not true. I certainly believe them. You are also fully welcome to speak your piece. The reason I mentioned your name was because I wanted to hear from you.

I especially appreciate your reply because it turns out I recently had a very similar conversation with my mother as the one you had with your mother. She had the same #1 reason as your mother for spanking bare bottom, a factor many people avoid or brush aside: embarrassment.

My mother told me the same thing almost verbatim: "the embarrassment lasts much longer than the pain." I think we can both agree it's true. She also said something along the lines of the second point that spanking bare bottom meant she could put less emphasis on pain and not hit quite as hard. That being said, I was almost exclusively spanked by open hand. I got the cane only twice both when I was 13 the last two times I was spanked, and they were not bare bottom, while it sounds like many implements were used in your family. Perhaps this is a reflection of the changing times since you grew up many years before me.

There are three elements of bare bottom spanking you experienced that I'd like to ask you about because they both relate to embarrassment: being spanked as you grew older, being spanked in front of opposite sex children, and being spanked in public.

Did you find spankings became more embarrassing as you grew older and developed more of a sense of modesty? I know in my experience around age 9-10 there was an undeniable element of embarrassment attached to spanking that seemed deliberately enforced by my parents or whoever in the family was spanking me. By the time I had turned 12 this element had multiplied. But within your family and/or perhaps the time period you grew up in, nudity might not have been such a big deal.

Did you find being spanked in front of girls was significantly more embarrassing than being spanked in front of boys? Whenever I was spanked with my kid sister watching it was exceptionally embarrassing, although I think it was even worse for her when spanked in front of me. When spanked in front of cousins, I didn't mind nearly as much if boys were watching than if girls were watching.

Now, with regard to public spanking, I know it was an experience you found embarrassing as anyone would, but I'm curious if you found being spanked in public more embarrassing than being spanked in front of family members? Perhaps it depended on the family member. I guess what I'm asking is, was public spanking the most embarrassing form of punishment you experienced in childhood?

If I may share a story: I only ever received one public spanking, on a beach at 11 years old from my aunt. She pulled my swim trunks down on the spot, put me over her knee, and spanked me with her hand. The beach was not crowded at that point as the day was coming to a close, but at least a dozen people saw it happen. To say I cried is an understatement. I erupted like a volcano from the humiliation, and while some of my cousins were there witnessing I was more upset that this was being done in front of people who I didn't even know and would probably never meet. It's like our mothers said: the embarrassment lasts much longer than the pain.

Another question is on that note. Your mother stated that the first and foremost reason for spanking your bare bottom was the embarrassment factor, which she wanted to stay with you to deter against future misbehavior. Did you find this to be a more powerful deterrent? In other words, if you were threatened with a spanking, did you behave yourself more from fear of the pain from the spanking or the embarrassment of having to bare your bottom? Were they both equal? Perhaps it changed as you grew older?

My final question is on what your mother said: "You will forget the pain in a few hours, but the embarrassment of having your bare butt spanked will last a lot longer." Perhaps I'm reading into it wrong, but does that mean that she believed embarrassment was the most important part of the punishment when it comes to spanking, more important than pain, because it has the longest and most powerful effect? I'm sorry to fixate on this but so many people side-step embarrassment as an integral, even deliberate part of spanking as a punishment and the only person I ever knew who so openly acknowledged and indeed justified it was my mom (and other adults in my family). With your mom, it was openly acknowledged (at least after you'd grown), and there's something I find so refreshing about that. I'm unpacking a lot of stuff on this topic and I'm sorry to bombard you with so many questions about your own life but I really appreciate the insight.

Perhaps to make it a bit easier for you, I'll repost the questions I asked here:

1) Did you find spankings became more embarrassing as you grew older and developed more of a sense of modesty?

2) Did you find being spanked in front of girls was significantly more embarrassing than being spanked in front of boys?

3) Was public spanking the most embarrassing form of punishment you experienced in childhood? More embarrassing than in front of family?

4) If you were threatened with a spanking, did you behave yourself more from fear of the pain from the spanking or the embarrassment of having to bare your bottom? Were they both equal deterrents? Perhaps it changed as you grew older?

5) Based on what your mother said about embarrassment surrounding bare bottom spanking, to be specific does that mean she believed embarrassment was the most important part of the punishment when it comes to spanking, more important than pain, because it has the longest and most powerful effect?

Thank you in advance for your time, Gary.

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>Thank you for your reply. I appreciate you for the >childhood memories you have related here and I don't >think myself or Colin ever meant to suggest the >stories are not true. I certainly believe them. You >are also fully welcome to speak your piece. The reason >I mentioned your name was because I wanted to hear >from you. > >I especially appreciate your reply because it turns >out I recently had a very similar conversation with my >mother as the one you had with your mother. She had >the same #1 reason as your mother for spanking bare >bottom, a factor many people avoid or brush aside: >embarrassment. > >My mother told me the same thing almost verbatim: "the >embarrassment lasts much longer than the pain." I >think we can both agree it's true. She also said >something along the lines of the second point that >spanking bare bottom meant she could put less emphasis >on pain and not hit quite as hard. That being said, I >was almost exclusively spanked by open hand. I got the >cane only twice both when I was 13 the last two times >I was spanked, and they were not bare bottom, while it >sounds like many implements were used in your family. >Perhaps this is a reflection of the changing times >since you grew up many years before me. > >There are three elements of bare bottom spanking you >experienced that I'd like to ask you about because >they both relate to embarrassment: being spanked as >you grew older, being spanked in front of opposite sex >children, and being spanked in public. > >Did you find spankings became more embarrassing as you >grew older and developed more of a sense of modesty? I >know in my experience around age 9-10 there was an >undeniable element of embarrassment attached to >spanking that seemed deliberately enforced by my >parents or whoever in the family was spanking me. By >the time I had turned 12 this element had multiplied. >But within your family and/or perhaps the time period >you grew up in, nudity might not have been such a big >deal. > >Did you find being spanked in front of girls was >significantly more embarrassing than being spanked in >front of boys? Whenever I was spanked with my kid >sister watching it was exceptionally embarrassing, >although I think it was even worse for her when >spanked in front of me. When spanked in front of >cousins, I didn't mind nearly as much if boys were >watching than if girls were watching. > >Now, with regard to public spanking, I know it was an >experience you found embarrassing as anyone would, but >I'm curious if you found being spanked in public more >embarrassing than being spanked in front of family >members? Perhaps it depended on the family member. I >guess what I'm asking is, was public spanking the most >embarrassing form of punishment you experienced in >childhood? > >If I may share a story: I only ever received one >public spanking, on a beach at 11 years old from my >aunt. She pulled my swim trunks down on the spot, put >me over her knee, and spanked me with her hand. The >beach was not crowded at that point as the day was >coming to a close, but at least a dozen people saw it >happen. To say I cried is an understatement. I erupted >like a volcano from the humiliation, and while some of >my cousins were there witnessing I was more upset that >this was being done in front of people who I didn't >even know and would probably never meet. It's like our >mothers said: the embarrassment lasts much longer than >the pain. > >Another question is on that note. Your mother stated >that the first and foremost reason for spanking your >bare bottom was the embarrassment factor, which she >wanted to stay with you to deter against future >misbehavior. Did you find this to be a more powerful >deterrent? In other words, if you were threatened with >a spanking, did you behave yourself more from fear of >the pain from the spanking or the embarrassment of >having to bare your bottom? Were they both equal? >Perhaps it changed as you grew older? > >My final question is on what your mother said: "You >will forget the pain in a few hours, but the >embarrassment of having your bare butt spanked will >last a lot longer." Perhaps I'm reading into it wrong, >but does that mean that she believed embarrassment was >the most important part of the punishment when it >comes to spanking, more important than pain, because >it has the longest and most powerful effect? I'm sorry >to fixate on this but so many people side-step >embarrassment as an integral, even deliberate part of >spanking as a punishment and the only person I ever >knew who so openly acknowledged and indeed justified >it was my mom (and other adults in my family). With >your mom, it was openly acknowledged (at least after >you'd grown), and there's something I find so >refreshing about that. I'm unpacking a lot of stuff on >this topic and I'm sorry to bombard you with so many >questions about your own life but I really appreciate >the insight. > >Perhaps to make it a bit easier for you, I'll repost >the questions I asked here: > >1) Did you find spankings became more embarrassing as >you grew older and developed more of a sense of >modesty? > >2) Did you find being spanked in front of girls was >significantly more embarrassing than being spanked in >front of boys? > >3) Was public spanking the most embarrassing form of >punishment you experienced in childhood? More >embarrassing than in front of family? > >4) If you were threatened with a spanking, did you >behave yourself more from fear of the pain from the >spanking or the embarrassment of having to bare your >bottom? Were they both equal deterrents? Perhaps it >changed as you grew older? > >5) Based on what your mother said about embarrassment >surrounding bare bottom spanking, to be specific does >that mean she believed embarrassment was the most >important part of the punishment when it comes to >spanking, more important than pain, because it has the >longest and most powerful effect? > >Thank you in advance for your time, Gary.

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