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>Thank you, oldtimer for such a detailed response to my >question. :) I appreciate all of the context you >included. It’s very helpful with allowing me to >understand better what your childhood experiences were >like. And I can definitely see the contrast between >the lack of constraints on the adults of your era, >compared to now. > >And others on this board have also spoken a bit about >double standards that did/do exist. I am certainly >aware enough to agree with that sentiment. And while >things of today have gotten to be much more liberal, >especially attitudes toward discipline, I can say >that, while I was growing up, there was certainly a >remnant of that old mentality that was alive and well. >I grew up in the Midwest. So, I have a bit of >familiarity with the things you are referencing. > >I will also say, that within church, they most >certainly hold on to those old fashioned values. Where >I did not experience things to the same degree as with >your upbringing, I did have instances where I was >essentially ‘at the mercy’ of the adults spanking >me. There was a decent circle of adults who spanked >me often enough, outside of my own parents. > >While I will say that discipline was their primary >focus, and I fortunately never experienced anything >traumatic, that ‘enjoyment factor’ did present >itself often enough, mostly, if certain other dads >were giving me the spanking. Seems like those who >were spanked, if they happened to have a more >attractive bottoms ( myself included) were more at a >disadvantage. So while boys, did have quite the double >standard for some things, I feel from my experiences, >that I endured being at other’s mercy, as well. > >Though, as with your experiences, a lot of things, and >how they were done were considered ‘normal’ for >the time. And in my case, me and my friends grew up in >church with those old fashioned values, as I said. So, >while it might not have been normal for a lot of other >people my age, it was still considered very normal for >me and my friends. So I accepted it as such, more or >less.

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