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>No need to apologize, I'm just getting older LOL But >its cute that you talk and type lots like I do when >you're excited because its a topic you are passionate >about. I do give advice to alot of church moms and >such and friends online of course as I want to help >and hear about the kids thriving from loving but >traditional discipline. > >When done right a spanking and the aftercare that >comes with it and the talks are a very loving act, and >so theres no such thing as too much love. Obviously >don't make lives impossible with far too many rules >theyre on eggshells lol > >but I will say this, and I am not judging or pushing >or trying to anyhow lol I work with boys most often, >but Brian will not be this age forever, the cuddles >and affection and such may not be as strong later as >hes like awwww but moooom lol but also, the time to >discipline and teach lessons is definitely now > >Dont misread what I am saying, you are doing a >WONDERFUL job with your family, I am just providing a >little food for thought, this has been goin through my >mind so had to type it out, hope that is okay and >you're not offended. > >The rule I always have had and told to others, is if >you do increase the strictness and or frequency of >discipline, you need to increase the praise and reward >for even small victories ten fold as well as the >affection. > >By more frequent, I used to be say once a week or so, >but I began to see some of the smaller things we could >work on a bit, and its been very beneficial to have >discussions and discipline about those particular >areas, i help him understand the why of the >strictness, out of his best interest in mind. > >I have also seen the difference in some , not >generalizing all lol but in some, the difference >between those spanked not that often and a little bit >more frequent, its not always a huge difference, but I >do notice a slight uptick in how there manners are >when out places in many cases >Less selective hearing going on. > >And I know I had that as a girl , drove my mother >crazy lol I'd choose to listen to her, but only the >parts I wanted to hear :P But daughter has gotten >some of my sarcasm and humor but luckily it hasnt >manifested in her backtalking too badly - yet I know >famous last words once shes a teen > >We all try to improve slightly on what our parents did >before us, thats how parenthood usually goes you learn >as you go. But they used to say it takes a village to >raise a child, and well I do believe n that so I try >to be open to giving and getting tips and advice, its >nice hearing how others do thngs as well. > >My biggest issue for my son is him not listening to me >as well as he should at times, or getting distracted >by like a video game or book and forget what I had >asked of him , of course I have some patience and >leeway for that. But there is a limit! > >My daughter, mostly its the whole but my friends can >do x or y (and I know all her friends parents so most >of the time I know theyd spank and not allow it, like >belly shirts lol)

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