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>Hi Sarah, > >Thanks for starting this site. I will share a history >of my childhood discipline. I welcome any comments or >questions. > >I’ll start with the basics. I am a woman, now 67 >years old, married and with two grown children. My >parents were both raised in Eastern Europe and moved >into a working-class Catholic Slavic neighborhood in >NY. > >Even in a traditional authoritarian, male centric >community, my parents, being post war immigrants, were >known for their strictness. Actually, they were known >for their strictness with their daughter. I had so >many more rules than my friends and what was even >harder for me, my younger brother. > >At any rate, a few facts about my discipline. My >parents most often “corrected” me by spanking. >Depending on the “offense” they would use hand, >hairbrush or strap. Depending on the method, the >number of strokes would vary. Mom administered most of >the spankings though when I got the strap it was >usually from my father. I believe that the number of >smacks was somewhat predetermined but not necessarily >held to. Mom was more prone to draw out a spanking so >while five to ten minutes across her lap was fairly >typical, the actual number of swats, even by hand, >rarely exceeded forty. > >I was what you would call a good girl. If my parents >only spanked me for disobedience, I wouldn’t have >done too badly. But, they saw spanking as a way to >modify all kinds of behavior including performance of >chores and performance in school. If I got in trouble >in school, no matter how minor the infraction, I would >be spanked at home. My teachers soon found out that >the mere threat of sending me home with a note brought >about my instant compliance. Understandably there were >not many such incidents. Report card time, however, >was a different story. My parents demanded ‘A’s. >If I brought home more than one “curved letter” >grade, it would be evidence of “laziness” and >I’d get a spanking. I will confess that it motivated >me to achieve excellence. > >I was spanked either on my bare bottom or over my >panties. If bare, it was always Mom and always in >private. Thank heaven for small things. However, there >were fewer compunctions about pulling up my skirt in >the presence of other close family, including my >brother. He got his beatings from Dad but they were >always private affairs. > >Perhaps the punishment I feared most was getting >spanked in the morning before school. Needless to say >I was extra careful in the morning and made any >confessions the evening before. Still, I couldn’t >totally avoid those instances where I left the house >still >crying. > >As to frequency, it varied with my age. Prior to age >10, I was rarely punished for issues of >“responsibility” so I probably averaged one or two >formal spankings a month. At age 11, my parents became >more demanding, and the spanking frequency rose. From >age 11 to 14, the combination of stricter rules and my >desire for more freedom resulted in an increase of >spankings for both responsibility and behavior. I >doubt that a week would go by without Momma or Daddy >finding reason to administer a spanking. Twice a week >wasn’t so unusual either. At age 15 I was spanked >much less and at age 16, without any announcement, it >stopped. > >I did not enjoy getting spanked in the least but as an >adult I find it fascinates me. I get my fulfillment >through reading literature, viewing drawings and >corresponding. What I seek is realistic scenarios that >delve into emotions as well as graphic descriptions. >In correspondence I want someone who is of course, >interested in this subject, articulate and reasonably >committed. There are several levels that I can connect >on, whether it be exchanging experiences, discussing >stories, expounding on aspects of spanking, etc. > >Louise > > > > > > >Thought we could introduce ourselves and our families >>here. My name is Sarah I am a single mom, but have >>support of friends and church. From the Midwest USA >>here. >> >>I have close families who are good friends that also >>discipline, my best gal friend has two kids also and >>we help each other. >> >>My son Matthew is 7 and Marie is 9. They certainly >>grow up fast! I am an old fashioned mom with some >>modern mixed in. I do use firm discipline which >>includes spanking, but from a place of love and >>wanting them to learn grow and thrive. >> >>I personally see sooo many children whose parents >>aren't, well parenting! and Hopefully this forum can >>help encourage parents in that way. Its been shown >>children need and even desire boundaries. >> >>I think we can discuss how we discipline clearly while >>still being I don't know, modest in our descriptions? >>Hope we can all chat and be friends!

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