VoyForums
[ Show ]
Support VoyForums
[ Shrink ]
VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, [2], 3, 4 ]

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 07:41:52 03/27/02 Wed
Author: lisa
Subject: what do you think?
In reply to: Cindy 's message, "Trust!" on 01:03:57 03/23/02 Sat

hmmm:

first clue:

3 marriages, all ending in divorce due to HIS CHEATING

second clue:

you left him due to his "typical" ways...by the way, in defense of many men, including my husband, the roving eye is NOT typical.

third clue:

promises that he will change, however, you still do not see a change.

Do you need to walk into your bedroom and find him already there with one of his flitrs? You both need counciling if you want this to work. He obviously hasn't changed for any other woman (ie- his wives) so what signals has he given you to make you think he will stay faithful?

you cant lock him down...by showing you dont trust him and by being suspicious, and if you call him when he goes out to check up on him, it may make him want to go out and do it even more.

PLUS...................if he got away with it with you before, it only shows that he can get away with cheating as long as he apologizes. is that what you want for your future?

think of all of the gross disease out there! now, since you are with him and ASSUME that you are the only one he is sleeping with, you sleep with him (protection is never a 100% guarantee against anything. Maybe he trusted the woman he cheated on you with and came home with chlamydia (which causes infertility and has limited symptoms in men)....OR....one of his side dishes gets pregnant! oh no! can you live with that? or, can you say that it will hurt less if you wait to see what happens?

i think that women should be much stronger than this. not all men have cheating tendancies. and if you let them get away with it, it just reinforces the behavior....same for women too.

dont wait until it is your turn, and his FOURTH divorce, to realize that, maybe, you are worth more than just the title of "the woman he comes home to every night".

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

Forum timezone: GMT+9
VF Version: 3.00b, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2019 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.