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Date Posted: 02:24:26 05/10/02 Fri
Author: Hawah
Subject: Sudden, international love?

I almost never do anything risky, I always think things through carefully before acting, and unfamiliar situations scare the heck out of me. So of course, I had to go and fall into infatuation (I'm not sure it should really be called love...love seems like too special a word to be used in the least bit lightly.) with a guy in Nepal. I'm in the USA. We've only been talking online for less than 2 months, but we've averaged about 4 hours a day, partly online and partly on the phone. We both got web cams and microphones to make the distance between us seem a little smaller. He says he loves me and wants to marry me, and even though that seems crazy to me after such a short time, since he comes from a culture of arranged marriages, maybe it's not so crazy. He tells me that in the last 300 years, no one in his family has ever been divorced. That says to me that, if he actually married me, it would probably be for life. I have no ties to prevent me from moving the Nepal, and the only thing keeping him in Nepal is his business. Any of the distance issues can be handled...so now I just have to decide if I want to marry him, and that's not going to be easy. As far as his personality goes, I'm nuts about him...I had no idea I could be so completely comfortable with a man the way I am with him. I've shared things with him that I've never shared with anyone else. The difficulty is that he comes from a different country, with a different language, different culture, different religion, and different dietary requirements (he's vegetarian). That's a lot of differences to overcome.

I'm terrified to be taking such a big risk...but I've just made travel plans to go to Nepal for a week to meet him. I'll be leaving on the 23rd of May.

So, comments please! Advice on how to minimize the risks would be highly appreciated.

Thanks! Hawah1978@hotmail.com

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