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Date Posted: 16:12:51 01/02/02 Wed
Author: B
Subject: The Battle

HMMMMMM, it seems some folks have decided to open a can of worms.
Very, very interesting. "The battle of the sexes" is alive and well.
Let us talk of possible solutions, not Brad Pitt.

The core of human relationships must begin with respect. The ol' "do unto others" thing.

The price of being a "nice guy" or a "great gal" is the risk of being burned. Who can you trust in this world? Not even ourselves apparently.

How about some discernment? The ability to tell the difference between a potentially bad idea, and a wise choice. Forgiving yourself for not knowing the difference. Learning that if you should have a disagreement with any person, some respect will get you a long way. I know yes, give a person an inch and they will take a fucking mile. Trust someone with your most intimate self, and risk being lied to, used, cheated on, stolen from, put down, thrown out.

How do you forgive? How do you move forward?

Start by respecting yourself. I don't mean become a self indulged asshole. I mean have enough respect for oneself not to say things you can't take back. Swallow your pride once in a while....... long enough to say something worthwhile.

Be a trustworthy person, forgive small transgretions, don't intentially piss people off, be a likeable person.

We are only human, it's our greatest fault.

Let me not offer the impression that I have not spent many a year angry, sad, confused, used,jealous, and so on......

"Why can't I just be Brad Pitt for a day so I can get laid".
"What is so wrong with me".
"How could this person do this to me".
"There is no such thing as a good woman".
"All women want is to take the things we care about away, just to see us hurt".
"The GODdamned court system believes any bull$*%t some C*%# tells them".
"Because I have a right to"
"THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS JUSTICE".

Apparently that was not "The Battle".

The Battle was having known the feeling of a bad experience, hated myself, made shitloads of mistakes, said a bunch of shit I can't take back,spent a lot of money and became lonely in a world full of people,

and decided to have a shred of RESPECT

for myself and stop fighting,
stop wanting,
be constructive,
get some stuff together,
be likeable,
know my role.

That is when I moved forward in "The Battle"

And tried to stop worrying about what other peoples problems are

And stop worrying why there is no-one good out there

And learn to trust myself

Respect myself

Be a good parent

Respect others whom I disagree with

Listen to what others whom I disagree with are trying to say

And move forward

Self improve

Don't be an asshole

Be Likeable

Try that and see if helps

It just might.....

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