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Subject: Re: Should I be ashamed ? What did I do wrong ?

Author:
Claire

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Date Posted: 11:40:31 05/11/11 Wed
In reply to: Cowboy 's message, "Should I be ashamed ? What did I do wrong ?" on 02:16:29 05/11/11 Wed

I was going through that with my son until I discovered he was dyslexic, even now I can have that. It was a shock that my world, my most incredible accomplishment, the boy I thought was so special struggles so greatly and will his whole life!

I see the boy he once was, and it breaks my heart. I feel so stressed just thinking about putting him to bed because that is when all his upset and depression poors out of him. Don't even get me started about homework time. I get sick just thinking about it. Then I feel guilty for worrying about spending time with my son!

When he was younger trying to count to 13 was impossible and it too much longer than it did for other kids his age. I would go through those feelings especially as school was such a breeze for me.

Seeing him have to get help for reading at school before dyslexia was diagnosed had me thinking "my kid is in special help people must think I am a terrible parent".

I wondered if I was a bad parent because my child could not get his days of the week right until he was 9!

I could go on with a long list but I am slowly coming to realize that as I am fighting for him to get the help he needs, that is what makes me a good parent. I could have done things differently sure, but I could have done things a lot worse.

It still is a struggle to adjust my way of dealing with him based on his dyslexia but I work hard at it and push through all the tears and stress.

There are many parents out there feeling what you feel. I am one of them and I love my son more than I could have every imagined before I had him!

When my son was born I put him first and did everything I could to be a good mother and it was so important to me. He still ended up dyslexic.

Your love and support will make so much different. What I have been told is that as she gets older and manages the dyslexia much better your support will have helped a lot.

This is going to be a tough road. Take it one day at a time. If you have faith God will be there and if you need someone to talk to I am here too. I understand the need to share and relate as I struggle through this process.

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Re: Should I be ashamed ? What did I do wrong ?	Mercy	19:32:27 08/20/11 Sat
Re: Should I be ashamed ? What did I do wrong ? -- Erin Hendrix, 11:41:14 09/14/11 Wed