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Date Posted: 05:56:18 04/04/05 Mon
Author: Princess_Rosepetal
Author Host/IP: 66.61.124.57
Subject: Re: Abondonment Issues
In reply to: Ninaaaaaah 's message, "Abondonment Issues" on 13:03:40 08/24/04 Tue

Hi Ninah,

I don't know really what to do but I thought it may be helpful just having someone who has the same fear respond.

I am currently in a support group that helps me understand my fears and how to cope.

I didn't ever put it together sensibly til just recently while reaching out for help. That's what made the difference for me.

I am 37 and still have these intense fears of abandonment. I was aware that it came from my father leaving me when I was only 7 yrs. old but I had no idea that this was the source of my irratic behaviors in relationships, esp. when I felt like they were going to leave me.

When they ended the relationship I was horrified and slipped into deep depression that nothing could get me out of. Prior to the breakup or nearness of it I would have intense anxiety making me disfunctional.

Many of my breakups while I was younger I would leave before they had the chance to break it off with me. Now in my older years when stability in a relationship is what I need most I cling on and suffocate or smother them.

I feel so emotionally unstable and I know that it came from my fathers' wrong doings to me in my childhood....one of which was abandonment.

There are many others that would lead to a much longer story. My email address is posted if you feel the need to make contact. Maybe we can help each other thru this constant struggle. There has to be a way....

Sincerely,

Rosepetal

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