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Date Posted: 02:01:38 06/03/02 Mon
Author: Rhonda
Author Host/IP: 216.66.152.164
Subject: Re: Any Thoughts ?
In reply to: Dave 's message, "Any Thoughts ?" on 13:46:30 06/02/02 Sun

Hey sweetie, knowing that your friend is at peace after living an inconsolable life, is nothing to be ashamed of. When I lost Lynn, after an 8 year relationship. The man I loved and wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It took me several months to reach that stage of peace. The initial pain, the shock of loss and the final stage of realizing that I would learn something from his suicide. When that feeling washed over me, I was very confused by my thoughts and feelings.

I think with you and the loss of a dear friend, though no less than my loss with Lynn, has allowed you to come to your acceptance and realization so much faster. With your struggle with cancer now, you have come to realize just how precious a gift life is.

That was the final conclusion that I came to in just a year after Lynns death. That life for me, was going to be full and that I would learn to live my life...as a legacy of my love of Lynn. What I learned from him, what he gave to me, what I remember of him, if I were to take my life as he did, his true self..who he was, would really be gone and I could not let that happen. His love, his life, his connection with my life was a big part of helping to create the person I am today.

People who come into our lives, ...for a day, an hour..for years or minutes, people that enter our lives, touch us and create an everlasting imprint..on us, our spirits..our minds, they become a part of us.

You are a dear friend, a good man...your friends death, though a hard lesson...is still that. One to make us understand, to open our eyes, to take in all that we can.

Grief, does not have a time limit and it is different with every death that comes.

I hope this helps..MUH MUH MUH
Rhonda

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