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Date Posted: 21:40:47 02/27/02 Wed
Author: Sandy
Author Host/IP: 216.104.140.59
Subject: Re: Need to feel good again,but how?
In reply to: Kathy 's message, "Need to feel good again,but how?" on 19:35:04 02/27/02 Wed

Wow, I wish I had some advice. I can't believe the nerve of him charging you rent when you signed the house over to him. It was your house to begin with. He's clearly taking advantage of you. I'm surprised you want anything to do with him. But I know that matters of the heart are more complicated. I wish you could just make yourself be so mad at him for daring to charge you rent on what was your house, and for daring to even make any sexual moves after the way he's treated you and not wanting a relationship. Maybe that anger would help you want to do better than him. There are better men out there. You could find a nice guy that truly cares and won't take advantage of you. I know this is easier said than done. My ex dumped me and kept coming back, swore there wasn't anyone else and then basically used me for sex until I finally found out what the truth was and even though it hurt so bad that I really wanted to die, I knew my son needed me and your's need you too. Matthew is the only thing that kept me going through some really dark days when I didn't care if I lived or died. It didn't help when I was still in contact with his dad because I was holding on to false hopes. A friend told me to cut out all contact unless absolutely necessary for our son's sake. When I did that, it started to help and eventually I just got really mad that he had dared to treat me like that and I swore to myself that no man would ever take advantage of me again. For a while I thought men were scum but then I met Scotty and he's been wonderful, sweet and supportive. I know with you living above him, it's hard to cut off all ties with him. You're in a heck of a mess and I don't know what to say. Do you go to a counselor? Maybe they could help you sort it out in your mind and take steps to improve the situation.

Whatever happens, remember that your sons do need their mom. I know sometimes that's hard to hang on to but it's true.

In the meantime you are welcome here any time and I really hope it gets better.

Take care,
Sandy

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  • Re: Need to feel good again,but how? -- gem, 14:18:39 02/28/02 Thu
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