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Date Posted: 09:35:37 05/01/02 Wed
Author: Theresa
Author Host/IP: ppp4.mtholly.eticomm.net / 208.9.146.4
Subject: I am soooo MAD

ya know this illness affects everyone in our lives well it plays he** on my youngest (tori) she hates conflict (an me with these hep fits) well I have been fighting with her school to get counseling she no longer wants to got to school (she is only 7) now here I am at my worst and that darn school princaple decides she is goning to confront me because I went to the main office to find the # for the counsler claiming that I was going over her head makeing all kinds of fuss (and in front of Tori) now Tori is afraid really afraid I want to go back and knock her out but have to control myself I am at a loss as what to do I have this motto mess with me ok but dont mes with my kids ya know how do I get this woman to understand this isnt a power play if it were I d have made complaints long ago now I am thinking war I know I need to calm down but aghhhhh I am soooooo angry

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[> Theresa -- Susie, 09:49:14 05/01/02 Wed (bgp425870bgs.union01.nj.comcast.net/68.36.197.75)

Document all of this babe. Don't forget to write it down. I thought you were going to go privately for a counselor? Did something change?


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[> [> No change But -- theresa, 10:12:04 05/01/02 Wed (ppp54.mtholly.eticomm.net/208.9.146.54)

I figure the school counsler would be able to help her with the school issues cant hurt to have some one there to help get her thru the tuff times at school beside it takes a month to get into the private dr office I ve just call them to ask for an emergant visit before I loose my mind
but my problem is this woman figures that she has a right to accuse me of items that are untrue I cant tell you how angry that makes me but even more so she did this in front of Tori I am in tears with anger I am shaking I saw the hurt and fear in Tori's eyes before I left my next step is to tell this woman that she is not to speak to Tori unless I am present I have lost trust in this school there have been many problems minor mostly but today push me over the edge I try to over look again and agin now I just want to get mad I know that I am letting the rage in me get the better of me and I will calm down but I am hurting inside right now so much so I am over loading I am hopeing venting here I will lose the anger faster plus I need all the advice I can get on this issue I dont want to let my emotions get the better of me and do some thing dumb


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[> [> [> Stay Cool -- Susie, 11:56:54 05/01/02 Wed (bgp425870bgs.union01.nj.comcast.net/68.36.197.75)

You need to have Tori thinking that you have control over everything including your emotions. Tori will believe that it is her fault that you are upset because the issue is around her school.

Theresa, if I were you, I'd ask for a meeting with the Principal, the teacher, the lunchroom aide, and perhaps someone from the Child Study Team. I would take Bill to the meeting and a notebook. I would express my concerns over what is happening and try to enlist their help. I know the principal sounds like a jerk. But let's face it, these people have tenure and you need them on your side. Do NOT tell her she cannot speak to your daughter without you present. Teachers and administrator's stick together like doctors. Try to make them feel that you(her family) wants to work with the "team" at school to help Tori throught this rough period.

Then, if that does not work, go to the Superintendant of Schools and make a BIG fuss, but stay calm at all times when speaking to them so they can't call you an hysterical parent and blame everything on you.


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[> Re: I am soooo MAD -- Judi, 10:59:45 05/01/02 Wed (adsl-34-30-162.mia.bellsouth.net/67.34.30.162)

I am so Maadd that you and your daughter are going through this. You also need to go to the school board about this. The complete disrepect for you and your child just amazes me. The job of the school is to work with you and your daughter, not against you both.
I am sending hugs!

Judi aka judiperfume


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[> [> Thanks everyone for the advice I 'm calmer now -- Theresa, 15:00:18 05/01/02 Wed (ppp55.mtholly.eticomm.net/208.9.146.55)

I know when I am calm I think much clearer and have decided to 1 speak to the princaple 2 get the counsler (private) to see Tori much sooner 3 have a meeting with Bill and my self and all those involved with Tori and her well being I know I tend to spout off when angry thankfully I did not loose control at school just when I got home I thank you all for being here letting me go on often my anger takes over but thankfully today I was able to maintain. I am still bothered by the fact that this woman would make an issue of my trying to contact the school counsler myself and seeking out the # but mostly bothered that she would make issue of this in front of Tori
I am much calmer now feeling better and will have Bill make the appts and do most of the talking lol he tend to stay calmer....
but again many thanks venting here tends to help


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[> I agree with their advice...and if all else fails I've gotten great results with a two by four up side the head....heh heh - good luck Theresa. -- terry, 14:47:35 05/01/02 Wed (NoHost/66.84.232.172)


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