Date Posted:05:09:15 11/13/11 Sun Author:Cheri (optimistic) Subject: Re: Adoptee looking for birth parents In reply to:
's message, "Adoptee looking for birth parents" on 15:15:29 09/26/11 Mon
>hello, my name is Michael and I was born in February
>1982 in Fort Smith, Arkansas. I was born at Saint
>Edwards Mercy Hospital in February of 1982.. and was
>pretty much immediately adopted by a women who just
>happened to work for the Department of Human Services.
> She didn't work in the adoption field.. she worked in
>the Food Stamp Fraud division.
>I'm at that age in my life.. almost 30 now.. and I've
>recently had this weird feeling in my stomach that's
>been telling me that I really need to find out who I
>really am.. so I can go on with my life. I think
>about it almost every single day now.. and I really
>want to know who they are or were.. so I can find out
>who I am. I mean, we only get this one life so they
>say.... and if that's the case, then I really think I
>too deserve to know who I really am. I think I should
>get the chance to find out where I came from and know
>my own family history. Not only my family history..
>but also find out if I inherited any medical problems
>that I should be cautious of in my future.
>My birth mother tells me that I have no medical issues
>to worry about.. but that's easy for her to say you
>know? Because its not her.. its me that's wanting and
>needing to know this information.
>If my birth parents didn't want any contact with me..
>or didn't want me finding them in the future, well..
>then I respect that. I mean, it sucks.. but at the
>same time, I respect their decision. But, on the
>other hand.. I sure would appreciate just being able
>to know where I came from at least, you know?!? I
>mean, we're all given this one life to live..
>shouldn't I get the opportunity to know where I came
>It's hard for people that weren't adopted to
>understand.. to understand the emptiness that we
>adoptees feel, especially as we get older. It's like
>there's a missing piece of me out there.. and I can't
>go on with my life until I find that missing piece.
>And now I'm a grown ass man in tears, ugggghh.
>Anyhow, mom.. dad.. if your out there, I just want you
>to know that I'm not mad at you guys for putting me up
>for adoption. Just know that I'm not mad nor do I
>have hardly any resentment for the decisions you guys
>had to make at that time. I still don't know the
>reason why you guys had to put me up for adoption, but
>I'm sure you had your reasons.. and I understand that.
> Know that I do love you guys.. and if you ever find
>this, and know its me.. just know that I love you and
>I sure would like to find out where I came from..
>remember, we all have only one life to live or so they
>say.. don't I deserve at least to know where I came
>from?? Don't I at least deserve to know my mother and
>fathers names?? I think I do.. and that's why I'm
>searching for you guys.