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Date Posted: 02:19:14 10/19/04 Tue
Author: Chris
Subject: Re: freedom to chose --NOT
In reply to: Former Member 's message, "freedom to chose --NOT" on 22:36:37 10/18/04 Mon

I say long because relatively speaking 1 year engagement was long compared to one -two weeks engagement.

I also had a 1 year engagenement, but we lived in different countries. One time she was allowed to visit my country (for a "conference" of course). She came with her leader when the conference started. When we started to talk with each other, they told us to not speak with each other or sit close to each other so "others would not become jelaous of us." We did so, believing that after the conference we would have an opportunity to speak. But immediately after the conference, the leader tried to take her with him to a different town. Only in the last month we lived in the same town and were allowed to spend some time with each other. But during that month, as we later found out, we were under strict observation. If we would make any "mistake", the engagement would be immediately canceled. I made such a mistake by not obeying my leader absolutely at one occation. Then he immediately told her to pack her things and go with him to another town. Only there he revealed her that I had become "unspiritual" and the marriage was canceled. She was kept in that town in the house of a UBF Korean, it was like a kidnapping. I was not told where she was, they lied to me they did not know. I think our engagement was more like a horror trip than a romance. Especially that kidnapping had traumatized us. We always had the feeling that it was not our marriage, but a marriage completely controlled by others.

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Re: freedom to chose --NOT -- Joe, 09:50:49 10/19/04 Tue