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Date Posted: 08:42:12 07/03/02 Wed
Author: Betsy
Subject: Languaging

Hello all

Here's something about me.... I like to share, and I like to start discussion. I will always come from a place of "I" as I can only speak for me...... Here is some of MY thoughts on my health...

One of the things I have learned for myself over the last year is to look at my language and self talk. What I think I am - then "I am".

I am not using words such as "struggle" or "fight" around my body image any more. I am seeing myself as healthy (right now), choosing my life style.... a healthy life style. Using "I am healthy" as my motto. What do "healthy" people do? Looking around at examples, healthy people choose foods that are not processed. Healthy people have an active lifestlye daily. Healthy people don't eat fried foods, sugar or fat. Healthy people embrace life, think of themselves as whole and complete. Healthy people Like themselves. So I choose that!

If I set myself up to "Struggle" that is the results that I will have "I will struggle" - as my mind is focused on the "reality" I create with my words - and my brain will loop around how "hard" this is, and how much of a "struggle" I have - as that is what I am thinking about.

Instead I choose to set myself up "be" healthy. Think of me as healthy, happy, balanced. Catch my self talk and change it. To live healthy.... and it's a matter of choices. I tend to use the phrase "what would love do now" --- I love myself, my body (this life) - then a loving thing would be to make healthier choices so I live a long life (just as I desire that my friends and family stay healthy too).

I started out thinking about a family memeber I Love very much (my father)..... How I want him to be alive and healthy for a long time. He is a juvinelle diabetic, and takes really good care of himself. No sugars at all, Lower carbs, never eats pasta or potatoes. Has not seen a dessert in over 50 years. And his check up say's for a man in his 70's he is as healthy as a man in his 40's! It's how he chooses to live his life. He eats right, and exersises daily. He won't put in anything that would harm his body (or his blood sugar). As his daughter I appreciate that he is choosing to live....... Then I changed that around to me - his feelings for me.... that he also chooses that I be around for a long time - - and so do I. That means my life style choices around food and exersise have to change "forever".... as I create a new relationship with food and activities.

Sure I have the "excuses" --- born with Bad knees that limits my activities..... emotional eating when I'm bored or sad or anxious.... however I'm acknowledging that they are just that excuses.... to make me feel better (and that's ok) by acknowledging it and being gentle with myself - I'm stopping that pattern of behaviour as well.

Those are my thoughts of the day. I figure I've sparked some discussion! (which is my goal).

Have a great Wednesday
Betsy

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[> That is a good Motto..... The way I inturprate things... -- Ivy, 09:47:25 07/03/02 Wed

I inturprate things by the moment.... I live for the now... and the rush I get from it is Refreshing...

I have troubles with Critisium vurses Reality... For instance... If I tell myself That I am really not so large... and that I COULD be a size 24.... and that I COULD weigh over 200lbs... But I don't.... If I take this optomistic view, I am not being harsh on myself... I am just keeping a positive attitude... BUT am I doing more harm then good... I think maybe so.... Because once I say to myself "I am not THAT large." I become relaxed and Slack with my diet and excercise....

If I take a view of How horribly large and ugly I am it will only further depress me.... I will start feeling sorry for myself and then suclude myself from diet and excercise all together...

So either Optimism and pessimism both hinder my progress greatly...

I usually look at my day from day to day.... Useing a great deal of sceptism with all my feelings.... If I feel tired and warn out.. I try to say..."am I really feeling tired and warn out??? or is it just Lazyness" By asking myself that retorical question I give myself both perspectives without committing to either one.

I try to use a generially Upbeat attitude witout being TOO overly optimistic in nature.... I try to be honest with myself by saying "I didn't do as well today as I would have liked... But I can still do well tomorrow."

I like to keep all my doors open... I never close myself into a situation without haveing an exit....
Thats where I come from... I like your generally discussional posts... I think by posting this we can get everyone better aquainted with eachother... and maybe then they can feel better about offering some more support !! :) thanks for the post It was fun!!

Semper fi,
Ivy


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