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Date Posted: 17:19:55 08/22/02 Thu
Author: No name
Subject: Well...

I am always amazed at some of the logic (or lack of it) in pageants. A friend just emailed me and laughingly asked how I "know" all the judges at pageants where my daughter competes (and at 20 some pageants in the last year - that is a lot of judges!) She and I joked back and forth about it for a while (since we both thought it was crazy enough to be funny) but then I realized something that maybe a lot of people don't think of.... It is not unusual to know judges at pageants - especially at small prelims! I mean let's face it - pageant parents, fellow directors etc. often judge at pageants and if you compete widely enough, you will run into the same people sooner or later. I (and you)have been to pageants where at least one of the judges "knew" every contestant there. So what is the point of this post? Well, next time you look up and see "little Debbie's" mom judging your daughter, you might think back as to how you treated them the last time your children competed together? Did you congratulate them, treat them respectfully and nicely or did you shun them, bash them, and treat them rudely? If it was a director, did you thank them for the pageant and their hard work or did you run out the door screaming and swearing? Did you respectfully approach the judges and sincerely consider their comments or did you blast them angrily for not choosing your child? Now I want to believe that judges will be impartial and judge the child they see that day but even psychologists know of the "halo effect" - your perceptions of someone are colored by your previous expectations of them. So pageant parents (and children) would probably do well to realize that they and others will sometimes look up at a pageant and realize that they know a judge - and keep that in mind as they compete in all pageants. Heck, I am frequently asked to judge so that just shows you never know who you will see on the other side of the table!!!

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[> Bottom line -- No name, 07:47:11 08/23/02 Fri

I think the moral of this story is that you should treat everyone nicely!

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[> [> Re: Bottom line -- No name, 17:45:07 09/11/02 Wed

I Agree with you about the moral of this story. Treat others as you would like to be treated!

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