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Date Posted: 00:00:05 03/18/10 Thu
Author: SS
Subject: ******************MarenInterview*****************

1) Shifting From Fear to Curiosity (I've probably been taking that to the extreme lately in many minds! LOL!)
2) Looking For Silver Linings in Every Setback (One example I could state is how I turned to modeling, where it began when my digital camera was stolen, and where I could easily have been angry or depressed I didn't have it anymore, instead I approached the moment consciously and said "Well, when you can't be a photographer, why not be a model?" =)
3) Gratitude, Gratitude, GRATITUDE!!! (I'd like to talk about how I'm actually most grateful for my most adverse, heartaching moments in my life, and how I believe they have shaped me as the unique, capable individual I am today! ^__^ )
4) Eliminating “Should” From My Vocabulary and Mind (It never did me any good living by how things SHOULD be, because I've found how I want to live is starkly at odds with how we are expected to live. The definitive word to live by, I believe, is AM. I AM how I live, and we should live as we ARE! ^__^
5) Moving From Judgment to Observation (Though I've always been open-minded in the views of my loved ones, I nonetheless realized I was becoming increasingly judgmental at one point a few years ago when I was watching television compulsively, including political coverage, and while I felt some of my views were justified regarding the war in Iraq being wrong and such, I still felt unhappy with myself that I was sounding more forceful and letting ego get in the way of discussion/debate. Then I realized how many shows there are on television that encourage us to be more fiercely judgmental ("What Not To Wear", judging voices on "American Idol", most "reality television", stereotypes on Comedy Central shows, etc.) and that's when I decided to stop watching television as a routine pastime and to instead turn to volunteering and other social activities/events that encourage the expansion of one's mind and self. I don't want to be a "judge of character", I want to be a listener! =)
6) Doing Whatever Really Works For Me, Regardless If I Think It Is "Normal" Or "Acceptable" Or Not (In relation to my fifth choice, I've found living under a fiercely overprotective home environment that, while I am blessed to have most loving, nurturing parents, I nonetheless have felt sad in that they tend to be rather judgmental about beliefs systems and attitudes that don't reflect their own standards or dogma, with sexual preference, the way one dresses, one's choice of profession, etc. being a few examples. I simply believe our preferences and destinies are as multifarous as snowflake designs: no two are the same............and as long as one's own set of rules doesn't promote self-harm and/or harm to others whether physically or through promoting prejudice, I am happy for that person and accept him/her for who he/she is, because he/she is being true to him/herself! =)
7) Saying "Yes!" To What I Want, Setting Intentions & Letting Go of Expectations (Growing up, I was in a much less conscious place because, particularly in coping with my diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome and repeatedly being victimized by peer pressure and perceptions due to that, I was informed much more of what I could NOT do and what I was NOT than what I CAN do and what I AM. Thus, I felt powerless and lived in a state of ennui. It was when I became tired of hearing what autistic individuals could NOT accomplish, and rejecting those false stereotypes, that I was determined to transcend these barriers and live the life I dream..........guided by the mantra of eschewing expectations and instead pulsating towards possibility! =)
8) Assume the Best, Not the Worst (Recently, the main source of misunderstanding between my parents and I are rooted in our differing mindsets toward trust in the wider world. My parents come from a generation following the Baby Boomers where, in their view, they sensed disorder, chaos and a lack of security and assurance which they felt left the youth/children vulnerable and without guiding individuals in their lives. Thus, they emerged as part of a more prudent, "socially conservative" (I quote the term because I'm not a fan of labels in that I believe they don't justice of our individual beauty), security-minded and overprotective generation. It is for that reason I am not the least upset or angry with them. Nonetheless, they find it difficult to trust anyone to the point they never engage in social activity and have a compulsive habit of staying home in front of the television set, which as much as I respect their life choice, as a natural optimist, I WANT to invest trust in the world, even when I'm consciously aware I may appear naive in the eyes of many, because I believe between being naive and being withdrawn, naive is a much more beautiful thing to be because at least you feel free and are not weighed down by fear.)
9) Finding Community Around Anything I Love (I recognized this when I used to enjoy playing "dance Dance Revolution" in my home basement..........yet felt it would be even more exciting if I were to dance in the company of others who shared my interest. Robert Putnam's concept of "social capital" speaks straight to my heart on this point, and I've been aspiring since to invest in social capital around everything I love to do! =)
10) Keeping a Journal And Talking to Others When I Need to Get Things Off My Chest (What I think is often overlooked is the fact there is a difference between being sad and being unhappy. I believe joy and sorrow are two sides of the same coin and without one we can't have the other. I believe naturally, because my self-awakening only began recently, that I'm still in the process of discovering so much and so it is inevitable I'll have moments where I feel sad or desire "something more" or feel as though things are not progressing quite as fast as I'd like. In the past, when I felt that way, I would keep my tears and hemorrhaging heart all strait-jacketed deep inside of me and wouldn't share what was on my mind to anyone for the fear of being hurt again or misunderstood. Then, when I read my full astrological profile and realized the main challenge for a Scorpio native is being compulsively secretive and withdrawn from others and being distrusting, that I was dwelling in this rut and I had to break free from it and embrace my inner-Phoenix and transform myself, to live outside of myself. Now, whenever I realize the truth, or feel something is distressing me, I talk to a friend about it. And I've found it has made all the difference of feeling appreciated and understood! ^__^

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