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Date Posted: 03/18/09 6:23pm
In reply to:
Tracy
's message, "Changed My Mind" on 03/17/09 12:31am
Oh, Tracy, I am so sorry you are experiencing this! FIrst of all, you already know you are carrying a child. Having an abortion will make it much more difficult to mother them, or could even kill you. Don't even THINK about it! As for bonding, hey, don't worry! You WILL bond. Breastfeed, and it's guaranteed. Why are you experiencing such fears? Any idea? Please know that hormones often do this to a woman in the first trimester, so it could be hormonal. Take one day at a time.
I'll tell you this. We raised SEVEN children, and I am fiercely bonded to EACH of them. Two of them are adopted. It didn't matter. In fact, I breastfed both of them. One of them had a problem with failure to thrive, and the adoption wasn't complete, so we actually made plans that if they tried to take him away from us, we would RUN. That's how serious it was to us. The truth is, a woman's hormones help with that bonding. In fact, breastfeeding hormones help. Hormones generated by the sensation of birth help. And the shift of hormones later in the pregnancy help. I can't think of a single woman who has come to us for help who has NOT experienced bonding, in spite of how much they didn't want to be pregnant in the first place.
Have courage. Courage isn't about not being afraid. Courage is about doing what you need to do in spite of your fear. This baby is depending on you for your protection, and you are the only person in the world who CAN protect him or her. Please protect your baby. Don't harm your baby, and please don't harm yourself. Abortion is dangerous. And abortion is forever. You can't take it back.
Hugs,
Pat
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