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Subject: i really need advice
Author: melissa (sad and confused)	[ Next Thread \| Previous Thread \| Next Message \| Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06/18/09 5:39pm I am 14 years old. i live in new zealand and i am pregnant. i dont know whether to get an abortion or not. HELP!????!!! [ Next Thread \| Previous Thread \| Next Message \| Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: i really need advice

Author:
Shellie
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Date Posted: 06/19/09 10:14pm

Hi Melissa,

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this at such a young age. This is a very important decision that will be with you for the rest of your life. I hope that you choose life because I've seen the pain of many who choose to abort when they were young. Many times it was the parents that really made the decision, not the mother (here's a recent post just like that: http://voy.com/70175/9718.html. And these girls who aborted because their parents wanted them to, have to live with the guilt of that choice.

There is a life inside of you right at this moment. His/her eye color, height, sex, has already been determined. Having an abortion will end this life, and with that may come years of pain, guilt, and regret. I hope that you will choose life.

Have you broken the news to your parents? How do you think an abortion would make you feel?

I'd love to offer some thoughts and advice, so please do keep us upadated.

Prayers and hugs,

Shellie

[> Subject: Re: i really need advice

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 06/19/09 10:31pm

Hi, Melissa,

I am very glad you came. Let me ask you a question or two. Are you thinking of having an abortion to hide your pregnancy from your parents?

If that is the case, please be aware that abortion can do grave harm to your body, and then they will find out that you were pregnant AND you had an abortion. They will also probably have to pay for your medical care.

Do you think your parents will try to force you to have an abortion?

You should talk to a crisis pregnancy organization. They can help you with these decisions, and with the problems you face, including dealing with your parents.

To find one in New Zealand, go here:

www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Choose New Zealand from the country dropdown list. There are 28 organizations on two pages. You can click on the "details" button to get phone numbers and addresses.

We will be here for you; please feel free to come and talk to us any time. Don't let anybody tell you abortion is safe. It's not. It can take your life. It doesn't matter what kind of abortion a woman gets. They're all dangerous.

You deserve better. We love you and will pray for you. Please let us know how you do.

Hugs,
Pat