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Subject: Re: not sure how to handle this

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Date Posted: 11/ 3/07 12:27pm
In reply to: Jackson 's message, "Re: not sure how to handle this" on 11/ 3/07 9:47am

I talked to a couple of my friends and I told my mom right away. I thought that if something happened to me or Cindy it would be good for my family to know what our situation is. I am hesitant to tell anyone else though. Same reasons as you. If I start telling people then it is real and I am not sure that I want to explain to everyone what the plans are. If you have people you trust I would tell them. Both of my buddies were amazingly supportive.

I have a question though. Cindy has been all over the place with her emotions as have I. Last night we got into a heated conversation around how I was going to address things with the company I work for (I am a VP and everything you do is public and judged.) Anyway I said that I was not sure that I wanted to tell them about the marriage and incoming baby and she got sooo mad. I tried to calm her down but it just escalated into a fight. Her last words to me were "if you are ashamed of me and this situation we can just get it terminated." She apoligized this morning but it was a pretty sobering moment. How do I handle stuff like this? I want to be supportive, but I want a partner to help me with some of decisions I have to make too?! Is that unfair? And as a side note both of our parents have pretty much both said in a passive aggressive manner that marriage before this child is born is important. Another stressful addition to an already complex situation. I feel completely, entirely overwhelmed.

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