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Subject: Re: Please help me I feel lost and alone

Author:
Pat

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Date Posted: 09/10/08 2:58am
In reply to: Zofia 's message, "Please help me I feel lost and alone" on 09/ 4/08 7:58am

Hi, Zofia,

I'm sorry I didn't know about your message sooner, and I hope that this message reaches you in time.

It's too bad you stayed with this man as long as you did, but that's water under the bridge. You are now carrying an innocent baby: YOUR baby. Your baby is depending on you for your protection. He or she doesn't deserve a violent death because of your ex's behavior. To do that would simply extend his violence against you to your child. That doesn't make any sense.

Just walk out of his life as you are doing. There are ways to protect yourself from him harassing you about having contact with your child.

Please be aware that "safe sex" isn't. There are failure rates with every birth control method. I don't understand why a woman would have sex with a man who abuses her. On the other hand, women bond with the men they have sex with, so your willingness to yield is not surprising. Just don't let him have this final triumph over your life. You deserve better. You deserve a man who will cherish you both, and not abuse you.

You obviously don't want an abortion. For that reason, you shouldn't have one! Don't let the situation coerce you.

Please visit a crisis pregnancy agency. You can find one in your area by going here:

www.pregnancycenters.org

Good luck with this. Please come back and let us know how you are doing. You will be in my prayers.

Hugs,
Pat

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[> Subject: Re: Please help me I feel lost and alone

Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 09/19/08 2:54pm

Zofia,

I hope this message isn't too late for you. I agree with Pat, this baby is YOUR baby. You clearly don't want to have an abortion. I know you fear your parents won't want anything to do with you. But, the reality is, they might be angry at first, but once they realize this is their grandchild, they'll likely come around (almost all do.)

Mutiple abortions do create problems for your body. (Sometimes a single abortion can do so, but the risk definitely increases the more you have.)

Let us know how you're doing. I'll say a prayer for you.

Sharon